everymoment.has.it - WingBliss

It has been 3 years

2011-03-05T15:18:00.002+08:00

It has been 3 years since I shifted to wordpress.

I have changed & went through a lot.

If you want to catch me, catch me on http://grateful2u.wordpress.com instead.

Thank you.

everymoment.has.it 最终章 The final

2009-02-12T23:56:00.005+08:00

男人可以很脆弱但世人决不容忍我这样的男人

我以为我可以欺骗全天下的人，能够不骗自己，但其实我被自己骗了的很可悲，很狼狈。
我向往那种宁静的生活方式，沉默幕后工作，无人晓得。虽然那不是我，因为我很想站在世界的舞台中间，但我不能够。也许这样我至少能够得到心灵的安宁。

我没有智慧，所以觉的喜欢别人是很疲劳很痛苦的一件事，希望被人喜欢认可，更更更痛苦，因为我是很自私。

我很自知自明，这世界多我不多一个，少我不少一个。

我的人生目的依然是解脱痛苦。我已不敢说希望帮别人解脱痛苦，带给别人快乐，直到我往生净土。
因为我很清楚，世人不需要我，但弥陀绝对不会舍弃我。

everymoment.has.it 最终章

everything conditional is impermanent...
This shall be the last of everymoment.has.it
I am(want to be) liberated, I wrote this blog because I care too much what people think of me... if I don't, I would have kept a personal diary...

I have been a fool, thinking I can cheat the whole world.

It is no longer important. I love to stand on stage, but a backstage kind of life would suit me better.... althought it is not me.... but it bring me more peace, bliss & ease.....

I no longer dream of bringing others joy or alleviate their pain. This world is no different with or without me...

Man like me can be very brittle, but this world do not tolerate such a man... but I am very certain, liberation from pain is my goal and Amitabha Buddha will NEVER forsaken me.

爱你是一种罪过

2009-02-12T21:33:00.002+08:00

若你现在问我世间最苦的是什么，我会说是想要奉承与讨好别人。
希望别人（尤其异性）会接受与接纳我。

喜欢一个人好像是最过，最嗔恨那种感觉。
最嗔恨被别人同情。最嗔恨脆弱。
最嗔恨为了让别人接受（施舍）依照别人的标准，改变自己而失去了自己。

a trip to the library

2009-02-09T09:45:00.001+08:00

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心相印

2009-01-25T09:09:00.001+08:00

Click here to view this post in English.

《日本小学生30人31脚全国大赛》
另一个相关视频

以上画面让我想起了SBM的年轻朋友在SCD 08的情景。
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昨晚观看了甄子丹饰演的《叶问》，今早又收看了日本全国性大型集体比赛《日本小学生30人31脚全国大赛》(Shōgakusei Taikō 30 nin 31 kyaku)，心里有些小感触。意识到人与人之间的默契，心相印，因爱护，谅解和尊重而所能创造出言语不能表达的奇迹。

在观看《日本小学生30人31脚全国大赛》的时候我的眼睛时不时是湿的。看见这些小朋友，不分高矮,性别,双脚踝互绑，却能很有默契的并肩快跑。一起喝彩一起落泪。比赛的意义远大于比赛的结果。

叶问在剧中也有些令人记忆深刻的台词如下：
"这世界上没有怕老婆的男人，只有尊重老婆的男人"
“武术，虽然是一种武装的力量。但是我们中国的武术，却包涵了儒家的道德精神,武德,以德为仁,推己及人。这是你们日本人永远不会明白的道理,因为你们滥用武力,将它变成暴力,用来欺压别人。所以你们日本人不配学我们中国的武术。”

不提战争的事，日本侵略中国也已经过了六十四年。剧中的叶问是指当时侵略与杀害无辜的日本军人。

相关网页:
http://hi.baidu.com/ototing/blog/item/2f337da8ec20b4b6ca130c3e.html

-WingBliss

Heart to Heart

2009-01-25T09:08:00.000+08:00

请点此阅读中文版

(Shōgakusei Taikō 30 nin 31 kyaku - 31 Legged Race)
Alternate video

The above picture reminds me of the youth at SMB during SCD 08

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Tears filled my eyes when I caught a video of Asahi aired 2008 edition of the “National Elementary School Students’ 50m 31-legged Race by 30-children”

If you like to catch a sample of the video, click on the links above. It is touching to see the group of 30 children of different height and sex, could actually be so united. Sharing both laughter and tears in their journey.

Running with both legs tied to each other require both great trust and understanding of one another. Something words cannot easily describe. Something that teaches us that only with heart to heart understanding, trust and cooperation, that we can reach greater height and perform miracles.

I also caught Donnie Yen - IP Man (pronounced as Mun) just last night, that deals with human and human interpersonal touch and understanding. About using your powers to help(assist) other.

Here are some quotes loosely translated.

"no man is scared of his wife, only respect for his wife"

"这世界上没有怕老婆的男人，只有尊重老婆的男人"

"Although Martial Arts (self defence) is a form of armament (empowerment/power), but in Chinese Martial Arts you find Confucianism influences upon its inception. Morality, Discipline, Compassion. One who is put in the position of another. To imagine oneself in another's position and understanding him(her).... but you(the Japanese WWII soldiers) have misused this power and turn it into violence, using it to bully and suppress others (the innocent).

“武术，虽然是一种武装的力量。但是我们中国的武术，却包涵了儒家的道德精神,武德,以德为仁,推己及人。这是你们日本人永远不会明白的道理,因为你们滥用武力,将它变成暴力,用来欺压别人。"

- WingBliss

2009 is going to be a great year!

2009-01-11T23:32:00.005+08:00

2008 was good (grateful)
2009 is going to be even better why?

Cos I am able to meet cool people just like yourself, who have clearly shown me how life can be... how life could be lived to the fullest.

"One of the greatest gift of life is the gift to be able to listen and see the world through another person's ears and eyes."

"one can be contented with just a dollar, but one cannot be without hope..."

wingbliss

Inspiration from Farm Frenzy. A lesson of life.

2009-01-11T19:55:00.005+08:00

Farm Frenzy is a nice little game I picked up recently, but it really taught me many things. More than you can imagine.

http://www.gamersinfo.net/articles/2209-farm-frenzy

1. Success is a team work, an organizational effort. The whole is greater than the sum of the parts. Everyone is important.
2. It is about balance
3. Sometimes you just can't save, especially on your "workers" and the tools that support them.
4. Everything has a price (before & after)
5. Know your the weakest "link"
6. Be grateful to those that have serve you, although they may be as less value
7. Sometimes you just have to let go
8. I still have to return what I have owned, so what is the ultimate purpose (of life)?

In farm frenzy, you have targets and "datelines" (time) to meet. You started off with ducks, which will lay eyes. As you progress, the requirements become higher, turning eggs into powder and turning powder into cupcakes. At any point, you can sell your eggs, powder and cupcakes to earn the cash required for your operation. Later part of the game, if you have the required amount of cash, you can buy sheep who will produce wool which could be turn to spindle. Cows produce milk, etc. At every point, you have to keep feeding your animals so they will not starve to death.

You can also upgrade your building (storage and bakery, etc) and the truck that send your items to the market.

1. Why is success a teamwork? Imagine having a super fast bakery but no enough eggs, or having more than enough eggs, more than enough powder, but a slow factory. Everyone is important.

2. It is about balance, if we only have so limited amount of resources. How can we upgrade? Yet if we do not upgrade, how can we improve? Nevertheless if we upgrade to fast, we will end up in debt or have a financial crisis. Increasing the amount of resources at the right time.

3. That brings us to the next point, sometimes we just can't save. Spend on your "workers" and the tools that support them, they are your real assets, not just your buildings.

4. Everything has a price to pay, so make the right decision, yes, a cow produce more, so is its maintenance and price.

5. If success is a teamwork, know your weakest "link" and improve on it. Know your good and bad habits.

6. At one point, your ducks may no longer be as profitable as a cow, which can pay you a 100 times more yet be grateful of the times the ducks have serve you well, don't SLAUGHTER them! They can pay for their existence.

7. Then again, sometimes you just have to "let go", if "money" is your concern. That is doing BIG business, e.g. all cows....

8. End of the "day" (e.g stage,game...) I still have to "loose" everything, be it go to the next stage or even quit the game, so what if I have "half a million"

Okay... lets not think too far about life after death...
... isn't life about having fun (being happy) and learning (progress). Loving and caring for those around us and making them feel loved so we all can have a better time (suffer lesser)? I mean the world is already a tough place to be in... why not make it a "less complicated" so we all can progress.

情爱重缚

2009-01-01T21:19:00.001+08:00

Please note this is NOT written by me just happen to see this on another website cos can be quite a sensitive topic ...

http://www.jiexieyin.org/ShowArticle.asp?ArticleID=216

情爱重缚
［作者：宗川来自：新艺在线点击数：29010 文章录入：pingchuan ］

今年我请到了益西彭措堪布的《甘露妙法》九，内有《警世钟》一文，我在网上查找，好象还没有，就录入了其中第四部分——《情爱重缚》。下面就是该文：

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四情爱重缚

益西彭措堪布

如果说死亡是这个世间人们最恐惧的事，那么最悦意不过的事莫过于情爱，情爱作为文艺作品和影视“永不衰落”的话题而为世人所津津乐道。
人们用各种各样的语言、诗篇来赞美它，用音乐、戏剧来表现它。缺少了它，人生好象暗淡无光；而有了它，再艰苦再沉闷的生活似乎也变得绚丽多彩、生气勃勃。这个世间，有多少人将人生的幸福寄托于它，有些人甚至将它视为人生唯一的幸福，缺少了它，便觉得是此生最大的遗憾。
文学作品中所描写的情爱，成了人们生活追求的模式，人们心中充满了种种幻想和憧憬。由于文学作品潜移默化的作用，人们总觉得只有象文学作品中那跌宕起伏的情节、缠绵悱恻的心理波澜下的生活才是有意义的生活。人们渴望能过着如书卷中所描写的那样多姿多彩的生活，渴望能过着“不平凡”的生活，认为如此生活才不枉度一生。
在影视中由声光色彩的渲染，以曲折的情节、戏剧化的场面撩拨着人们本来就浮躁不安的心，这些浪漫的情节使人如痴如醉，欲身处其境而后已。人们认为在日益枯竭的生活中，只有情爱的出现，生活才会有亮点，人们渴望着这种奇缘的巧遇，人们认为珍视情爱是社会文明进步的表现。
几乎所有的文艺作品舆论都在宣扬情爱的伟大。无数的文艺作品都持这么一种观点：男女之间的情爱是人生最美好、最值得追求的东西。受其影响，人们往往会把爱情高举至第一位，用种种理由为之辩护。谁要与这种时代的风气相抵触，则为冒天下之大不韪，甚至会被认为是居心不良的顽固不化者。
情爱如是被几近疯狂地美化、鼓吹，以至于到了当代社会，情爱更加弥漫开来，以往强烈的道德制约渐渐失去了控制，人们有了更大的“随意性”。由于对情欲的渲染，受其影响，人们的道德伦理观念发生了极大的变化，人们的家庭观念日益淡薄。许多人奉行“男女好则聚，不好则散”的观念，想无拘无束于此情欲世界里“潇洒走一回”，这种将婚姻家庭、人间伦理道德视如儿戏，如飞禽走兽般的生活，这种颠倒妄为的疯狂行径，使人的理智堕落到动物的层次，最终必将酿成难言的悲剧。暂且不提反传统的新新人类、单身贵族，许多仍较传统的家庭也由于某方另有所爱而分崩离析，给下一代带来了不可弥补的伤害。
同时，由于道德的沦丧，现代情爱与婚姻绝大多数都建立在庸俗的贪欲之上，人们往往弃人格、道德修养于不顾，虚荣而又目光短浅地盯着对方的家产、权势、容貌等外在的包装，而这些外在的包装本身即具有很大的不稳定性，尤其是在现代社会。一旦这些外在的因素发生灾变或衰变，这些所谓的现代爱情、现代家庭即会宣告终结。
　　在如是种种“现代”因素的影响下，现代家庭有如狂风骇浪中的孤舟，漂泊不定，随时倾覆。
情欲的泛滥加深了灯红酒绿、糜烂腐化的生活。当今社会，许多人已经不把邪淫当一种恶行看了，他们认为只要追求到真正的情爱，一切都无所谓了。
且看今日都市里林立的夜总会、歌舞厅、按摩房、桑拿浴室，以及屡禁不止的黄色书刊、黄色影碟，有多少人在过着朝生暮死、行尸走肉般的生活？在这种肆意渲染、煽动的环境之下，情欲的吸引力、粘染力会有多大？况且这本是人最容易被吸引甚至抛弃一切而投注的地方，也是人性中最为脆弱的地方。明朝时，士子王大契问莲池大师：“弟子自看师戒杀文，遂持长斋，惟是色心炽盛，不能灭除。乞师方便教诲，使观欲乐，一如杀生之惨。”莲池大师答云：“杀是苦事，故言惨易。欲是乐事，故言惨难。今为一喻，明明安毒药于恶食之中，是杀之惨也；暗暗安毒药于美食之中，是欲杀之惨也，智者思之。”
更有甚者，在有些国家甚至达到同性恋合法化的程度，人们的口号是怎么高兴怎么来，纵欲而为，要把一切道德规则抛弃不顾，这真是一个群魔乱舞的时代！同性恋者得艾滋病，其实并非事出偶然。其本身即是一种因果报应，如此放纵不羁、颠倒人伦的行为，自然会走上痛苦的绝路。不依因果规律地肆意妄为，正是这个时代人类的悲哀之处。
情爱真的如人们所想象的那样能给真实、永恒的安乐吗？实际上，从最初的求爱、中间的结合，直到最终的分离，人们品尝的只有酸苦的情爱之果。
首先在求爱阶段，要博得女人的欢心，不付出沉重的代价是很苦难的。不用说平民百姓，即便是帝王将相也同样如此。这样的例子古今中外可谓举不胜举，远的不说，当代美国总统克林顿就是一个典型的例子。一个超级大国的总统竟然为了一个女人，不得不在全世界人民面前检讨自己的过失，以致名誉扫地，脸面丢尽，这恐怕是他本人在放纵情欲时万万想不到的吧。如是为了满足女人各方面的欲求，而造作种种恶业、奔波劳碌，来世还要饱受三恶趣的痛苦。再者，女人的心态变化无常，晴雨不定，时而欢喜时而忧，为情欲系缚的人们总是饱受折磨。
又在情欲的追逐中，人们实际上也是在满足自我的占有欲和控制欲，认为对方是“我的”，这时对方和“我”的房子、“我”的家电、“我”的车子等一样成为“我所”。这正是一种坚固的我所执的表现，实际上无论如何也不可能恒时占有对方。人们在情欲的追逐中带有强烈的以自我为中心的自私性。人们往往希望对方的所作所为按照自己的意愿而行，听自己的话，稍不合自己的心意即产生烦恼。然而每一个人都有自己的人格、自己的想法，一个人又如何能去主宰另一个人呢？
其次是结合之后的苦。
涉世不深而又充满幻想的年青人，总是把情爱看成如鲜花一般绚丽，幻想着组建一个充满情趣的家庭，然而一旦步入婚姻的圈子中，就会发现家庭生活不外乎柴米油盐，从此便不得不奔忙于各种鸡毛蒜皮的琐碎杂务。这时，人就象马匹已被套上马鞍马刺，开始驮起沉重生存负担，尤其是周而复始地单调重复着的生活，更是使人深深地失望。鲜花盛开时确是炫人眼目，但最终必然枯萎，同样，人们心中的美好幻觉也会随着时间的推移而被残酷的现实击得粉碎。这时人们往往会说“婚姻是爱情的坟墓”。这其实正是人们从虚幻的想象中走入真实生活的必然痛苦。正因为人们心中美好的幻觉仅是一种非理作意，所以它不可能长久，象肥皂泡一样终究会破灭。一切都将归于平淡，归向人生本有的痛苦烦恼。尽管现代人都不愿意去正视它，人生的痛苦不会因为人们虚幻的憧憬而转变消失，而人为什么却偏偏不尊重现实而喜好徒劳的幻想？人要获得真正的安乐只有走解脱之道。人们没有体察到情欲是痛苦之本，反而想以追求情爱的欢乐来替代人生的痛苦，这是一种不现实的想法。
人心就像秋天的云朵一般变幻无常，尤其在浮躁异常的现代社会中更是如此。一个男人对一个女人生起贪心，并组成家庭，一旦长久，先前的新鲜感和美好的感觉随着时间的迁移而荡然无存，生活开始变得枯燥乏味，甚至两个人生活在一起已经无话可谈，互相视对方都感多余累赘。于是男人就去追求另外的女人，去寻找新的刺激，或者女人去寻找另外的男人，当今时代流行的婚外恋基本上是这种情形。实际上这都是人的分别念在作祟，同样的两个人，前后之间彼此的心态竟有如此大的差别，如果情爱的本性真实存在的话，那对一个人的认识和态度为什么会有如此大的差异变化？
仔细观察当代人的内心情感世界，变幻莫测的分别念尤为明显、强烈，人们任性放纵，随意结合，朝秦暮楚，无有克制之念，人们认为放纵而为即是自由，这种自由即是人生的快乐幸福。之所以会有如是荒唐的见解、疯狂的行为，只因为自身的理智被非理作意所牵制，而陷于虚幻境中不能自拔。这种自由观痴迷地认为外面有真正能使他欢乐的异性，而实际带来的只有今生来世的难言苦果，这实为深重的烦恼业障。
最后是分离之苦。
世人向往恩恩爱爱、如胶似漆地生活，不但要今生在一起，而且还想生生世世不分离，所谓“在天愿为比翼鸟，在地愿为连理枝。”然而即使今生生活在一起，也只是因缘凑合而暂时相聚，一旦因缘尽时，必是各自随着自身的业力而漂泊不定。今世为夫妻，来世或许成为互不相识的陌路人甚至成为怨敌，所谓“夫妻本是同林鸟，大难来时各自飞。”所谓“人有悲欢离合”，本来聚散不定，这又岂是耽着情欲的凡夫所能作得了主的？印度的帕单巴尊者曾说：“夫妻无常犹如集市客。”所以对此人间聚散当以放下随缘的态度观待。
是否人人都将欲乐执为人生的最大快乐而紧执不放呢？事实上并非如此，在修习不净观的行者眼里，人间欲乐被视为粪堆、火坑和毒蛇，避之唯恐不及，而脱离爱欲染缚的成就者则见欲乐本如空花、了不可得。这是由于他们在各自相应的层次上观察照见了事物的真实本相，从而远离了普通凡夫人的非理作意。如果我们依循佛菩萨的教言来观修，同样能化热恼为清凉，使情欲之火当下止息。
以下就所贪恋对象一生的无常迁变、其身当下的不净、幻化本质善加思维，从而破除情欲烦恼的根源——非理作意。
首先对于异性，我们的目光不应只停留在她一生中短暂的光辉时刻，应该观察她一生的走向。比如观察她的出处——从父母经血腥臊交媾而来，又从污秽之处而出，从一个意识混沌、不明世事的幼童逐渐长大而成。作为凡夫，她可能除了喜爱享受生活之外，其余美德不会很多。在她容颜光耀、青春艳丽的数年中，这时人们最愿去留意、关注她，然而此后她必将走下坡路，随着容颜的衰败而慢慢地退出人们的视线。如果她结婚生育，那将忙于操劳家务，日常生活中大众面临的烦恼她也不能例外地一应俱全，烦恼将踵接而至，生活的压力使她平庸，身体也日渐臃肿、肤无光泽。到了老年的时候，则形容枯槁有如一株焦木，这时病魔和精力衰竭将笼罩着她，老眼昏花，感到事事都无能为力，一旦被死魔攫住就再也难以逃脱而在茫然无奈中死去。在家中停放几天，再往火葬场的钢铁炉里一放，即刻灰飞烟灭，化为一堆灰烬。往日的身形连一个影子都找不到了。难道这个曾经容颜姝丽、令人心荡魂销的美女不是和梦幻泡影无二无别吗？再多多回忆一个女人一生的痛苦艰辛，则同情心悲悯心亦会油然而生。
再思维这个娇媚姝丽的身体死时会是多么令人生畏，颜色逐渐变成青瘀，身体膨胀腐烂，一块块化为脓水，然后蛆虫从腐血中爬出，时间长了便成一堆白骨，再经过长年的风华，一切都将荡然无存。一个生命不论她生前多么风光，最后的结局皆是如此。
所以，眼光不能只停留在现前的绚丽一刻，要把时间拉长，观想一个人一生的整个过程，把整个过程连起来观察思考，再炽热的欲念也会变得索然无味。
所以我们不应该被世间的愚痴粉饰所蒙骗，随顺世间的矫揉粉饰永远也见不到真实面目，不应躲避而应面对真实的情景。
以下再次观察所贪对象的本质。
比如星级宾馆的厕所，灯光辉煌，里面还洒上高级香水，点上浓香，摆放着各种鲜花且有侍应生站着服务，然而不论如何装扮修饰，都改变不了其藏污纳垢的本质。同样，一个女人无论用什么饰物、化妆品、香水来打扮自己，无论如何花枝招展，也都改变不了其为活动厕所的本质。在身体里头包裹着的仍然是污秽的脓血屎尿，更何况其相续中尚有无边的贪嗔痴等五毒。这里里外外何有可贪之处？
有关人体的常识告诉我们：贪恋的对境本是三十六种不净物堆聚而成。三十六种不净物是：毛、发、爪、齿、薄皮、厚皮、筋、肉、骨髓、脾、肾、心、肝、肺、小肠、大肠、胃、胞、屎、尿、垢、汗、涕、泪、唾、脓、血、黄、白、痰、阴、肪、脂、脑、膜。所谓的美妙身躯就是由此而来，三十六种不净物堆聚而拼凑成一个活动身躯。除此之外，再也没有其余可称为身体的了。
我们再略述关于不净观方面的教言（详见《观住轮番净心法导修歧路灯》）。首先历历明观贪执难舍的有情身体，以文殊智慧宝剑从右眼处剖开表皮，将它撕下来，随着表皮的撕裂，随之汩汩鲜血奔溢而出，染红了面部及身体，皮扒光后，剩下一具血肉模糊的身形，接着自上而下割剔身肉，逐渐露出颈骨、锁骨、胸骨、手臂骨、胯骨、腿骨、脚骨，此时血肉狼藉，撒落四处，面前站立一副青白色的骨架，又五脏六腑、胃液、浓痰、胆汁、屎、尿一并涌出，臭气熏天，流布满地。
这样清晰观想之后，就能清楚地了知人体实为一堆不净物，另外，人的九窍排出的也全是不净物，所以这个躯体不用到死后，现在即是活动厕所。了知此理，如何会生起拥抱亲近之心？如何会与之如胶似漆、缠绵不舍呢？然而就是这样一堆不净物，经过分别心非理作意的加工之后，就变成了悦意可贪恋的对象。而作深刻细致全面的观察，可以使我们看清它的本来面目。
如果我们再进一步深入观察下去，这三十六种不净物，每一种又归于五大，都可分析至微尘，最后析为空无，这样经过分析观察，所得到的是谁也无法否定的事实 ——人体如空花水月。然而人们以非理作意却将此泡影一般的身躯观想为美妙的身躯，认为与此“美妙”身躯相处是人生的快乐所在。人们以非理作意再三生起猛烈串习，不加抑制反而火上添油，这样相续中的欲念会如森林中的火遇上大风势必焚毁整个森林一样，必将愈演愈烈，由此人们深陷迷乱之中不能自拔，有人因失恋而精神崩溃，有人甚至不顾一切、施暴造恶。人们对这层妄念死死抓牢，不肯放松。在生生世世中，盲无慧眼的人们多少辛酸泪，都付痴情中！
最后从生死流转的角度来看情欲。
欲乐如美食中的毒药，初尝使人愉悦欢喜、趋之若骛，然即此情欲将人死死系于六道之中，只因缠绵则如春蚕吐丝一般，一丝丝、一层层自身作茧还将自缚。正因为欢愉，所以异常难以醒觉，于此中沉迷最深。古往今来圣者们千呼万唤亦莫肯清醒，世间无有第二者比此沉迷更深，也难有第二者比此更难看破。帝王将相、学士才子、英雄豪杰、少年老者在此一关俱难得过。
而此缠绵极为深细，深者多生累劫都在此屡屡失误，为之缠缚流转却难以觉醒。细者乃至一念一思皆如游丝，不绝如缕，难以根除。虽说愉悦，然而误者何过于此，苦患者何过于此。古人云：“爱不重不入娑婆。”《楞严经》云：“若诸世界六道众生，其心不淫则不随其生死相续，汝修三昧，淫心不除，尘不可出。”
由于情爱的重缚，在漫长的生死之中，我们难以解脱。若无文殊的智慧宝剑，我们如何能断除这藕断丝还连的痴情呢？

INFP Idealist Healer.

2008-12-30T22:03:00.002+08:00

INFP Idealist healer... hmmm 1% S (Sensing), today becomes N (intuition).

Your KTS-II Results indicate that your personality type is that of the

Idealists (NF's), as a temperament, are passionately concerned with personal growth and development. Idealists strive to discover who they are and how they can become their best possible self -- always this quest for self-knowledge and self-improvement drives their imagination, and they want to help others make the journey. Idealists are naturally drawn to working with people, and whether in education or counseling, in social services or personnel work, in journalism or the ministry, they are gifted at helping others find their way in life, often inspiring them to grow as individuals and to fulfill their potentials.

Idealists are sure that friendly cooperation is the best way for people to achieve their goals. Conflict and confrontation upset them because they seem to put up angry barriers between people. Idealists dream of creating harmonious, even caring personal relations, and they have a unique talent for helping people get along with each other and work together for the good of all. Such interpersonal harmony might be a romantic ideal, but then Idealists are incurable romantics who prefer to focus on what might be, rather than what is. The real, practical world is only a starting place for Idealists; they believe that life is filled with possibilities waiting to be realized, rich with meanings calling out to be understood. This idea of a mystical or spiritual dimension to life - things that are not visible or things that have not yet happened and that can only be known through intuition is far more important to Idealists than the world of material things.

Highly ethical in their actions, Idealists hold themselves to a strict standard of personal integrity. They must be true to themselves and to others, and they can feel quite guilty when they are dishonest, or when they are false or insincere. More often, however, Idealists are the very soul of kindness. Particularly in their personal relationships, Idealists are without question filled with love and good will. They believe in giving of themselves to help others; they cherish a few warm, sensitive friendships, usually with persons with whom they can bond emotionally and spiritually, sharing their deepest feelings and their complex inner worlds.

Idealists are relatively rare, making up no more than 15 to 20 percent of the population. But their ability to inspire people with their enthusiasm and their idealism has given them influence far beyond their numbers.

Overview of the Healer (INFP)
As a Healer, you are concerned with keeping the world whole and complete, and will make great sacrifices for causes you believe in. You like to develop deep relationships with others and be a source of personal growth ideas and practices. Healers like you like to have time to reflect on their thoughts, ideas, or decisions, and you like to give people plenty of space to do the same. As a Healer, you encourage curiosity and compassion, and often create a harmonious environment in which others can explore opportunities and express themselves.

How You Communicate
Healers like you motivate others and promote innovation and creativity. You often create networks of people so that the greater good can benefit from a solution that works for everyone. You like to be presented with new ideas and information, and you are often understanding and non-judgmental - unless you detect a poor or less than sincere attitude in others.

Idealist Healers and Career Considerations
Conscience looms large for you; in almost any situation, you feel compelled to measure yourself, other people, and the conditions of the environment against your personal morality. You have a tendency to perceive questions of meaning in even trivial matters and to worry about far-flung consequences of your actions. In your ideal job, you are free to pursue depth rather than breadth and quality rather than quantity. You feel rewarded when your projects and daily tasks allow you to immerse yourself in your process as deeply as you "need to" in order to satisfy your inner standards of quality. You are uncomfortable with the notion of authority per se and may avoid leading, as well as being led, either consciously or unconsciously. As you experience them, adhering to fixed roles and rules amounts to an abdication of your responsibility to exercise your conscience.

* Healers thrive in an environment that gives them creative control over their work.
* Healers' high standards often translate into high levels of performance.
* Healers' intense focus on the "morality" of things may lead them to overreact. So a misguided co-worker becomes "evil," and the Healers' smallest compromise fills them with a sense of guilt.

Love and Relationships for the Idealist Healer
Rare are those people able to leave you enough space for your solitary quest while still meeting your need for deep connection. You're apt to seek a partner who won't be frightened by or critical of the expanse of your imagination. Oftentimes, you'll fall for "diamonds in the rough" because of your rare ability to see the positive qualities that others have overlooked in them.

The Idealist Healer's Learning Style

* Healers learn best with minimum guidelines so they can self-discover.
* Healers learn by generating hypotheses.
* Healers look for hidden meanings and connections that tap into universal human experiences.
* Healers learn by absorbing values, ideas, knowledge into a personalized system.
* Healers learn anything needed to forward their cause.

Personality test

2008-12-28T21:48:00.004+08:00

http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp
http://www.advisorteam.org/the_four-temperaments/temp_artisan_composer.html
(ISFP -- Artisan -- Composer)

I took a career test two years ago and certain things just never change...

Your Type is
ISFP
Introverted Sensing Feeling Perceiving
Strength of the preferences %
56 1 25 22

Qualitative analysis of your type formula

You are:

* moderately expressed introvert
* slightly expressed sensing personality
* moderately expressed feeling personality
* slightly expressed perceiving personality

ISFP type description by D.Keirsey
http://keirsey.com/handler.aspx?s=keirsey&f=fourtemps&tab=4&c=composer

ISFP Identify Your Career with Jung Career Indicator™
http://www.humanmetrics.com/vocation/JCI.asp?EI=-56&SN=0.6&TF=-25&JP=-22

ISFP type description by J. Butt and M.M. Heiss
http://typelogic.com/isfp.html

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I remember taking a similar test 2 years ago when I had my first career change.
You can never walk the same road the same way twice. Meaning you can always learn and experience new things when you do something that you did. I can relate to how I am able to play out notes by listening rather than remembering them by their musical notations. How I am often misunderstood because I cannot express myself verbally.

"tendency not to express themselves verbally, but through their works of art..."

http://www.advisorteam.org/the_four-temperaments/temp_artisan_composer.html

More than the other Artisans, Composers are in tune with their senses, and so have a sure grasp of what belongs, and what doesn't belong, in all kinds of works of art. While the other Artisans are skilled with people, tools, and entertainment, Composers have an exceptional ability-seemingly inborn-to work with subtle differences in color, tone, texture, aroma, and flavor.

Although Composers often put long, lonely hours into their artistry, they are just as impulsive as the other Artisans. They do not wait to consider their moves; rather, they act in the here and now, with little or no planning or preparation. Composers are seized by the act of artistic composition, as if caught up in a whirlwind. The act is their master, not the reverse. Composers paint or sculpt, they dance or skate, they write melodies or make recipes-or whatever-simply because they must. They climb the mountain because it is there.

This ability to lose themselves in action accounts for the spectacular individual accomplishments of some Composers, and yet on their social side they show a kindness unmatched by all the other types. Composers are especially sensitive to the pain and suffering of others, and they sympathize freely with the sufferer. Some have a remarkable way with young children, almost as if there were a natural bond of sympathy and trust between them. A similar bond may be seen between some Composers and animals, even wild animals. Many Composers have an instinctive longing for the wilds, and nature seems to welcome them.

Composers are just as plentiful as the other Artisans, say nine or ten per cent of the population, but in general they are very difficult to observe and thus greatly misunderstood. Very likely the difficulty comes from their tendency not to express themselves verbally, but through their works of art. Composers are usually not interested in developing ability in public speaking, or even in the art of conversation; they prefer to feel the pulse of life by touch, in the muscles, in the eyes, in the ears, on the tongue. Make no mistake, Composers are just as interested as other types in sharing their view of the world, and if they find a medium of non-verbal communication-some art form-then they will express their character quite eloquently. If not, they simply remain unknown, their quietness leaving their character all but invisible.

Career Test

2008-12-28T21:36:00.001+08:00

http://quiz.ivillage.co.uk/uk_work/tests/career.htm

What career will suit your personality?
This description is a generalisation. If it rings true, you've found your career type. If it doesn't, return to the quiz, decide whether you answered truthfully, and not by what you think you should answer. Redo your answers and read your new results.

You would most enjoy a career that allows you to meet new people. You would also be happiest in a career that allows you to be free and flexible, and allows you to be extremely creative. Some careers that would be perfect for you are:

* Stockbroker x
* Secretary x
* Receptionist x
* Director O (possible if I am doing my own or helping a friend's business)
* Recruitment Consultant (once thought of - 2007)
* Politician x (I dislike politics - storyofstuff)
* Marketing x (I can't sell)
* Human Resources Manager x (talk to your HR personnel)
* Religious Minister x
* Teacher x (have enough of my buddy's complaint & I dislike lesson plans)
* Lawyer x
* Advertising O (possible if I am doing my own or helping a friend's business)
* Consultant x
* Financial Adviser x (tried it last year... nah)
* Financial Planner x
* GP x
* Physical Therapy O (sounds interesting)
* Occupational Therapy O (sounds interesting)
* Public Relations x
* Estate Agent x
* Travel Agent x
* Restauranteur x
* Hotel Manager x
* Events Organiser O (sounds interesting)

You are a great leader. You genuinely enjoy being around other people. Your relationships with others are very important to you. You love talking and meeting new people. You are very enthusiastic about work and about all that you do and have in your life. You love being the focus of attention. You enjoy a fast pace. You are very socially oriented. Therefore, you are much happier being with others than you are alone. You crave interaction with others.

You are very spontaneous and often act before you think. You are always quick to answer when you are asked a question, even if you aren't sure of the answer. It is easier for you to improvise as you go along. You enjoy thinking out loud, and are most creative when brainstorming with friends or colleagues. You enjoy being involved in many activities.

You are very easy to read, and often wear your heart on your sleeve. You are never afraid to tell people what you think. You are very empathetic and genuine. You can sometimes be seen as over-emotional or too involved by others. But that is only because you tend to get so involved in the things you do that they become personal. You want to be adored, loved and appreciated. You like to please others and to make sure people are happy.

You trust your gut instincts. You are easily inspired and trust that inspiration. You are very innovative. You analyse things by looking at the big picture. You are concerned about how what you do affects others. You worry about your actions and the future. You tend to use a lot of metaphors and are very descriptive and colourful in your choice of language.

You are very creative, and get bored easily if you don't get to express yourself. You like to learn new things. You don't like the same old routine. You like to leave your options open.

Dr Robert Beckford : The Hidden Story of Jesus

2008-12-25T20:38:00.001+08:00

Hi all,

Help spread to your friends? This is really good.

Dr Robert Beckford : The Hidden Story of Jesus
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-7956238808750388174

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hhef6wa2Mpc&feature=related (Part 1 of 11)

Dr Robert went to various parts of the world India, England, Jerusalem & Egypt.
Bridging the religions

Best regards
WingBliss

Meditation and Medication.

2008-12-24T21:29:00.003+08:00

I fell sick last Tuesday. As I have not fully recovered , I had a relapse on Sunday night.
It cause me a whole night of sleep with endless cough. The night was long.

I decided to seek Western Medication on Monday morning. I prefer Chinese Herbs and didn't want to take Antibiotics for fear of kidney issue. Nevertheless, I don't have much choice.

Antibiotic is really strong. Having took it at around 11am, I began to feel weak and drowsy by noon. I had a late breakfast, so I skip lunch and slept from 2-5 not knowing that I have fever(never had one for a long time). When I woke up, I was in an indescribable state of confusion, my vision was blur. I could not eat and I felt like vomiting. In the past, this would have been very serious, leading to days of fever and vomiting. I had two Paracetomol pills, but that didn't seem to help.

Knowing that Meditation can help repair the body (with proper medication), I quickly sat down and meditate for almost an hour. When I sat up, I have recovered from my fever and my body no longer reject the food in my stomach. I believe the bacteria or germs may have gone down to the stomach.

Although I have still not yet recovered at this point of writing, I am able to go back to work today 24-Dec-2008. I believe I may have a relapse of Bronchitis or Lung infection. Had those when I was in the Army. I could felt stabbing pain when I breathe.

No one like to be sick, so take good care of yourself. Health is the highest gain.

Best regards
WingBliss

1 day retreat

2008-12-14T21:28:00.001+08:00

editing...
珍惜就是感恩

Story of stuff

2008-12-07T09:48:00.001+08:00

http://www.storyofstuff.com/

忍辱，忍耐，等待

2008-12-01T18:36:00.005+08:00

人生，不外于三件事，忍辱，忍耐，等待...

很佩服公园里的那只猫能够一动也不动的耐心等待。。。

Picture Courtesy:
funnycatspicture.blogspot.com

修行护法感恩 2008

2008-12-01T12:33:00.006+08:00

At a glance:
"Believing in ourselves doesn't equate to being arrogant. It is being confident that I can reach greater heights if I am willing to put in the effort. Everything I can do, people can do it 100 times better than me, but I will do my best to improve. EVERYONE is UNIQUE."

It is the time of the year that I am supposed to do some self reflection (观照).

"Short my life may be, the Scorpio Sheep will become stronger in 2009"
"Although it is the journey that matters in the end, we still need to have a direction not to get lost."
"Without gratitude (of both kindness and challenge), you can run to any part of the world... can you hide? "

- Have been trying to explain to some friends how important it is to be positive, because it is very difficult for a layperson to achieve what you call a balance.
E.g. if you aim for 100marks, high chance you may not reach that mark, if you aim 60, higher chance you may get less. Thus it is very important to be positive.

As shared by Confucius
A country cannot be without three pillars. 1. Faith (人民对国家信心）, 2. Strong Army(强大的军队) 3. Basic necessities(住食). Should there be one that needs to be taken out, it will be a strong army followed by basic necessities. There cannot be no faith. thus it is very important we have to believe in ourselves.

Believing in ourselves doesn't equate to being arrogant. It is being confident that I can reach greater heights if I am willing to put in the effort. Everything I can do, people can do it 100 times better than me, but I will do my best. EVERYONE is UNIQUE.

So for this year, what have I hope to attain and achieve?

- Finding a job in a not for profit organisation (Achieved)
- Getting a job that can help many people with their technology (pc, mobile, network, servers, firewall) problems (Achieved)
- Upgrade my skill so as to serve the users better.
(Took a CompTIA Network + course, but have yet to take the exam) (half done)
- Learn piano or a muscial instrument
(Took a three months course but quit due to work (excuse)
- Learn Singing
(Achieved, still learning)
- Volunteering
(pending)
- Refresh Basic Buddhism course
(pending)

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For year 2009
- Sleep early!!! I am very worried about my kidney. My TCM doctor have given the warning! healthy body = healthy mind (vice versa)
- Take up MCSA (Pre requisite for my job, boss is beginning to chase again)
- Pickup a musical instrument (Probably continue with my Tao Di (陶笛) that I bought years ago)
- Pickup more volunteering and refresh my Buddhism course. (修行护法）

Best regards
Wing Bliss

colorgenics test

2008-11-29T22:53:00.000+08:00

Colorgenics Test

http://www.paulgoldinresearch.com/cg/index.htm

"You are tending to pursue your objectives with concentrated intensity and it would seem that whatever obstacles may come into your path, you will stick to your guns and will not allow yourself to be deflected from your purpose. You are striving to achieve recognition and what is more - you deserve it.

Most people are conditioned by their environment and you are no exception. You are an extremely emotional person - so much so that 'the wrong word' can lead you to tears. You feel other people's pain. You feel the need of sympathetic relationships and a pleasant work environment in order to develop and grow. You are an impulsive, loving individual with a great deal of inherent feeling.

You are prepared to establish a particular relationship that is being made available to you at this time. It could be a satisfactory liaison but there could be a certain amount of conflict involved -try to avoid direct confrontation at all costs.

You are an emotional, sincere and impressionable individual experiencing frustration and unnecessary stress. You are carried away by other people's enthusiasm and looking for that idealised relationship, be it in a business or personal situation, which you are able to share with a mutual depth of understanding. You have lowered your defences in the past and you have been hurt, so you are now extremely wary of being exploited. You are still ready to trust people on the condition that they are prepared to offer you proof of their sincerity.

You really would like to be completely uninhibited - to let your hair down - but you are held back by your sense of logic and rationalilty, since you realise that by simple stupidity you could lose everything - whatever that may be"

today's reading.

2008-11-24T15:48:00.004+08:00

Today's reading (empowerment =)
- Don't take things too personally
- Moving on (if u fail or loose something you hold so dear, just move on), opportunity is always out there. Grateful and treasuring yet willing to let go when the time is up. (what choice do you have then?)
- Maturity = not needing to impress. Trying to impress is also insecurity.
- Be at the right place at the right time, say the right things to the right person.

You have got a mail pigeon

2008-11-24T10:23:00.000+08:00

A letter I sent to someone who is interested in looking inwards.

Hi (name),

Are you looking inwards?
When u start looking within urself, u will realize actually there isn't any "real" you.
Why?

My humble sharing.

Firstly, we are always changing. Both in appearance and in character. Change (impermanence) is the only thing that is real in this world. Our values changes over time as our perception changes.

Indeed the human life is precious, all form of life, small and big, sick or less fortunate are struggling to live.
What is important is how we make use of our life to make the life of others meaningful.

Check out
Randy Pausch reprising his "Last Lecture". This guy only has a month to live.

As u said, to be unheard better than to be heard; to be unseen better then to be seen; to be unfeeling better then to be felt; to be the unknown better then the known.

This shows the second thing. Non-self nature. Just as there is no such entity as the Car or Table. There are both made up of parts like plastic, screws, wood and other smaller parts, which themselves will continue to break down to nothing more than empty nucleus and atoms.

If you truly understand that in life, we cannot own or posses anything, life will be so much different, there will be no wars or unhappiness.

In short, you decide for yourself who you really want to be, how you want to spend the remaining part of your life to be truly happy, free(freedom from pain & worries) and blissful, because these things are priceless and even the rich, powerful and famous do not have.

For me, 2008 is a life I chose that I can learn to understand and learn as much, ultimately to bring more joy and alleviate the pain of others.

Best regards
WingBliss.

Randy Pausch reprising his "Last Lecture" and End Day

2008-11-20T22:23:00.003+08:00

don't take life for granted...-wingbliss

Randy Pausch reprising his "Last Lecture"

Inspiration for a lecturer who only has a few months left to live.

End Day

the path she once took

2008-11-15T11:54:00.017+08:00

... qutting your current job to work in her previous just to know how she lived her live?...
... sitting at the desk she once used, working with her colleagues she once worked with, walking through the lane she once took ... silly huh?

I wonder if this is true
http://tinyurl.com/mistakes-we-make

the silly things we can do when we are thinkg we love someone...
... unaltruistic love interest itself is nothing more than foolishness, attachment, desire and pain ... They say men are intersted in the game(hunting) but not in the relationship... I have no interest in hunting ... I am a vegetarian.

... and I am a happy one.

sadness I have, time of loneliness I had, but my work give me life, my religion give me strength, my spiritual friends give me companionship... I am not alone.

Mistakes

2008-11-13T22:54:00.007+08:00

Have been busy with work which requires a lot of research and experimenting so didn't get to write much.

I was on my way home from work and it was raining heavily at night.

I dash across the road without realizing the danger of incoming traffic from the opposite site of the road. Sometimes, life and death is just in an instant.

Some mistakes in life can only be made once so don't think it is okay to learn from your mistake.

The best is to learn from others and take only calculated risk.

Be really grateful we can still wake up the next day. Make good use of our life to help another. Live well.

WingBliss

Circle of perfection

2008-11-09T00:02:00.000+08:00

圆缘圈
http://www.buddhistdoor.com/media/music/Melody_of_truth_n_beauty/8.html
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=7099112551434775464&ei=cNYUSa25EIaEwgOg_PGPDQ&q=%E5%BA%B7%E6%B7%87

Hinokio

2008-11-08T22:59:00.002+08:00

Watched this show, a beautiful piece, quite touching.

http://www.moviexclusive.com/review/hinokio/hinokio.htm
Synopsis :

HINOKIO is not a movie about robots. It is a story of the heart, of using a remotely controlled robot that can interface with the real world to restore the relationships that had become broken, to build bonds between a boy and a girl, a boy and his father.

Thinking of watching Cyborg Girl too soon.

Cool links
=========
Psychic Lover JustiFaiz
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bH3ALBTyvzE
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6o-RdX101cM

Den-O Climax Jump
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZsvFN-6ntkQ
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EM1KjVOse00&feature=related

Cute Cats
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4hxtd6WfFNk&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ONJfp95yoE&feature=related

等雨男孩

2008-10-19T23:22:00.004+08:00

。。。配她淋雨，
为她遮雨。。。

-等雨男孩

2008 May 11 0500Hrs

2008-05-11T05:26:00.002+08:00

Stay Focus

不要执著会失去的"快乐"。
不执著因为得不到而让我苦恼的"快乐"
不执著得到了也会让我苦恼的"快乐"
(Do not crave for the "happiness" that can be lost)
(Do not crave for the "happiness" that when cannot be achieved bring frustration)
(Do not crave for the "happiness" that even when achieved will bring frustration)

Guard the mind
Guard the speech
Guard the body

Stay Focus

Cute video

2008-04-26T16:56:00.004+08:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=inNRxBDUtL0
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lh9x637kjwQ&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AY2HPvoqSTE&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e15UOWWcNhM&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lu5oWcdEyxw&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AY2HPvoqSTE&feature=related

Road to hell is paved with good intentions Part 2

2008-04-20T11:21:00.004+08:00

"An email reply/reminder to myself...on posting video without seeking approval"

I admit "Ignorance is No Excuse for the Law", at least now we are reminded of the requirements and expectations. For it is wrong to post the video without going through SOP(which I had the premonition, thus the liner "Please inform me if ..."), I am "grateful" that choice was not made wrong twice by NOT informing you all immediately on the posting. Upon receipt of your messages, I immediately got off the train station so as to log in to a nearby LAN shop terminal to have the videos removed immediately.

One the manager of this production has requested for this video to be posted as a whole on VEOH, I have not given it to him and will not. I would leave him to contact you or the other ICs directly.

I admit and realized that several months/years down the road, if this video has been misused, discovered or the privacy of any individual/group infringed/harassed, the unimaginable damages/consequences would have been beyond control. Something I will reflect more on.

The purpose of this mail is to assure you and the rest that I am listening and I will do my best to put the interest of the group before any individual so long it adheres to the principals of the Dharma. Assured I will take a more conservative approach in handling matters in future. Although initially confused, I am grateful for your messages because I believe in this quote.

"because they care, thus they share, else they wouldn't even care"

The second purpose of this mail is to prevent any other people from making the same mistake as me. I hope something positive can grow out of this, serving as a good reminder to all who are unaware. I will leave this to your team to decide to disseminate this important information/rules/expectations to the rest of the people. I believe this is important, because it is a commonly found incorrect internet behavior happening and will happen. After all, your team are in a more important position as a front line Dharma worker whose primary purpose(in my humble opinion) is Education and that requires even greater level of patience, support, insights and understandings.

More readings
http://www.cptryon.org/copyright.html
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/authors/thanissaro/intentions.html

"... for because often the mistakes of others would have been ours had we had the opportunity to make them... let us all learn together"

May you and all enjoy bliss, health and happiness.

Road to hell is paved with good intentions

2008-04-19T22:44:00.004+08:00

Just got scolded for posting a performance video which I took part in on Youtube. Probably I am not sensitive enough to social expectations and norms.

The Road to Nirvana Is Paved with Skillful Intentions
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/authors/thanissaro/intentions.html

"There's an old saying that the road to hell is paved with good intentions... So why do they have such a bad reputation? For three main reasons.
One is that not all good intentions are especially skillful. Even though they mean well, they can be misguided and inappropriate for the occasion, thus resulting in pain and regret.
A second reason is that we often misunderstand the quality of our own intentions. We may mistake a mixed intention for a good one, for instance, and thus get disappointed when it gives mixed results.
A third reason is that we easily misread the way intentions yield their results — as when the painful results of a bad intention in the past obscure the results of a good intention in the present, and yet we blame our present intention for the pain. All these reasons, acting together, lead us to become disillusioned with the potential of good intentions.

As a result, we either grow cynical about them or else simply abandon the care and patience needed to perfect them."

Cute modern style《心灵相契的声音二》

2008-04-13T10:46:00.001+08:00

http://www.amtb.org.sg/songs.htm

《心灵相契的声音二》六、念佛疑问浅答歌
http://www.hlfjw.com/news/ypzq/2007/516/0751616221K5694DH7F9JGGD6JDEI8.html

《心灵相契的声音二》九、知足是幸福
http://www.hlfjw.com/news/ypzq/2007/516/0751616205KC41E810FDEB2E335B18.html

http://www.buda.idv.tw/list.asp?tablename=music&classes=%A6%F2%A6%B1%B1M%BF%E8&subclass=&PageSize_form=20&PageNo_form=2&SortBy_form=dates+DESC%2C+LocalFileName

Recap

2008-04-01T23:44:00.002+08:00

"Things are only worth looking back if we can learn something out of it."
"The smart ones learn from his/her own mistakes, the wiser ones learn from other's mistakes"

2007 hasn't been a smooth sailing year in fact it is one of the toughest period of my life.
I quit my first job of 4 years, I went through 15 over interviews, with confidence dropping after each interview. I landed up in a really terrible job under a wrong person, which many people dislike, putting me in a very difficult position. I switched 4 jobs in just this year. Nevertheless, I have learned many things which I would like to share with you so that you can benefit.

* Life is about getting ready - Opportunity don't wait for us, but are we ready for it when it comes?
* Life is about being patient and persevering - Can you wait for the right opportunity? The best soup can only be made after long hours of preparation.
* Don't think life can be a bed of roses - There is no such thing as "retirement", trust me one can fall sick if he/she doesn't work. So it is either you work hard with joy meaningfully or you toil with frustration aimlessly.
* Success is about willing to continue working hard for the things you love to put in effort, energy and time.

-WingBliss

Meticulous equates to success?

2008-02-15T23:56:00.005+08:00

不以善小而不为，不以恶小而为之。

"It is about being wise, not nice"

"I always feel I have very strict and meticulous superiors/seniors wherever I went. Nevertheless I am willing to work hard for my current ones because I believe we are doing it for a more meaningful cause and our hard work will benefit others."

I won a basket of Ferrero Rocher from a company Chinese New Year celebration. I like chocolate but a basket of chocolate is really too much for me. Wouldn't it be much better to share this with others? I went around the office distributing them after office hours, hoping to give my colleagues a nice little surprise.

I pass a piece to a colleague of mine whose blog is below, only to find out he is a vegan.
http://www.moonpointer.com/index.php?itemid=1858

He sent me a web page about how cattle are being reared for milk production are exploited and made to suffer, just like animals reared for meat. I being a convenient vegetarian when being in contact with a vegan makes it sounds like a degree/doctorate being small in front of a nobel price winner. Nevertheless what he say is definitely true. Indeed Buddhism Just because it is a small act of kindness doesn't mean we can forget about it, the same applies that just because it is a small act of misdeed doesn't mean we can close one eye. - WingBliss

Think lightly not of evil,
‘It will not come to me’,
for by the falling of water drops, a water jar is filled.
The fool with evil fills himself,
he soaks up little by little.

Think lightly not of goodness,
‘It will not come to me’,
for by the falling of water drops, a water jar is filled.
The sage with goodness fills himself,
he soaks up little by little.

- Dhammapada (The Buddha)

童夢奇緣 Wait 'Til You're Older (Movie)

2008-02-07T00:31:00.000+08:00

Dear all,

童夢奇緣 Wait 'Til You're Older (Movie) by Andy Lau is a very good inspirational show.
I am not a fan of Andy Lau but if you want Year 2008 to be better, watch this show & I GAURANTEE your life will improve if you catch the meaning from it.

http://so.tudou.com/isearch.do?kw=%CD%AF%89%F4%C6%E6%BE%89

Let the movie run first by pressing "pause", afterwhich you can play them. You can open all the parts first.

Part A
http://www.tudou.com/programs/view/5TkqCyzdI10/
Part B
http://www.tudou.com/programs/view/S7yVHPZydQo/
Part C
http://www.tudou.com/programs/view/FKvv50q7Byk/
Part D
http://www.tudou.com/programs/view/osNMVyWfWIs/
Part E
http://www.tudou.com/programs/view/up8J8yhJRQ0/

大只佬 - Another good show from Andy Lau
http://so.tudou.com/isearch.do?kw=%B4%F3%BF%E9%CD%B7%D3%D0%B4%F3%D6%C7%BB%DB

Best regards May u & family enjoy health, bliss & happiness. Wing Bliss http://everymomenthasit.blogspot.com/
"hurt not others in ways u find hurtful" "the gift of truth excels all other gifts"

刘德华 - 下次不敢<童梦奇缘主题曲>

绕一个圈又过了一环

犯错以後才後悔会不会太晚

就算认错就算你说

下一次我不敢

失去容易啊回头真难

日子再坏也必须要走完

啊在生活中每一个人

应该有对自己最诚实的那份勇敢

朋友啊虽然哭泣常常让人太难堪

其实眼泪也有温暖

流过泪的你才能慢慢成长

有伤心才会懂得有心欢

啊抓紧时间把你感情的帐单

好好去认认真真一一的清还

为身边每个人

请不要再怠慢

让爱火一再点燃

从今我不想

再听你说

下一次我不敢
__________________

给我两分钟....让我把记忆结成冰

别溶化了眼泪...你妆都花了

要我怎么记得记得

你将我忘了吗?

记得你将我忘了吧....

你说你会哭...不是因为在乎

A gentle reminder

2007-12-31T12:07:00.000+08:00

Both pictures are of the same person.

Dear All,

This is a gentle reminder to us all to live life more positively & not to go into isolation or withdrawal if depressed. Beauty is also impermanent thus we should focus on internal beauty, training our mind/character.

Artiste Sarah Chen (Chen Shu Hwa 陈淑桦), has always been one promising singer I respect for her unique voice & singing style. Both photos above are of the same person with the one on the right being more recent. For those who may remember she sang the famous 1986 SBC(Singapore Broadcasting Corporation(Former TCS/Now Mediacorp) Samsui Women Theme Song, written by Lee Si Song.

She went missing(solitude/withdrew from media) 9 years ago after her mother's death (read more here) despite at her career's peak. I believe our love ones will want us to do well & take care of ourselves. They will definitely not want us to be unhappy/see us suffer even if they have left us.

Physical beauty is also impermanent so we should concentrate on training our mind/character(internal beauty). No matter how pretty/handsome your partner is, their beauty(energy) is still theirs & never yours, so we should cultivate our own.

With this may you & family enjoy health, bliss & happiness for the new year ahead with lots of energy to do wonderful things.

Links Courtesy:

http://video.baidu.com/v?word=%B3%C2%CA%E7%wwE8%EB&ct=301989888&rn=20&pn=0&db=0&s=0&fbl=1024

http://ent.163.com/07/0503/10/3DIFL8UG00031H2L.html

http://www.gouduo.com/people_649.html

Best regards

Wing Bliss

Recap of Year 2007

2007-12-25T23:29:00.005+08:00

Sunday, November 04, 2007

2007-11-04T19:25:00.000+08:00

Sunday, November 04, 2007

Just as a famished beggar with heartfelt gratitude for the stranger who offered him a warm cup of milk at his darkest hours. I am deeply grateful to the people who has been around for me, whom I can call friends. Maybe to the other person it is just a plain glass of milk (an item easily taken granted for), but to the beggar it means the whole world. His heart & hope for humanity may have been lighten up.

"Gratitude is one of the basic criteria to live as a human, even animals have that."

Two people coming together is really not something that is so coincidental or should be taken for granted. Friendship is priceless. You can't buy a human trust & sincerity.

I was supposed to attend a competition on Saturday night, but it was deferred to the following week, thus I went to a KTV with two friends to practise our songs.

We met a really nice group of people. They are really nice & we had a really memorable night singing together. They are really great. Things that you do alone becomes more meaningful when you can share & connect with people.

I just want to a heartfelt thanks for that night so magical. Words cannot express how I feel. It was like a dream come true I really hope this priceless friendship can blossom.

-WingBliss

I love to sing & I always share with a good friend that I have this greatest wish to be able to find a soulmate whom we can enjoy music with.

Inspirational YouTube Videos

2007-10-20T09:49:00.000+08:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zZXuRtaknWc

A show where "real" singers come to have their singing judge by teachers of singers. It is like teachers being judge by teachers of teachers, experts of experts, so one can expect certain tention, to see the artist they knew, being judged or criticised by experienced judges.

I guess just as in the anime dragonball, Goku, there are people who are always doing their best to outperform themselves to reach greater height. This is a very good attitude. In singing, we do not compete with others, because everyone has a different body, & no one can tell you how to sing, because your body is different. we are not supposed to imitate but learn to understand more of ourselves & at the same time, keep improving & breaking one's current limit to reach greater height.

This is the attitude seen in many succesful people especially in Japan, Tawian & the States.We have to find means to improve ourselves. Do not have fear of being criticised & there is no need to compare.

Scan to the middle. Quite educational
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TSIAv19_SU&NR=1

Quite intersting.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d48GRDBumKk&mode=related&search=

SHE an Inspiration

2007-10-09T20:38:00.000+08:00

"everyone has struggled, everyone is struggling & everyone will struggle, I am not ALONE."
No Kidding! I am not a fanatics when I wrote this.

The famous Chinese girl group can be an inspiration even for working adults just like you and me. These videos (below) show how they went through a difficult competition as an individual (no knowing each other to the famous group you now see).

These are the insights I gain & emotions felt after watching the videos.
1) humans are so vulnerable when alone
2) everyone have their success(that you now see) through hard work & fret not, we still have luck if you have work hard.
3) How interesting that people from different background can come together. Friendship is beautiful.
4) Don't judge others too easily based on what we heard (even if it is from good friends)
5) Live your live well. Make your parents & friends proud of your existance.
6) We should always treasure & respect all lifeform, because every being are beautiful innate & deserved live their life bright.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_ECnOo14Us
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYbijh9KIII
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=94uqRJNPWN4

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HRrfc8aOQM8
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FFJuKcYjFy0&mode=related&search=
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zGcgBMtZgkk (short version)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iVSH8BrKiZk (long version)

2007-09-04T22:21:00.000+08:00

So many things have happend this few months that it would really be difficult for me to pen down everything. I really experience a lot of things beyond what words can describe. Tolerance, patience & learning to accept & let go... maybe we can have some time at the tea table & I would love to share all these valuable experiences of life with you....

- Wingbliss

Needs n Demands

2007-04-22T20:59:00.000+08:00

Was sick this week, 6 roti pratas, 2 fried dough stick, 1 fired sweet dough ball + 2 late night sleeps. =(

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"... It is not just HOW good a product or a service is, it is HOW you try to fit the NEEDs & DEMANDS of your "customers" to succeed."

"... just because someone doesn't accept you today, doesn't mean that another person doesn't."

Many people have persuaded me to join MLM in the last few years, I have tried a few out of obligations but was never really interested. A really good friend in this business, recently came to knew that I had join another MLM company(without joining her 1st =) Thus she offered to go down to the one I join recently. I knew not her actual intention. We chat until 12 midnight at my company. Later I spend the next three hours trying to explain to her. I used this example.

"I needed a pair of shoes. Both of you offered me really good shoes, but I choose them because they get my measurements."

It is not just HOW good something is, it is HOW you try to fit the NEEDs & DEMANDS of your "customers" to succeed.

The same applies to food, shows & relationships, different people have different taste. Just because someone doesn't appreciate your kind of food or shows, doesn't mean it is "bad", it is just a matter of taste.

Remember, just because someone doesn't accept you today, doesn't mean that another person doesn't.

Cheerios

Kesamutti Sutta (Kalama Sutra)

2007-03-09T22:15:00.000+08:00

Reference:
http://www.aimwell.org/Books/Suttas/Kalama/kalama.html
http://web.singnet.com.sg/~sidneys/kalama.htm

Kalama Sutta
Do not believe in anything (simply) because you have heard it.
Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations.
Do not believe in anything because it is spoken and rumoured by many.
Do not believe in anything (simply) because it is found written in your religious books.
Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders.

But after observation and analysis when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conductive to the good and benefit of one and all then accept it and live up to it.

When you yourselves know, “This is unwholesome, this is blameworthy, this is censured by the wise, these things when accepted and practised lead to harm and suffering, then you should give them up.”

Trust & Beliefs

2007-02-09T21:40:00.000+08:00

"People choose to believe in what they want to believe, and they will continue to find ways to justify & affirm their beliefs are correct, so it is only energy wasting trying to convince them or to explain."

The following text contains HIDDEN meaning... so please "read between the lines"...
see also:
Kesamutti Sutta (Kalama Sutra)

I wrote this article because I have many people around me trying to "convince" me to join their faith. I am tired of explaining 1 by 1, thus I wrote this, if they are interested they can read up from here.
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I was on a bus to Eunos MRT when I overheard a woman asking for direction to Loyang. Since she is already on a bus to Eunos, I recommended her to take the mrt to pasir ris, which she could still tranfer to bus 6 or other buses to Loyang Point.

The bus driver & an old man ask her to drop off to transfer to bus 25 to bedok, following which to transfer AGAIN to bus 9. She got off the bus.

She could have been patient enough at least to take the MRT from Eunos to simei, where she is still able to catch bus 9. Afterall in this case she is already on a bus to a nearby MRT station. MRT is definitely faster than waiting for another bus 25 only to take her to Bedok. Sometimes, more haste is less speed.

She chose to BELIEVE in them & not me... well I try to convince myself it doesn't matter, so long she gets there. Afterall there are MORE than one way to rome.

Every human relationship is build upon TRUST. You find a person "credible" because you TRUST him/her, you WANT/Choose to BELIEVE in him. Before we buy a product, employ a person, date someone or befriend someone, we need to have trust.

Sometimes, it is not how RIGHT, how TRUE, how CORRECT, how CAPABLE, etc. but how much someone TRUST someone, trust something.

When we look at the newspapers, we may sometime find how guilible some people can be to believe in certain things, no matter how IRRATIONAL it may seems, but why do some people still believe?

That is because, in the first place, if a person can be CERTAIN, it will not be call a belief. It is called SCIENCE, FACT, TRUTH, etc. anything but believe.

A belief has attributes of UNknown, UNexplained, TRUST & FAITH.

1+1=2 is a conventional truth. We don't need to BELIEVE that 1+1=2. We don't need to have FAITH that 1+1=2. We don't need to have DOUBT if 1+1=2. Maybe in science experiment, 1+1=1.999 or 2.001, but it shouldn't differ to much.

thus

"People CHOOSE to believe in what/who they WANT to believe, and they will continue to find ways to justify their beliefs, so it is only wasting one's energy trying to convince them."

... no matter HOW IRRATIONAL it may sounds...

Over this few years, I have been silly enough trying to counter argue with some people who wants me to believe in THE ONE.

Omnipotency.

A society is doom, if everyone believes MY WAY is the RIGHT way. If you don't believe in "ME(him)", you will only go to hell. ONLY he is the REAL saviour (others are unreal?).

Even a sect/branch of a religion becomes a CULT, if it becomes AUTHORITARIAN or dogmatic. That is an extremist thinking.

How do you define "the one"? Is "the ONLY one" a law of BALANCE/nature or a BEING of PERSONIFIED existance with EGO, Anger, Dignity etc?

For many years, I have explained to these people
No being in his/her right mind would want to see another being suffer if he/she can stop(prevent) it.

We ask a child to touch a hot kettle(IN FRONT OF US) because we know he/she does not believe us(DOUBT), so he/she will still touch it even we(IN PERSON) have told him/her not to. One way to let he/she learn is to let him/her EXPERIENCE it himself/herself under a controlled environment. This is to prevent them from being scalded or being injured/killed in future.

It is OKAY to GUARD others, but NOT to DOUBT others. An ignorant & inexperience child has doubt due to being inexperience, ego, pride, desire & anger.

An adult is not a creator of a child. He/she cannot CONTROL how the child respond or react. He/she can only with EXPERIENCE & conventional knowledge anticipate a child movement & reaction. Every child is DIFFERENT just as no two fingers of a person is 100% identical.

If a mother/father has a choice, they would want to PREVENT their child from sickness & pain. There are many children born with extra limbs, deformed, extra head, etc. A family of a rape victim, the vicitm herself, family of a victim of war or any other disasters would have hope to PREVENT such harsh experience/"LESSONS", which absolutely fits no PURPOSE if all are just a LESSON.

Yet people are trying to justify their belief & desire to MAKE OTHERS believe that everyone is a mere creation of an ALL POWERFULL, ALL KNOWING entity who can ""POP"" out without being created by ANOTHER even MORE all powerfull all knowing enitity(see how irrational? then who created that even MORE MORE MOER powerful, since we originially believe every exisitent MUST be a creation of another?)...

If ALL other entity(as you & me) MUST depend on him, yet he him is INDEPENDENT of other entity, that mean ONLY he can, other can't, then isn't this a cult, a devil?

Fire can be used to save or kill. Sometimes a lie can save another persons life. It is not WHAT we do, but also HOW & WHY we do. It is not WHAT we believe, but also HOW & WHY we believe. If we only learn to READ between the lines, to GRASP the MEANING of what we have heard/learnt, that there will not be as much conflict & war.

"Therefore I speak to them in parables, because seeing they don’t see, and hearing, they don’t hear, neither do they understand..."

We are FULLY RESPONSIBLE for all our actions & consequences. It is not just WHO we believe that can SAVE us..

Here we come to a point. Who do you choose to believe? The one who can SAVE himself countless times from his diciples who (TRY & FAILED) to betray him, even leading all the assassins to the right path or the one who claim he is the son of the ONLY one, who claim his death for you, whose father forgave you when you kill him, yet ban from heaven when the poor man got trick by his woman & the snake(when the ALL KNOWING one already knew....sigh...)

Who do you choose to believe? The one who can chose his birth as a prince, who find it not easy to teach humans because of their delusion, aversion & attachment, able to perform various miracles as well(only when needed). The one also able to ascend to multi heaven explaining to VARIOUS gods, that they are deluded to think they created the world but are not as PERMANENT as well. The one able to leave PEACEFULLY, when he understand that what has been said has ALREADY been said, & it is left to the sentient beings to choose to REALISE or to BELIEVE.

More readup:
The Good Heart
Willard Van De Bogart(Father Laurence Freeman, OSB, and His Holiness the Dalai Lama)

Living Buddha, Living Christ
Thich Nhat Hanh

A singer once sentenced to death

2006-12-26T23:57:00.000+08:00

check out her 千里之外彭清 (mp3.baidu.com)
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I got a song "Faraway" by Jay Chow/Fei Yu Qing, but to my surprised, the singer turned out to be a female.

On further search, I found out it is sung by a Singer by the name of Peng Qing 彭清.

What really surprised me is that this singer has once been sentenced to death for drug trafficking & had served a sentence of 3 years in jail. She has been released as she has been found not guilty. She was tricked by a stranger.

She released a new album recently.

3 years in jail is no easy task, just imagine serving your army again.

For those of us who think their life has come to a crossroad or is up against a brick wall, maybe she is an inspiration.

Best regards

Only a name (Lessons learnt from X-men & Kamen Rider Faiz)

2006-12-01T22:00:00.000+08:00

Have been watching Kamen Rider Faiz 555 for several weeks. Japanese Sentai & Tokusatsu series are produced with adult audience in mind. They have intriguing story plots & have very deep meanings on various aspects of life that could be realised. Comparing to their oversea counterpart franchise which may be broadcast just to market and sell toys for children.

Kamen Rider 555 in certain aspects have very similar ideas to Marvel X-Men. If you have watch both shows, you will understand both story share the same theme on Human VS Other Higher Genetic Beings.

Some Higher Genetic Beings(Orphenoch/Mutant) want to live in PEACE with the humans, they want to live as a human because they were once human(in physical aspects). In heart, mind, soul, spirit whatever you call it, they ARE indeed still human & living well as a human, even better than some humans.

Just as no two fingers are alike, people don't share the same views. Some human extremist want to destroy all the higher genetic beings they claim these beings "disturbs" their "purity" & threaten human existance. Similarly, on the other side, out of anger, arrogance or frustrations, some Orphenoch/Mutants attack human. Those who don't attack humans or try to protect humans are thus perceive as traitors.

There are also humans who trust Orphenoch/Mutant. Some have fallen in love with each other. Just wanting to live in peace, but are torn apart by these "silly" war between the others.

Some human claims to be human, but are actually thinking like "monsters/beast", yet they can label others as beast/monsters. Ironically, some "monsters/beast" can actually be more "humane" & more "pure" than them.

Today, I can call myself anything, follower/student of so & so, son/daughter of so & so, but AM I ACTING LIKE one? Today, he/she may look ugly or may hold a name with a negative connotation, does it mean I/others have to CONDEMN him/her. NAME doesn't matter. History doesn't either. They should not be used to judge a person, in fact, who can judge who, what do you judge with, everything is EMPTY PERCEPTION. Like shadows, reflection of moon in water, like bubbles on water. It is not what I call myself, it is how I live my life, in ways that benefit others & bring less harm to others & myself.

"Judge not others by what they did not do or should not have done, see what I should do & should not do." Indeed don't just see what people do, labelling & perceiving their actions. I would NOT be surprised that a beggar, even an elder person can be more knowledgeable & wiser than a Master Holder. Never LOOK down on others, by doing so, one is already a loser.

The poisons of this world are IGNORANCE, EGO, PRIDE, LABELING & DISCRIMINATION, thus ANGER &amp;amp;amp;amp;amp; ATTACHMENT. DIFFERNTIATING YOU & I, HIGH & LOW. BEAUTIFUL & UGLY. GOOD & BAD. It is this perception of "I" that will one day destroy humanity. The "I"/"MINE" that will cause WAR.

Many of us just want to live a peaceful life with our love ones, with just enough food to eat & place comfortable to sleep. WAR is a tiring thing, & the most selfish people are the one who incite & stir up anger in others to fight. NO ONE BENEFIT in war, no one. Being angry with other & being negative is like building up a fire prison around oneself. One will be burnt. One will be trapped by one's hatred, anger & attachment.

Those who have heart & mind peaceful as the water lilly in the pond although are subjected to the fire outside will not be burnt.

Peace to all sentient beings
May all sentient beings gain the perfect realisation to free oneself from all sufferings caused by ignorance, attachment & anger.
Namo Amitabha.

Mother cat

2006-11-30T21:33:00.000+08:00

At a glance.
"it neither ran away in the face of "danger", nor did it try to be "aggressive". Its mew was very simple & straight forward. Something like "What do you want?", "If you want to hurt me, there is nothing I can do." Its was a very humble & honest mew. Her eyes were very beautiful, peaceful & loving just as every mother's eyes in the world."

"Life is actually very straight forward. "You reap what you sow". "CauseS, conditionS & effectS". Yes, life may not be smooth sailing for everyone, but is should not be that complicated. Life is difficult because humans are difficult to please. Life becomes difficult when we have high expectations that others may find difficult to satisfy. We made things complicated & often ended up doing more things & the wrong things."

Mother Cat
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I love cats. Sometimes on impulse, I would buy a bag of cat food & walk down several streets feeding stray cats. I would smile at stray cats that I see & playing with those that do not fear humans. Many years ago when I was still very young, I have neutral feelings towards cats & small animals. I have chased cats out of playfulness though I could never catch up with them. Chasing them as I was intrigue & amazed by how they fast they can run. I just want to try catching them, but have no intention of hurting them. We used to play "catching" with neighbouring children when we were young. Sometimes I would "play" with the cats. =p . Luckily, as far as I can remember, this foolish act happened for less than four times. If a cat didn't want to run, I would not chase it, but left it alone.

A cat that I have once chased changed my life. Changing the way I treat cats & other animals. It is because of this mother cat, I have learnt to respect & love animals. Viewing animals with equal respect to human beings. Through the many experiences with cats & animals, I have learnt many valuable lessons. This article is but just one of the many.

It was after school & I was at the ground floor loitering around. Upon seeing a stray cat, I tried chasing it. The cat ran for a few metres & look back at me in the eyes. It mew gently at me & seem to tell me that it doesn't want to run away from me. I followed it to level two & found several of her kittens. She was very skinny, rag & bone. Gathering her kittens she lie down & started breast-feeding them. It was a very heart warming sight. A sight which words may find difficult to describe. I just felt I could never chase such a peaceful loving animal, that is the mother of one. Its so inhumane. I watch them for awhile, pet her on the head & left. From that very day on, whenever I saw a stray cat, I will spend whatever pocket money I had to buy them milk. The money could have been spent on snacks, but the joy of UNCONDITIONAL giving is far beyond what words could describe.

In our hustle & bustle of daily life, we may have taken the lives of others for granted. The cat had been very brave, it neither ran away in the face of "danger", nor did it try to be "aggressive". Its mew was very simple & straight forward. Something like "What do you want?", "If you want to hurt me, there is nothing I can do, but I am NOT GOING TO RUN" Its was a very humble & honest mew. Her eyes were very beautiful, peaceful & loving just as every mother's eyes in the world.

Animals & humans are no different & some animals are more humane than human beings. We both have children & parents. We care, love & work to protect our families. No animals wants to be separated from their families or children. We are all living beings of this blue planet.

Loving someone & giving unconditionally expecting nothing in return is a more beautiful feeling than trying to gain something out of someone or to hurt someone to fulfil one distorted desire. If only we could realise that someone we hate is a loving parent of another person & there is another being out there who need this person, as much as another person may need you.

In our busy life, a lot of us spend our life away working very hard to "catch" the things we want or need. In our urgency to "catch" these things, we have neglected others or may have hurt others & ourselves unknowingly. If we could have learnt to clam down, be more aware & be more sensitive to the things around us, life could have been more smooth sailing. Life is actually very straight forward. "You reap what you sow". "CauseS, conditionS & effectS". Yes, life may not be smooth sailing for everyone, but is should not be that complicated. Life is difficult because humans are difficult to please. Life becomes difficult when we have high expectations that others may find difficult to satisfy. We made things complicated & often ended up doing more things & the wrong things. When I was in the army, we had a slogan. "Do it RIGHT the FIRST time." Try to save time & you may end up wasting more time.

I have learnt in my job to not try to "argue" or to "find excuse". If needed, "ADMIT" I am weak in this product, but to try to improve in what ever we could do to make up for it. It is okay to be weaker than others. There is bound to be someone in life who is better or stronger than us. More advantage. Being HUMBLE is the key. "Admit it", & others can no longer "get" you. Just as the brave mother cat did. Honestly standing up to me in the face of "danger"

Best regards
May you & family enjoy health, bliss & happiness.
Amitbha

Disney Pixar CARS

2006-11-29T08:49:00.000+08:00

"A meaningful story of how a self-centered & arrogant race car realises that there are more important things in life than winning. To the extent of giving up his own dreams, he fulfil those of others..."

Disney & Pixar has always weaved fantastic heart warming stories suitable for all ages. CARS has a beautiful story plot of how a a self-centered & arrogant race car learn that there are more important things in life than winning. Although being quite successful in his career, he doesn't have any true friends yet. While serving his terms in a remote area due to an accident, he slowly learn to makes friends with the folks living there whom he had disliked initially.

CARS is a very nice show with a lot of cute humor & fantastic graphics. The music are appropriate & the graphic rendering are fantastic.

Worth catching it if you haven't.

Best regards

Monday, November 27

2006-11-27T12:26:00.000+08:00

"EVERYONE wants to win, someone just have to give in."
"Rather NOT promise, then promise, yet cannot achieve that promise."

Quite a bad night, had nightmare after having conversation with a girl(feminist =) whom I met at a volunteer activity. Morning isn't that good, was bargaining with a buyer of my auctions. "Rather NOT promise, then promise, yet cannot achieve that promise."

IT IS NOT THEIR fault, thats what I share in sms with a friend. Its is my limitation. I am too selfish & lazy a person. This is constructive realism. I wanted to gain quickly with minimal giving. If people is nice, to me, I would be nice double. That is easy, ANYONE can achieve this.

Can anyone be like my boss, able to receive insults & humiliation from customers, disrespect from staffs yet still maintain his humbleness & humiliaty... I can't, but that is the ONLY way to GENUINE happiness.

EVERYONE wants to win, someone just have to give in.

Every being as minute as an insect has the right to choose his path to ensure his freedom, whats more a man's freedom.

If I have to pay so much to assist & give to an un-understanding girlfriend, what is the purpose of life? Live is TWO WAY constructive, mutual assisting. The idea that women is physically weaker is just a theory. Go read up more & you realise, women have longer lifespan & smaller BUT more effective brains.

May all beings realise enjoy bliss & peace from WITHIN.

EHI

2006-11-26T22:11:00.000+08:00

Ehi Passiko: Pali phrase, meaning 'Come and experience for yourself!'

EHI - Everymoment.Has.It

At a glance
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"Many GREAT people have realised, MEN(& women) PAID TOO HIGH A PRICE FOR SEX."

"RELATION is about RELATIng... able to communicate"

"If some people think Buddhism is a very difficult/independent religion & that we have to be self reliance, then they may not be right. Human beings are social beings & we need help & company. Historical Buddha(Shakyamuni Buddha) never died, he enter Mahaparinibbana. There are still COUNTLESS BUDDHAS & Buddhisattvas out there, one of which is AMITABHA Buddha, Buddha of INFITE light & life. I have VCDs of testimonies. AS long as you VOW to be SAVED by Amitabha Buddha, that when your life come to an end, you want to seek a rebirth in pure land, he will not forsake you. (science: energy cannot be created nor DESTROYED)" Such great compassion & vows. By the way, he never say, if you don't believe me, you will go to hell. It is OKAY, if you don't want to believe him & go to him."

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Thank you for taking the time to read my blog.
Many things happen every day & there is no way for me to pen everything down, as certain feelings & realisations are not what words can easily describe. I mantain this blog with several intentions.
1. To pen down my relisations so as to easily organise my thoughts when I met with any problems & difficulties.
2. To pen down my happiness if any.
3. To let people who care about me, understand me better.

Please kindly understand that I am as many people may realise that we are still learning & many old articles of mine may appear childish & unrealistics.

Its only when you believe you are sick, will you want to see a doctor(of course you have to choose a "RIGHT" one). Many of us understand how "cannot make it" we are thats why we adopt a "teaching/philosophy/religious" to improve ourselves. WE ARE JUST the SAME as you folks. We too desire happiness & want to improve. We are learning.

As everyone deep down desire, I too want to be recognised for the "right things"

What do I really desire, I want to be someone whom is remembered by others to be a nice person. Yes, I know I can never be fantastic as there ARE too MANY people out there 1000s times better than me, but I want to be nice. yes, it is a dream a desire, maybe slightly idealistic, but what a wonderful place this world could be if everyone just learn to care for others.

Many things happened recently, lots of conflicts. If you are interested to know more, please read the next few blogs, which I am going to update soon. They may be of use as a valuable lessons for you to realise too.

I volunteer for an activity today. I barely can remember when was the last time I volunteer... , I have been very lazy for these past few years, as I realised along the way that sometimes "giving is only a mean to an end, not an end itself". One should help when needed, not when someone don't & you still go an help. (Real life story in next article). If you help well, people may not thank you. That is okay, helping should be purely with others in mind, expecting almost nothing in return. If things don't turn out well, people may blame you, there is where unhappiness comes in.

I learnt many things, today. Met several new people, whom I don't know if they consider me as friends. It doesn't matter. I am already very happy of having learn something new/re-affirm current beliefs that I already held.

Men are really .... thick skinned? okay, I have ego & PRIDE. I hate to lower myself to "prop up"/"chase after" someone. I don't agree with other men(even though I am one) is that, "some" men can be so persistent in chasing after a girl, even when the girls have rejected them... In the first place, why do we/they need to be so "cheap/low down"? What do you gain by wasting your time/energy/effort to "chase" after someone, only to be rejected. What is the big deal about this woman? Can she bring you ETERNAL SALVATION? Sorry, the same applies to men too. We can't bring eternal salvation to women as well.

OKAY I HATE rejection, pardon me for my pride.

Then again, I FULLY understand that the IDEAL context would be both party "assisting/helping" each other. Living a FUFILLING/REWARDING lifestyle. Learning to accept each other's differences and each other's shortcoming, using each strength to make it up.

So what have I really learnt?

1. RELATION is about RELATIng, ability to COMMUNICATE & Understand, if you cannot find a "GOOD" girl/guys, why bother? Its going to get worse & more stressful.

2. YES, GUYS have the RIGHT to choose. (Its for her own good too) We are still human, yes the ideal is about giving each other more happiness, but do OTHERS REALLY want you to LOVE THEM? Find a girl who SHARE similar interst/beliefs as you, at least you can have something in common to live together with. Else everyday you are really going to have conflict.

3. I really desire EQUALITY. I want to be in a world(BUDDHA's Pure Land) where people can live together in BLISS & EQUALITY. I am really tired(at times) where MEN & WOMEN are so different.

What do I want to choose in a girl, before I GIVE EVERYTHING?

She MUST love/respect lifes(animals) - a person who can respect lifes so minute as a small animal, will more likely respect human. She should respect/love/care for my parent, & I myself will in turn try my very best to love/care/respect her parent.

She MUST be a Buddhist. Being a Buddhist, she should understand, we(as long as we are living) have PROBLEMS, that is why "I" need to CULTIVATE to solve our problems as ALL problems are caused by OURSELVES, NOT others, NOR a creator that know we will hurt others & ourselves still let us hurt others. The 3 SEALS of the Buddha. Everything is impermanent, everything has no FIXED self(commonly misunderstood as NOTHING), Nirvana is BLISS.

Else, why should I(as some girls realised) let my testerones doing the thinking for me? Many GREAT people have realised, MEN(& women) PAID TOO HIGH A PRICE FOR SEX.

Best if she is a Pure Land Practitioner (Amitabha Buddha's faith). Note: Shakyamuni Buddha don't usually give a discourse unless requested, as he knows one method suitable for one person, may not be for another. Moreover deluded human beings generally don't like to listen to others "teaching/preaching" them. Amitabha Sutra is one of the few rare sutras, that Shkyamuni Buddha give a discourse without being asked & a discourse no other people have the chance to asked.

If some people think Buddhism is a very difficult/independent religion & that we have to be self reliance, then they may not be right. Human beings are social beings & we need help & company. Historical Buddha(Shakyamuni Buddha) never died, he enter Mahaparinibbana. There are still COUNTLESS BUDDHAS & Buddhisattvas out there, one of which is AMITABHA Buddha, Buddha of INFITE light & life. I have VCDs of testimonies. AS long as you VOW to be SAVED by Amitabha Buddha, that when your life come to an end, you want to seek a rebirth in pure land, he will not forsake you. (science: energy cannot be created nor DESTROYED)" Such great compassion & vows. By the way, he never say, if you don't believe me, you will go to hell. It is OKAY, if you don't want to believe him & go to him."

May ALL sentient beings enjoy health, bliss & happiness.
AMITABHA, AMITABHA, AMITABHA

Comparison=unhappiness

2006-09-26T22:05:00.000+08:00

"Comparison is one of the reaons for the source of argument, conflict & unhappiness"

Have been talking(sms_ing) someone on the phone. He likes Power Ranger, but I prefer Sentai(Japanese Original Franchise). See also: source link below.

It is partially my fault for being "attached" to "ORIGINALity". My characteristics are laziness, selfish & REFUSAL to ADMIT defeat when I ARGUE/debate with people ^_~. *evil smile*

In sentai (even though their target audience are small children). Many insights can be taught & realised. Things like "sometimes, it can be TOO late", "even monsters(living beast) have feelings, in that they have love & protect their offsprings" & "the villian became a villian NOT because he/she is BORN to be a villian but that he/she has "touching" reasons". "Sometimes you have to "kill" one life to save many other lives."

In power rangers? According to the sources listed below? Copy, cut & paste from sentai, added beef up more COLOURS, just to sell toys? You decide. *evil grin* okay, they do have nice added stuffs here & there, BUT the GIRLS of SENTAI/TOKU RULES. EVEN TCS girls CANNOT compare... opps... I just "compared" =p

Their pics. e.g.
Ayumi Kinoshita (Deka Yellow)
Nao Nagasawa (Hurricanger Blue) & LOTS more see below
http://www.sgcollect.com/forum/index.php?showtopic=32492&hl=girls
http://www.sgcollect.com/forum/index.php?showtopic=29011&hl=girls

Source:
http://www.tv.com/power-rangers/the-yolks-on-you!/episode/30650/summary.html
http://members.tripod.com/~gohanson/zyuranger.html
http://www.tvwiki.tv/wiki/Kyoryuu_Sentai_ZyuRanger
http://www.fortunecity.com/tatooine/halojones/75/sentai/zyuranger.html

Episode 33 The Yolk's on You! (Power Ranger Version) A monster who just like eggs & destory?
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http://www.tv.com/power-rangers/the-yolks-on-you!/episode/30650/summary.html
There's a big talent show at Angel Grove High School. On the way there to assist Jason in a Martial Arts themed skill, Tommy gets captured by a group of Putties. On the moon, Finster creates the Fang monster for Rita's birthday. The Leo Gorcy-type voiced creature becomes enraged when Baboo & Squatt eat his Gooney Bird eggs. They tell him that the Rangers have his eggs, and a battle occurs. Tommy's freed, and the Ultrazord is used to end this case of framery.

Quotes:
Fang: You ate my gooney bird eggs! Do you know how hard it is to find these? You can't just walk into a store and buy these, you know! I was going to have those eggs for lunch!Squatt: Really? They were good!Fang: Were good?! I'll tear you apart!

Fang: Rita says you have eggs; I want them now!

Jason: Back off! We don't have any eggs. Rita lied to you, but if you don't stop fighting, we're gonna make you stop, got it?

Fang: No! I'm going to get you!

Episode #39 "Tears of Underground Monster..."(Zyuranger Version: A beast who out of loss of its children get manipulated... see more below)
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An earthquake brings an underground monster Goda onto the surface. Despite its monstrous looks, Goda has a gentle heart. Yet, Bandora abuses Goda's power to defeat Zyurangers.
A underground monster who was powerful, but had a gentle heart. Goda rarely lays eggs, so he was extremely protective of his line. He lost it when two of his eggs were devoured by Bandora's gang, who then gave the blame to the ZyuRangers. After Goda ran off, Bandora toyed with Goda's emotions by saying she'll restore his eggs if he destroys the ZyuRangers for her. He agreed, being filled with a hatred of humans as he enlarges(manifested by bandora). Despite their plea, Goda was too hate-filled and had to be killed. But the last egg would hatch eventually, with a new Goda to be born.

The zyurangers were put into a very difficult situation, for their purpose is to protect lives & Geki didn't want to kill Goda. Goda caused a bus to blow up in flame & threated to break the dam(commanded by bandora) Daijuujin was trashed as geki refused to kill Goda, until Burai appeared & persuaded Geki to stop, sometimes you have to kill one life to save more lifes.
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In zyuranger, some Monsters have reasons to appear. They are LIVING beings with emotions just as in REAL life, BEAST, although fierce(protective) also wanted to protect their offspring. The biggest mistakes human made are thinking ONLY we have feelings. That is a very selfish thought.

Bandora: (from souce)"Sure, you look at Bandora and you think she's evil and nasty. Wanting to wipe out all the dinosaurs, including Homo Dinosaurus. What's her beef? Eh? Well, in Power Rangers she had no beef. She was just evil and wanted power. But you see, Bandora did have a beef, and a very strong one at that. She was a queen in her own right, with a son who was the apple of her eye. Kai. Unfortunately, he was a bit of a bad apple. He was fooling around one day, breaking open dinosaur eggs, when a parent dinosaur caught him at it and chased him off a cliff. Bandora only witnessed the attack, and she went mad in her grief. She swore alliance to Dai Satan for the power to avenge her son's death..."

FROM:http://www.fortunecity.com/tatooine/halojones/75/sentai/zrburai.html

"You see, the Japanese are not afraid to say, "Sometimes it can be too late." I admire that in a story. Hard though it was, they chose to keep it that Brai died. They even had a postcard writing campaign, where you could write to Clotho to beg her for Brai's life. They got a LOT of postcards, but they remained faithful to their storyline and he died. I'm glad of that. He never came back, which he would have if this was Power Rangers. Heroes don't die. Particularly not heroes who have given up everything to save the world. If they come close, like Karone, hey they get healed and become the Pink Ranger (who also did not die, she reappeared alive, with Maya's people). That takes all the seriousness out of it. And you have to remember, the Sentai target audience is actually YOUNGER than the Power Rangers target audience!"

Take care my friend

2006-09-25T22:19:00.000+08:00

As I wrote this letter, this is the third week I have not been
sleeping well, due to old infection of the ear, lungs & bronchi tube. I
can't even meditate for less than a minute due to breathing difficulties &
body fatigue caused by sickness & further lack of sleep.

"The moment you realise, you can loose no MORE, you basically have nothing LEFT to loose." "You can't even master yourself, how can you even CARE for (be disturbed by) others?" "The one who has run many miles, want to rest, yet the one without the uses of legs hope he/she can run just once."

Dear Friend,

if you could just spend that few seconds to reflect the many times in life, you almost lost any important part of your body, even your life, maybe your view of life of tomorrow would change...

I am writing this letter to you NOW, because no one on earth can be certain that this may not be the last letter I can write. If this is true, then any unhappiness, any emotional(mental) unrest, any silly, selfish, remarks made by others seems so mediocre, for life is so brittle, painful to some, yet any sentient beings want to live, no matter how tough life may seem. Even a small little ant would run. A small little ant have no(little) choice. A human have "slightly" more choice, but it is up to him/her to use this choice.

I have never deny since the beginning that mind is the forerunner of all things including the body. The body is the result of the mind(beliefs & views). Thus the body does not differ from the MIND. The body in turn provides sensation to the mind changing its VIEWS & BELIEFs. The person who is sick in the mind, is already(will soon be) sick in the body. The person sick in the body is a RESULT of being sick in the mind.

Both are no difference. Its understandable every beings one to be MORE than others. Sentient beings for certain strange reaons want to compete & compare (i myself being guilty, just observe the world around yourself). Be it better grades, pay, possesion, children EVEN suffering(e.g my child suffers more, my work is toughER... etc.) if one wants to debate which is more serious, there is no point. Human beings wants to debate even EXPLAIN to others, because we fear "loosing" something, ANYthing or am attached to something, anything. (Including myself, I too fear loosing) Be it the people we are talking to, trying to "explain" to BOTH the people outside & ourselves inside. Insanity is a sign of unhappiness, inability to let go, the slightest fear, emotional worries, & whatever you name it - the by product & result of all NEGATIVE emotions. The insane person FEAR LOOSING or is ATTACHed to something (still fear loosing, that's why he/she clings on to worries, troubles & remark). In the end he/she, LOSES control of both the mind & body. He/she LOST everything.

The one who has run many miles, want to rest, yet the one without the uses of legs hope he/she can run just once. The people inside the hospital hope to get out, the one outside want to take a rest. Both are equally sick BOTH in mind & body. If you don't understand now, maybe you will understand someday. No one can guarantee if the one inside the hospital can get out or the one outside gets in. Both are no different, both may be fooling themselves, but at least the one inside may be slightly "happier"

If you are not insane today, you still have hope. You can't change OUTside, but only your views. Yet this views of life have the power to shape your body, mind & future.

Unhappiness, Suffering is a PART of life no one can run. We ONLY have two choices.

Do what we can, LET OTHERS speak silly things, they go insane.

LET OTHERS speak silly things, Do until we can't, everyone ended up insane.

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Many people dread living at one point of time, but we want to live somewhere inside, let that part manifest out & LIVE well... now that you still have the chance.

Regards

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A 2nd letter.

Dear friend,
(I can wrote all this in SMS as SMS allow less than 150 characters.)
I have wanted to write to you, for I sense something serious. so do kindly Take these points """POSITIVELY""". I have hinted them throughout these years, but may have not been clear enough. Hope it helps you in life. READ them serious especially (point 4)

1. Please do NOT think I am negative. Positive & Negative are EMPTY words of the samsara beings. (see point 4)

2. What happen when a person call a counseller & a counseller reply, don't be negative, my family is as bad... Imagine a medical officer doctor telling you, "Mai Chao Keng"(malingering), you are negative, NOT THAT BAD. "My boss is worse", "MY work more stress.."
Maybe it is done out of good will to help the person see things more "positively", but the more you try to "lighten" this person, "insulting" to the listener, the more he/she will try to exaggerate his/her problems

When (ANY) person tells you a problem, do not take it (LIGHTLY). "Degrading" it as being negative. PLEASE DON'T even compare. Comparison can lead to war. EVERYONE has ego, no one like to be asked how he/she is, does he/she has any problem, only to hear that the listener has a MORE bigger problem or his/her problem is not as serious as the listener. NEVER COMPARE. PERIOD, everyone every case is DIFFERENT. PERIOD, don't compare. Your depression & my health are TWO DIFFERENT things. EVERYONE wants to be the centre of attraction, thus they blow things out of proportion but doesn't mean they are UNWELL.

3. As a man looking through the green lens sees the world green.A negative persons sees even the most "real" positive things as being "negative". That is even he/she is being presented with a "positive" thoughts this person takes it as being negative. That means if you see someone as being negative, WITHOUT proper understanding, high chance is you are negative as well.

4. As mentioned Positive & Negative are samsaric laymen perception. This world is basic. NO POSITIVE. NO NEGATIVE. STOP looking at things POSITIVELY or NEGATIVELY. EITHER leads to INSANITY. One makes you a happy madman, the other makes you an unhappy madman.

A positive person paints the world so beautiful, that when one day the world turns upside down for him, he went crazy. He is NOT prepared for it. NUMBNESS is NOT cultivation. It makes you no difference from a piece of dead wood. A negative person, blows things out of proportion, emphasizing only on pain, even the most sweetest fruit taste weird for him. Then again. What is truth.
THERE IS NO positive or negative. Everything is EMPTY. Transcendental, nothing has a FIXED form.

So What am I trying to tell you?

A. BE NEUTRAL. Is the glass half full or half empty?A postive person see both half full & half empty as being positive. One is ENOUGH(contenment) the other is ability to learn/grow(humility)What is a neutral person answer? WHO CARES? Why waste energy """labelling""" """judging"""" If you are thirsty, just drink, why care the unnecessary? Every samsaric being makes the mistake of wanting to label to judge, come on.... NOT TIRED or too much energy?

B. LOOK at the BIGGER picture. Life is about ACCOMDATING. Energy moves from one place to another. There is no such thing as everyone gets the SAME thing.Someone has to give to allow someone to receive. LOOK at the bigger picture. It is pure science.
C. The bigger picture is that human beings go easily. It doesn't mean the "positive" person is the one who works hard, gain all glory & names & possesion, etc. JUDGE not. Curse this word """judge""" . Understanding & REALISING that sickness & death is LIFE. Yes, everything is IMPERMANENT & has no FIXED form.Understanding that sickness & dath is LIFE is """not""" negative. It is about getting prepared. What is the point of HOGGING on to something? I have USED, I HAVE enjoyed, just let someone else have it, that is """NEITHER""" POSTIVE & NEGATIVE. That is just NOTHING.. DON"T JUDGE, DON"T PERCEIVE, LET GO.
The insane mind is due to not being able to stop JUDGING & PERCEIVING.
Be prepared. BE neutral, See bigger picture.

JUDGE NOT... KILL THE WORD JUDGE. Understand ZEN/HEART SUTRA. Emptiness is form, form is emptiness, emptiness doesn't differ from form, form doesn't differ from emptiness, NO FOUR NOBLE TRUTHS, NO FOUR NOBLE thruths NO MIND & MATTER, NO MIND & Matter...
NO Postiveness, NO NO positiveness, NO Negativeness, NO NO negativeness. SCIENCE.
Moral: DROP IT!!!!! DROP IT!!! LET GO!!!. & you will not be crazy. =)
Best regardsColin

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A third letter
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http://www.menningerclinic.com/resources/Depression05.htm
"resentment plays a particularly powerful role in depression. Resentment is a chronic stressor, an enduring source of strain. I think of resentment as stifled anger; both the resentment and the stifling generate wear and tear on the mind and body."

I WANT you to UNDERSTAND that I UNDERSTAND you are going through a tough time & that I UNDERSTAND MORE THAN ANYONE around you that everone is DIFFERENT. No two teachers are alike. So with this knowledge, you can be assured, I am absolutely neutral, yet have knowledge of your difficulties, why? Although we are DIFFERENT, in overall, everything balance out. A visually impaired man although blind, may be more sensitve than an average human in hearing. Everything BALANCE out, depending how you see it. Yes, simple to say easy to do, but I am a living proof. Why am i able to say all these, cos I have FALLEN many times & realise from each fall.(if you want to read more about me, what had happened to me, see below)
Loosing is never loosing, winning is never loosing, understanding everything is IN THE MIND. How you perceive, but I am NOT advocating, LYING to oneself or feeling NUMB. When it is bitter you say it is sweet, that is LYING to oneself. All when someone hurl abuse at you, you just look at the other person blank in the face, that is numbness.

A person who cannot feel pain, will not want to IMPROVE his conditions. A person who realises his shortcoming & ACCEPT his shortcoming will work hard to improve. He is NOT negative when he is the stage of IDENTIFYING his problems. I hate to say it that a positive man could be a LAZY/FOOLISH man who lies to himself. Of course a negative man could also be LAZY/FOOLISH as well, thus negative/positive is ONLY in the mind. It is UNREAL EMPTY.

Actually living is that straight forward(although it may not be smooth sailing). I know you are having lots of difficulties, with so much burden & work on your side, trying to answer to so many people. Yet fully understand your limit. You have to prioritise.

What does it mean. In life, you CAN'T do things for everyone, I believe you would have already understand. When you try to please everyone, you ended up pleasing no one. LET GO of some people, prioritise, who are the people in your job that requires PRIMARY attention. What are the things that requires PRIMARY attention.If you can't do it, ADMIT it, just move on. Don't ever think of doing everything well. You PURPOSE on earth is... Actually there is NO PURPOSE on earth.. we are just transcendental beings. IT is due to our ignorance of a SELF/Attachment/condtions that we are reborn. Just be like a TEMPORARY guest. DO WHAT you can, DON"T even try to strain yourself, it defeats purpose.

It is really that simple. It is NOT that difficult to "LET go", just do what you can(so called your best).

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About me
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I have never been healthy since young. Falling sick often Underweight. I would usually take about two weeks to recover. Do you know I have mitral valve prolapse, & that even a simple tooth extracting, I need antibiotics to prevent bateria from entering the heart. Yes, it is really nothing serious, I try to make it sound so. I KNOW. Trust me, the crash of world trade centre is NOT serious...world war also not serious. see it is all perception here. How serious is SERIOUS? It is not important, I have never been healthy as COMPARED to others. Yes, maybe I was negative & negative makes things worse.

When I enter army, I was really suffering. The people around me, told me that we are in a really bad company. Yes, you as a reader may think so, again it is all perception. No point comparing. I have never been healthy & life was really suffering. I remember on the morning of the 4KM full battle order road march, my mood was so bad, & that I was so depressed, with tears in eyes, I can't even bite the bread. So depressed that I asked myself why do I have to go through. I remember the night when I was so desperate to recover from a sore throat, as sore throat usually would make me fall sick, I suck a piece of lozenges in my mouth. When I woke up in the morning, the piece of lozenge is still there. Imagine having choke on it. To me life that time is like I am already a walking half dead corpse. Never even want to think of time.
During the 4KM road march (yes it may be easy for you as a reader or to anyone, that is because you folks are healthier). I am the last person to walk back. I felt like dying. I was only 37KG & the weight is just too much for me to bear. I suffered from many times of Pneumonia, Accute Sinus Infection & finally bronchitis when I ORD.

Life in the army was tough, but of course there are happy moments. Who says life is tough for a clerk. The unit I was in, is a stay out unit. Yet I often stay back late until 1am doing reports & such. That is why I told you I understand. Is there something UNNECESSARY that you are doing that is draining your time? A poly lecturer once told me that it is IMPOSSIBLE to make all your lessos 100% perfect.Our unit has a very maticulous officer. I remember I dreaded/resent the office SO MUCH, that the thought of it make me VOMIT & I ended up in sick bay. Thus I told you MIND IS BODY, BODY don't differ from mind.

As mentioned, the already unhealthy body is further damaged by so much illnesss. If I have been negative, then I must also say I have a very STRONG mind as well(maybe this is positive). That is i will realise & KNOW more about LIFE from every fall. I may make the same mistakes again, as everything thing is DIFFERENT & no two incidents are IDENTICAL. Yet, I will try to realise & understand more about life.

I remember times when peers climb the corporate ladder yet here I am sitting at the stairs drinking soya bean as I have no money to buy lunch.

I have gone through various stages of disappointment. I have my share of family dispute when my father messes around outside, I have my share of conflict with collegues & with my boss.
That is why although we are different(no two things on earth can be alike), I dare say we all share unhappiness & resentment. there is NO ground for comparision who is in a more difficult situation. NO GROUND at all to compare, for everyone is different. If today you have NO calibre to be a teacher, you would not even have been able to go through the interview, the various exams, being two years already.

I have gone through, stages of negativity, stages of deluded optimism, stages of numbness not caring, & finally I realise, just do what you can do, don't be too hard, & ALWAYS BE HONEST to yourself & others. The project superstar audtion teach me one thing. BE HONEST.
If you say about insane, do you know everytime I walk pass level 11, I would thought of what will happen if I jump over hanging on the otherside. Yet I know I cant die, that is wasting LIFE, that is HURTING those people around you. That is very IRESPONSIBLE.

Understanding HONEsTY, understanding suffering, understanding the ways to get out of suffering. FREE yourself.

Live your next phase of life to be MORE caring. An insane person ONLY cares about himself, sad to say. Yes, he only thinks about himself as he resent & want things his way. Think about life. For me, I will have love in my heart everytime I sees a stray cat or a bird.
Grow this love, understand NO one is experience or not deluded & ignorant. It is not about imperfection, but that people are IGNORANT, that is why they care about themselves, hurting you, but your job is NOT to foolish positively please them. Your job is to try to compromise with them, gain in the process AT THE SAME time, & do what you can do. The rest, DON"T bother... RELAX, let them complain, stress you up, you stay calm. They want to go crazy, let them be, you live your life with love.

Explain to them if you need, just as now I am explaining to you, but if they still don't understand, you live yours.

Take care. REALAX, LET GO(of trying to please others OR NOT TRYING TO do things of others) we have to live, that's why we can't be hermit, it is about compromising.
That is a long letter, hope you understand that there is actually NOTHING to understand. The mind confuse things up. Understand? It is ALL EMPTINESS (ANNATA)
Life is that STRAIGHT forward. Simple to say, straight forward to choose/to do.

Take care.

Re: Letter for Toh Ai Kit

2006-09-21T08:32:00.000+08:00

http://www.everystudent.com.sg/ntu/testimonies
Keywords: NTU Buddhist Society , Toh Ai Kit, Shin
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I wrote a letter back (though I never got the chance to send to Ai Kit):

"As long as there is ONE BEING on EARTH with TEARS or DELUSION, BELIEFS of CREATION CEASED."

Dear Sir/Madam,

A letter like this can never convey my years ofthoughts. Pardon me if I do sound hard or imposing. My"attachment" of wanting people to realise the "truth"may have caused much unhappiness in others even myself due to my lack of sensitivity & skills in helping others.

I decide to write this article as chancing upon yoursite by chance I saw (another) person I know decided to take the faith. No sentient beings in his/her right mind would want to see other beings "suffer" or knowing something to not being right/wrong, & indulge in it. Then again, if someone likes something & don't seem to "suffer" as he/she "is enjoying"/loves it, then why should I stop him/her? Even if the person may "dislike" something, doesn't mean it is "wrong" either, why should I dissuade it in both case?

We are very similar, you & I, in that we are both"seekers of truths" & that we want to introduce to people, to get them to know/realise the "truth", be free from delusion, be happy & be free from unhappiness, yet our beliefs greatly differ. Why is that so? I hope you would be patient enough to read the letter through, for should what I say be "true", then all the more reasons, it should be shared to help many others, for should what I say be "untrue", then all the more reasons "seekers of truths" should address themisconceptions. Truths fear no questioning. I often asked myself, why is it that people who seek salvation in God able to progress/able to find happiness, despite all the "hard cold truths" aiming at the notion of an OMNIPOTENT/OMNIMISCENT CREATOR?

For years I came to understand ...

FIRSTLY, these people practises HUMBLE & HUMILITY. In GOOD times, these people with faith, would be full of"GRATITUDE". GRATEFUL for what they have to the KINDNESS of GOD, maybe others around(who are creations(servant) of GOD.) Being HUMBLE, HUMILITY & GRATEFUL, these people are more HAPPY & CONTENTED, with fewer expectations OF others. Life is ABOUT others, thus less pain on onself due to EGO, GREED, LUST,PRIDE, etc.

SECONDLY, with POSITIVITY & OPTIMISM, life starts to improve. "when your house get burnt, you are grateful that you can get out unhurt.", "when the plane crash,you are grateful, you are still alive..." Believing it to be the mercy of GOD.

THIRDLY, in tough times, one sees all as just a TEST of FAITH, DETERMINATION & COURAGE soon follow the person, that all will soon pass, as he/she has the STRENGTH given by GOD... EVEN if prayer is "temporary"NOT answered, they would believe TIME is not right & that GOD feel they don't deserve it ... yet.

I have seen people "HEALED" by GOD, but I have also seen the other facets of life that makes me "tears"upon the idea. Why? I am NOT against GOD of a particular religion but GOD as a belief of an omnipotent/omniscent all mighty being of existance(there is). Have you ever seen a WASP laying eggs into a LIVING caterpilla? If you have been stung by a harmless Bee, you will realise how painful it already is. The eggs would hatch into larvae & burst out from inside hurting the caterpilla. The larvae would then eat the caterpilla from inside alive, killing it slowly. Have you ever seen a heard of deer moving through the river full of crocodiles? Only few managed to get outalive through the BLOODY river. Why all these cruelties? Anacondas, komodos dragon, etc.Maybe these are "LIFELESS" "BEAST", one may think. Have one seen a human child born without limbs, ororgans undeveloped. Two children whose heads are joined together? Do they deserve it? We are living"happily" because we "believe" in the Gratitude of "GOD", but what about the billions who are suffering every second in every part of the Globe? 911 Crash,Tsunami, World Wars, People getting brutally killed & raped....They have SIN? They DESERVE it?

IS Sin/defilements/Dirtiness/evil REAL or UNREAL,EXISTING/NON EXisting? If it exist...

ONE: Impurities
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Does SIN/DEFILEMENTS/UNDESIRABLE/DIRTINESS comes fromWITHIN our bodies/mind or does it come from OUTSIDE? If it comes from WITHIN, then why was it INSIDE?LUST/GREED/SLOTH/ANGER/COUVETOUSness, why was it inside?

IF it came from outside, that means there is some part EXTERNAL to GOD. Does "blashemy" comes from within or external? A water's purities is determined by its source. If source is clean, there is no reason for its product to be dirty, for dirt can only comes from within/outside. In addtion to children born with impairment, do you realise how much pain are born by the family members? Some people say DIVERSITY bring colours, I have heard people saying without the UGLY/UNHEALTHY/POOR, you wouldn't see beautiful/healthy/RICH, but would you be the one who is UGLY/UNHEALTHY/POOR? Diversity don'tjust bring colours, DIVERSITY can bring pain/sufferingto people. People of these planet are born UNEQUAL.

TWO: EXISTANCE
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IS a being existance REAL or UNREAL? That is, "thereIS/HAS". IF a being DO exist, then can it EXIST without other BEINGs? IF ALL beings MUST EXIST with the help of other beings, that means NO being can exist without other beings. Then why is there a case of a BEING that exist, can EXIST without other being & that all other beings originates from him? If ONE being CAN exist, exist without the aid of other beings, then MORE than ONE other beings CAN ALSO exist without the aid ofother beings. Does INVALID the notion of OMNIPOTENT.

THREE: RESPONSIBILITIES & ATTRIBUTES
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All beings MUST take responsibilities for their work.Today I create(put together/compile) a single program,I must/will ensure(with best of my knowledge) the LEAST available FLAWs in the program for it to BENEFIT other people. Any damage to other people due to INTENDED harm should never be tolerated. Today if I compile a virus, the program itself has "INTENDED"harm. Any other hurt to other being if I have tried my best, in unintentional. Just as fire/knives/medicinemay help/hurt. If the CREATOR of the UNIVERSE is ALL MIGHTY,"he"/"she" should have already KNOWN. Why GO THROUGH ALL THESE troubles, to get people to have ATTRIBUTES of doing harm/intended/unintentional harm only to go about "punishing"/"saving" them after a whole deal? Creating HELL & DEVIL to tempt its creation? How can a PERFECT CLEAN creation turn UNCLEAN or UNHEALTHY? We are not talking about a programmer but creator of thesolar system?Would you break the legs of a bird only to "teach" ita lesson to later save it, to let it "thank" you & glorify you?

FOUR: DOUBTS & RELIGIOUS WARS
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Why is it that if at the end, GODs know everything, wants me to DOUBT HIM & YOU (to test your faith) only to later have everything sorted out nicely as he plan? On GLOBAL scale people to FIGHT & SHED BLOOD in fight & religious WARS? Is there a need?

FIVE: Our GREATEST barrier is ourselves.
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Maybe I sound imposing now.I understand people need support in times of weakness. Many people may call themselves BUDDHIST evenLEADER/PRESIDENT of a BUDDHIST orgainsation/society. A pity, many people may call themselves BUDDHIST, CHRISTIANs,or any other religions, but do they really know what these means? I believe you will agree that just becuse you call yourself a Christian today, doesn't make you a Christian in Actions. some Christians are MORE"BUDDHIST" than Buddhist, some Buddhist more Christians than Christians..."SUFFERING" / "UNHAPPINESS" occus because people COMPARE. Some PEOPLE makes others FEEL what they belive is "wrong". People wants to be "right". Many people labeled themselves Buddhist, seeking for"blessings", have yet to understand. When prayers/blessings is not realised, they seek salvation from ANOTHER TRUE GENUINE REAL GOD.... When their prayer/salvation is realised, they feel they hav finally found the REAL GOD... In the first place, if GOD is real, then why the commotion for real & unreal? Does ignorance/hindrance/failure to see the rEAL GOD,comes from within/without? Is there a need to let your creation go on wild goose chase?

The GRASS on the other side are always GREENER. People from the west are questioning their "default" faith to believe in GOD. On the other hand, we in Asia are embracing it. I don't deny the existance of "higher"beings, but that is another long story of thoughts there.If after reading all these, & you still decide to embrace a GENUINE TRUE GOD, then please kindly help me in your prayer to beg him there is no reason to make SO MANY people/animals SUFFER only to ... *I also cannot understand why "he" is doing all these*. All the more I CANNOT understand why people have to BELIEVE "he" the ALL mighty one actually exist to bring people trouble, to break the legs of a bird only to heal it.... So what do I believe & WHY do Ibelieve? that is another letter, that is IF you are interested...

Best regards
May all sentient beings be well & healthy, free fromEGO, DELUSION, SADNESS, ANGER, ATTACHMENT & GRIEF &FIND LIBERATION, INFINITE WISDOM in REALISING NON-SELF

Attitude 101 - John C. Maxwell

2006-06-29T11:23:00.000+08:00

Summary (May this be of help to anyone who would like to change their life)

"People always project on the outside how they feel on the inside." - John C. Maxwell
"Attitude is always a player on your team." "Attitude is really about how a person is. That overflows into how he acts."

"Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal. Nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude." - President Thomas Jefferson

1. Attitude have the power to lift up or tear down the team.
2. An attitude compounds when exposed to others.
3. Bad attitudes compound faster than good ones.
4. Attitudes are subjective, so identifying a wrong one can be difficult.
5. Rotten attitude, left alone ruin everything.

(Attitudes are subjective, so identifying a wrong one can be difficult.)
~ An inability to admit wrongdoing
~ Failing to forgive
~ Petty jealousy (desire for equality)
~ The disease of me (I am the one)
~ A critical spirit (everyone can do no right)
~ Desire to hog credit

for a friend who may be reading this.

2006-06-28T23:44:00.000+08:00

"People always project on the outside how they feel on the inside." - John C. Maxwell

"One who is stressed up is like a blown up ballon may burst any moment. A runner who barely even ran half the race displaying negative attitudes & emotions of stress, anxiety, agitation, anxiousness, annoyance, aversion & exasperation, how far more can he run before he snaps?"

"The reason people doubt their observations about other's attitudes is that attitudes are subjective. Someone with a bad attitude may not do anything illegal or unethical, yet his attitude may be ruining the team just the same." - John C. Maxwell

We understand it is easy for outsiders or third party to comment on a situation for he/she is not bounded by any conditions. Unfair or disturbing it may be, an external party is not affected emotionally & can make rational opinions or judgement. The actual party may know a lot more details & may have experienced a lot more than an outsider but these unhealthy experiences may be a bane more than a boon. Afterall every stituation is different.

One who has been emotionally affected may find the road ahead full of difficulties & hindrances. These difficulties & hindrances are created from within & is like a barrier to others, enslaving himself from within. Only he himself can break through it just with the simplest change in attitude.

I want to LIVE.

2006-06-26T16:46:00.000+08:00

Thank you for reading this blog. If you like to share your daily life experiences. Have anything unhappy or happy that you would like to say.
Please do visit us @ www.mettahut.net

A place where you would be heard. (No offensive things of course.)
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"If every breadth I exhale, is a breadth of life lost, may the remaining breadth, be used in something more worthwhile & meaningful."
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I admit that I have been foolish &amp; ignorant, very naive & gullible, abit rigid & vengeful... okay enough... @_@
I am a "scorpio" "sheep". =)

I also understand that I am still learning & trying hard to improve. I am currently learning piano, japanese, exercising myself daily by taking the stairs, doing push up, meditate more often... I always give up easily, so slowly, persevere I should. It is okay to be SLOW, REST, but do not STOP or retrogress.

There will always be people less fortunate than me, people more fortunate that me, people better than me, people who have their own problems & difficulties.

I am not supposed to compete with others, but to simply do my best as I could at that point of time. Competition/comparision has no end. There is no need to whine or to be envious. Everyone has their advantages & disadvantages. Everyone is DIFFERENT, face it.

Two things I want to focus in life.
A)Reducing/MINIMISING my ignorant actions that could cause hurt to others.

B)Increasing my AWARENESS & MINDFULNESS, knowledge, skills & TOLERANCE.
cultivating & practicing of
right speech(1), thoughts(2) & actions(3)
right understanding(4), mindfulness(5) & CONCENTRATION(6)
Making/MAINTAINing the EFFORT(7).
Living(8) simply, work honestly.

Things I should not see, shut my eyes, things I don't like to hear, keep quiet.
Others mistakes is for others to bear, for me to learn, I should not care... UNless the party ask me sincerely... My mistakes is for me to change to correct. Time for me to really KEEP really quiet, to learn to TAKE care of myself. Salvation is from WITHIN not from outside.

"By not hurting others it is already doing GOOD."
"By trying to do "good", we may end up hurting others due to our attachment, ignorance & inexperience..."

"Wisdom is not HURTING 1self, not giving 1self more PROBLEMS."
"Compassion is not HURTING others, not giving others more PROBLEMS."

Women & Men

2006-06-26T10:20:00.000+08:00

May this article be of benefit to anyone sharing the tough road of survival & learning how to live in the new century.

Before you read this article, you may want to read the books of:

American Enterprise Institute scholar Christina Hoff Sommers
Some links:
http://reason.com/0102/fe.cy.where.shtml
http://www.deltabravo.net/custody/waronboys.php

http://peoplerelationships.syl.com/battleofsexes/differences

I have yet to personally read through the links in detail, please kindly read with discretion.
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"Have you ever felt suppressed in life, unable to make a breakthrough? Have you ever felt that you can no longer trust someone? Have you ever felt tiring about giving & others just don't reciprocate?" Read on.

"It takes two hands to clap."

"In many assault cases, we see one who has physcially assualted the other, but have we seen the other who has emotionally assaulted one?

In many assault cases, the one who has physically assualted the other, gets punished(by the law, oneself & others), because foolish, he/she has not covered his/her tracks well, but have the other who has emotionally assaulted the one gets punished(by the law, oneself & others) because he/she has covered his/her tracks well?"

I am not against any of the sexes, I hope that from months if not years of oberservation on many aspects of life can help me realise the best of the virtues of both sexes.

"Words/FORMS(shapes) are used to describe an object/subject, but it is NOT the object/subject itself. Without words, without FORMS, we may end up being confused what/how the actual thing is like, we have no road to walk, no vehicles for us to hold on to. Yet attaching/clinging on to these forms, these vehicles, we may be equally confused & distant from the true nature of things." Please do not cling on to anything you have read, heard or seen.

"No two fingers are alike."

Every being is different, not just men or women. Although we share many similarites we are not IDENTICAL.
Regardless of whether it is cultural conditioning or genetic makeup, many of us tend to make the mistake of stereotyping, clinging on to the past & unable to let go of the future.

There is NOTHING "wrong" with accepting one's flaw, strength & weakness. One need to first accept ONEself, before one can improve oneself & finally LEARN to accept others THE WAY THEY ARE.

One of the reason for distress & frustration is due to the inability to ACCEPT. The thought of "I want to "change" but I CANNOT." Wanting to change others is the most foolish thing to do, simply because it CHALLENGES, it is AGAINST the tide of the current.

Unable to let of of the past, simply means we no longer have the courage to move forward, we have been restraint by FEAR, memories of DEFEAT & UNCERTAINTY. Living in the past of others FLAWS, HURT & PAIN, we may no long TRUST, be PATIENT or FORGIVING towards others.

BOTH men & women share certain flaws(weakness), not just men alone or women alone.

Its a myth to believe that women are the weaker sex. They have a LOT more advantage than men. A majority can recover FASTER than men. In the new century & due to social advantages they are even more empowerd than before.

I hope I have not stereotype. I myself am a believer of Non-self. Which means, sometimes a man may be more "woman" than women, or a women more "man" than men.

All these are my personal observation, from what I have read & may only be served as a guide.

The strength of women
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- As early as when young, a woman knows how to take care of herself both in her studies, body & mind.
- Due to nature & genetic makeup(fewer testerone level) , she can sit longer, be focus, quiet & concentrate better in her studies than other boys of the same age. This will give her a greater advantage & she has better foundations. (kindly read Christina Hoff Sommers 's article)
- Being a more "gentle", "fairer", more "subtle" sex, she has the skill to manage people, which makes her even more successful. People orientated. Relationship orientated.
- Women are generally more articulated & can express herself better.
- Her physical attributes makes her pleasing to the eyes/ears of others. She has already won half the war with "first impression". Cultural conditioning makes her look "passive", "gentle", "non-violence" & other "positive" attributes makes her "seem" incapable of "offensive" "damages" & threat. This puts her in better position in sales & business, as well as in lines directly dealing with people childcare, counselling, nursing etc.
- A woman may not just concentrate on getting the work or job done, but will also touch on other aspects related to getting the job done. Maticulous, sensitive & able to see things from various perspectives increases her success. This may at times be labelled "too much thinking/irrational"
- A woman knows how to "pamper" herself & be "pampered" by her partner. She finds satisfaction in treating herself well. (Men regards performance as priority).
- Social aspects, generally a women has a higher advantage when it comes to choosing a partner. She has more choices & can CHOOSE. Generally she is the one being pursued rather than pursue. Saving herself a great deal of life, energy, money & time. She has a better advantage to be pleased than to please. She can just drop a current boyfriend who may have spent a deal of life chasing her & there will still be people out there waiting for her.
- Women can talk her problems over with her friends, reducing her a greater amount of stress.

* I will continue on the strength/weakness of men tomorrow... I am very tired... *

Relationship 101 by John C. Maxwell

2006-06-25T13:13:00.000+08:00

Pick up a book : Relationships 101 from Joh C. Maxwell.

I never had the habit of reading from paper books as I can get dizzyspells. I prefer to read from the LCD monitor.

Reading on train can be a good way to spend time... that is if I don't miss the train stops, which often I did.

I am picking up the interest to learn again. Learning is for life. I prefer to learn to improve myself so as to benefit myself & others not because I have to "survive", or because it is the "IN" thing.

Here is some little tips I got from the book.

Relationships begin with RESPECTS. The desire to place value on other people

- Respect (The desire to place value on other people)
- Shared Experiences (enjoying similar interest & doing things together)
- Trust ("to be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved" - George Macdonald)
- Reciprocity (It takes two hands to clap. Ask others their desire, hope & goals, Care)
- Mutual Enjoyment (Just being together can turn even unpleasant tasks into positive experiences)

Why People fail to understand others...

(to be continued)

Don't ever aruge (especially with the customers)

2006-06-22T21:42:00.000+08:00

"Speak clearly, ASK clearly, Do NOT assume, Do NOT argue."
"Do not shift blame, do not give excuse, APPOLOGISE, EXPLAIN difficulties & OFFER solutions."
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I met a friend at Funan centre this evening while working. He is a very nice guy whom weeks ago came all the way down from Jurong to Bedok just to pass me something which I bought from him. I really appreciate it. Selling to me at a loss & coming all the way down. I barely knew him then. I treated him & another friend of ours to a cup of coffee that very night but just felt it wasn't enough to thank them.

I quickly went to a nearby drink stall in Funan centre located at level 5 hoping to buy him another drink & some snacks. In my haste, hoping he is still around nearby, I asked the lady for two cup of coffee & prepare to pay at the counter. I ordered some snacks at the same time from another girl at the counter while waiting for her collegue to prepare my coffee. The girl at the counter whom having pass to me the snacks reminded her collegue that I am taking away. The lady preparing the coffee look rather frustrated & annoyed that I had not told her that I am taking the coffee away. I appologised. As she is preparing the coffee, she kept complaining & whining about the trouble I have caused. I became slightly disturbed but maintain my composure explaining, that I would not have paid & still standing at the counter if I were to have it here, moreover, it is not wrong to say cup, for even for taking away, coffee are held in paper CUPs. On top of that, why is the girl able to know I am taking away, yet not her? The little hints, like carrying a bag, wanting to rush off, asking her to put the snacks in separate bags.

I was rushing & I do not like confrontation with people. I just told her straight that I do not want to argue with her. I am rushing for time. I understand that it was my fault not to specify in details, but it is also her duty to ask, not to assume. Understand this, I am a customer, embarrassed me or annoyed me, I could just go to another store or avoid you.

I am working too & being in a small wholesale company, I need to handle different types of people from different walks of life. From retailers to walk in individual consumers. Frustrated with price or having difficulties with their products bought for our retailers who have not communicated properly to them.

I used to be very "vengeful", trying to embarrass them by proving to them that there is nothing wrong with their product, etc. Along the way, I have learned that it is pointless to ARGUE with people, especially your customers or to embarrass them. There is no need to bootlick them or to say things nice but not true or useless, but at the least, DO NOT ARGUE(1). Appologise(2) and explain any difficulites(3) & try one's best to find solutions(4), no need to point fingers(5) or try to find any excuse(6).

Aruging with people SAP life energy & is useless. It stress relationships. Keeping QUIET about one's difficulties just makes things more complicated too, for how would people understand. COMMUNICATE.

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Lessons Learnt(to remind myself)
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"Speak clearly, ASK clearly, Do NOT assume, Do NOT argue."
"Do not shift blame, do not give excuse, APPOLOGISE, EXPLAIN difficulties & OFFER solutions."

some quotes for thoughts

2006-06-22T16:29:00.000+08:00

"Everything in life is but just a "vehicle" a raft to be abandoned when destination is reached, for clinging on can only bring more burden & pain to others & oneself."

"If everything originates from a source that is clean & pure, desirable & wholesome, everything positive you could name, without lust, pride, greed, sloth, anger, envy & everything negative, then why are there "impurities", undesirable, unwholesome, unkind, lust, pride, greed, sloth, anger, envy, discrimination, ego & everything negative..."

"Why is SOMETHING (so ominiscent/ominpotent) able to come out from NOTHING?"

"Some people says coldness is a state without heat.... then is dirtiness a state without clealiness? what is -10 degrees, -100 degress? How cold is cold, how hot is hot? Hot to one, cold to another. Clean to one, dirty to another"

"Subhuti, do not say the Tathagata has the thought, 'I have spoken dharma.' Do not think that way. And why? If someone says the Tathagata has spoken dharma he slanders the Buddha due to his inability to understand what I say. Subhuti, in the dharma spoken there is no dharma which can be spoken, therefore it is called the dharma spoken."

"Everything that helps relieve the pain of other sentient beings is Dharma."
"Everything that helps increase the bliss of others sentient beings is Dharma."

A reply to...

2006-05-27T08:59:00.000+08:00

A reply to:

http://www.moonpointer.com/index.php?itemid=609

"The Dharma changed into 84K ways, because the 84kK beings cannot be changed into THE ONLY way."

"That which helps lighten the suffering of others is the dharma, that which helps to increase the bliss of others is the dharma."

What a lot of us are trying to say is that, even government policies are not 100%, the best saints teaching maybe a +60-40, +70-30, +51-49. Even the best medicine have side effects. Everything we do has a price to pay.

Canivorus Animals don't have much choice, since their body is in that way, humans do. We cannot deny that today you stop one person from liberating, 1000s will (STILL) be dead on plate. Animals eat ONLY when hungry. Humans don't.

Indeed, it is no denial that vegetarian & liberation of Beings(through wisdom/teachings) is the recommended path, how many percentage of beings you actually know are vegetarian & those preaching the dharma really practicing the dharma. People don't just change(for themselves/others) without a valid strong convincing reason.

Liberation DO NOT just "TEMPORARY" relief the pain of animals or giving animals a 2nd chace of survival. Aniamls liberate the delusion & hearts of the person liberating. ANIMALS have feelingss. They actually are aware of the process, if you do observe.

When a being liberate, 3 beings benefits. The one liberated, the one liberating & the one who caused the animal to be captured.

Its is because I know it is SO DIFFICULT, to give one life captured, a 2nd chance to live, that I switch vegetarian because I know I do not have the ability to GRANT lives or FREE lives. Liberation TEACHES that life is not EASY to be LIBERATED.

What are the diffiulties? HUGE commercial activities we cannot stop, people still need their livelihood & HOBBIES(thEsE WILL INCEREASE), even more difficult now because people are arguing on liberation synonymous as saying contraceptives should be stop because they advocate casual sex/irresponsible sex.

As mentioned,Who/what policies in this world can ASSURE a 90-10?
We should not just say (CANNOT BE DONE), we should be learning how to DO IT RIGHT. Not everything in this world is a PURE BLACK, PURE WHITE. NOT as simply as if it has side effects, it should not be taken, for NOT TAKING, NOT DOING HAS A SIDE EFFECT (A BIGGER ONE).

DO it = MAY cause harm.

NOT doing it = WILL (HAVE already been harmed)

Seeds of a better world (amended version)

2006-05-10T23:36:00.000+08:00

"I will continue to edit this article, as I sort out my thoughts. Meanwhile kindly bear with my ignorance and limited insights."

Seeds of a better world.

"The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated."
- Mohandas Gandhi

For years, the media have been publishing articles which put the practice of liberation and vegetarian in bad light. These articles are misleading and bring little or no real benefits. It is synonymous with saying medicine should not be consumed for they have side effects, fire and knives to be ban since they can cause death. Synonymous with saying paper or wood must not be used since they can cause rainforest depletion.

The media reported that 90% of the animals liberated will die. Have we realized, even if 100% of the animals liberated die, these animals will only take up a minor 0.001% as compared to the total numbers of animals killed for daily meat production, agriculture, pet trade industries, hobby fishing, laboratory testing and other consumer products. Yet no one says anything about that, at least not as much as criticism. In fact meat consumption is one of the major causes for various health diseases. Can one name an animal killed for food consumption that is free from diseases? Meat production is also one of the major reasons for famine, health and environmental problems too. These problems lead directly to financial and social problems. You can try to stop one person from liberating one fish and a frog but somewhere in a local hawker centre; you may already find thousands of fishes and frogs dead on plates.

Many people buy pets only to find out latter that they don’t like it or do not have the time and energy to take care of them. These people abandon and disown their pets to nearby reservoirs and parks. Yet people do not understand that disowning and abandoning of pets is NOT an act of liberation. Due to ignorance and misconception they criticize liberation, which in the first place these acts have nothing to do with liberation.

Are we really so close and narrow minded that we only see the things we want to see, hear the things we want to hear? Hope not.

If your loved ones are imprisoned today, would you recommend that he/she be confined forever because he/she may not be able to survive in the new environment or may compete with the people outside for survival and jobs? Yet these animals have done nothing wrong to deserve this and the minority of the people who tries to help these animals got reprimanded for the wrong reasons, ignorance and misconceptions.

Every living being, both you and I want freedom, will not want to be imprisoned; loose or see our loved ones suffer from pain and eventually death.

Agriculture, hobby fishing and pet trade industries are in existence due to commerce; they are also the reasons why animals are captured, eventually loosing their freedom and life. Whether we like it or not, it is impossible to ask everyone to turn vegetarian, give up agriculture, hobby fishing or pet rearing. People still need their jobs and we have our culture, habits and lifestyle that cannot be changed overnight. People who cares and feel for these animals pickup liberation, because as of now liberation is still one of the only way to save these animals besides adopting a vegetarian diet. We can never change others. Okay, it may be true to a certain extent that for birds, a lot more birds may be caught on special religious occasions but what about fishes and other animals meant for consumption? Does it mean if I stop one person from liberating, these animals not being liberated can get a second chance to live? No they don’t, they go on plate or found in other consumer products.
I do agree that some people may be ignorant trying to free salt water fish, or other animals into reservoir or natural reserves, but that is the fault of ignorance and lack of education, not the act of liberation. Trying to criticize liberation is synonymous with saying paracetamol can cause serious liver damage, so we should ban people from using them. Can this help the patient who is still suffering from fever?

Life is brittle and is something that can be easily taken away from, yet almost few or none can have the power to grant life. As of this writing a young lady was caught crushing kittens and puppies out of stress and frustration. It takes a lot more courage and power to “protect” lives. Nevertheless all these insights don’t just come overnight. Even more so difficult in our environment which is so fast-paced and many people cares for one’s own survival. Only one who has taken great pain and effort to liberate an animal will understand it takes so much effort, energy time and now stress to protect a life doom to be on someone else’s plate.

If one does not respect a life weaker than us, speak up for a life that could not speak for itself, how could we expect people to speak up for other people or to treasure the life of others? These are the qualities of a human being. We have the ability and good fortune to protect lives.

He/She who desires good health may or may not necessary chooses a vegetarian diet, but he/she who understands that life is precious and priceless would naturally choose these lifestyles to benefit themselves and others. Liberation is an education that promotes compassion and kindness. Educate right liberation just as one would educate the right use of tools and medicine. Criticizing and debating upon it, brings no benefit. Skillful liberation can save many lives including one’s own. Through giving others a second chance to live, we will understand the preciousness and brittleness of life. Depression and stress rate are going up and we need more caring people than ever before.

People need to be equipped with the right knowledge. Research should be done before liberating animals into the right environment to ensure maximum chances of survival and minimal damages caused to the environment. Liberate animals that are doom to die, to be sold for consumption. Be wise enough not to liberate on special holiday occasions, not to buy from the same shop and not to let anyone know when or where you will be liberating. We need education not criticism. Liberation is just a tool.

Everything we do today, due to our lack of insights and experiences will to certain extent cause harm to others. Can one name any famous figures, leaders, saints and teachers, who never have a single criticism from anyone or may be liked by all? Even government policies may not necessary be like by all or to be free from side effects, due to people not implementing them the right way. There are bound to be people who dislike your act, inconvenience by our act.

Liberation do not cause death, ignorance does.

The fairness in the unfairness.

2006-03-12T09:55:00.000+08:00

"In life, due to our delusive unreliable feelings, perceptions, ignorance & lack of faith. As well as beliving in rumors & deluded people with deluded views. We tend to grow hatred towards others & cause a lot of hurt & pain to other innoccent parties and ourselves in our anger."

Thank you for stopping by.

Before you start laughing at the ideas of power rangers or masked riders, which are US Franchise of Japanese Sentai series & tokusatsu series, let me share with you that the Original Japanese Counterparts are far more adult theme with serious & deeper plots, as just other Japanese Drama Show. There are really a lot of things that you can realise & learn from as you watch the show. A lot of subtle meaning about life that you can catch. Better cinematography, sceneries, music & character plots.

I am currently watching Kamen Rider 555 Faiz. Kamen Rider series has been around since 1971.
I cannot speak for the other series, but 555 in my opinion has a really deep story plot. There are too many things I can share from the show, but today I am going to share the ones that leaves a stronger impression in me.

One of the main character although not human has always believed in not hurting humans & to protect them from the other higher genetic beings (Orphenoch) from the other faction, though he is one himself. He belives in living as a human.
Tragically, he wasn't be able to live up to this ideal as he has been tricked multiple times by rumors & other higher genetic beings who wanted him dead as well for being a traitor or renegade.

They tricked him into thinking the humans whom he wanted to protect have him betrayed. They also killed his other fellow renegades Orphenoch putting the blame on the humans. He did a lot of terrible things after that due to being heart broken, faith & trust in humans shattered. Many innocent parties were lost during that time. In the end, although he still died not knowing the truth, he did playing a crucial role by sacrificing himself so that the other main hero can stop the Arch Orphenoch.

In life, due to our unreliable delusive feelings, perceptions, ignorance & lack of faith. As well as beliving in rumors & deluded people with deluded views. We tend to grow hatred towards others & cause a lot of hurt & pain to other innoccent parties and ourselves in our anger.

If you are unhappy with someone, do still look at things in the widder picture. Being angry with someone & have other innocent parties involved are two different matters & can only cause yourself & others more hurt & pain. Dying with more regrets & pain.

Another thing I have learn from watching the show is that. In life, there is no such thing as "fairness". For "fairness" or "unfairness" are all perception. Someone got to give more. In life, sometimes we are indebted to others kindness, some times we have to be gratitude & give back more than we have taken. Thus in life, the many "unfairness" are actually very fair. Giving & taking. Causes, conditions & effects. Dependent Originated. Every action has an equal opposite reactions with the right conditions.

Never be disheartened by the "unfairness", "unjust" "unkindness" that you NOW see, for everthing although are perspectives labeling, with no "fairness" it may seem, has their causes, conditions & effects. In the long run, everything will fall into place. Just do one's part. Remeber being angry, jealous or have hatred for others, is like building a prision of fire around oneself, making oneself suffer MORE. The one who makes more mistakes due to this, has only oneself PUNISHED by himself/herself.

May you & family enjoy health, bliss & happiness.
Amitabha

Heartwarming

2006-02-13T11:58:00.000+08:00

"as one ages, one realises that the reason to "fight" is not just to win but to PROTECT those you care."

Nothing, nothing else matter more than those you care & who cares for you. You will try not to do anything that could hurt those you care & will try to do everything you could for them.

Hitotsu Yane no Shita (Under the same roof)

Toei Mahou Sentai Magiranger

(more about these two shows below)

Before you start laughing about the stereotypitical idea of the US Counterpart Franchise of the show Power Rangers, let me share with you that the japanese counterpart is more Adult serious theme based. With a more deeper story plot & lots of subtle meaning that you have to catch. Better cinematography, character plots & music, etc.

Watch with an open mind. There will be a lot of things you can catch, realise & benefit. Really nothing matter more than family. Trusting & standing by each other in difficulties & adversities.

http://www.geocities.com/TelevisionCity/Station/7746/2house/house.htm
http://www.jdorama.com/drama_139.htm
Starring:
YOUSUKE EGUCHI , MASAHARU FUKUYAMA , NORIKO SAKAI , ISSEI ISHIDA , EMI OHMICHI
A car accident killed a couple and caused their six children to become orphans. At that time, the eldest child, Tatsuya, was only 18 and had to attend a marathon training. Being unconfident of taking good care of his siblings, he separately relocated them to their relatives and adopters. However, after several years, Tatsuya gives up his atheletic career and decides to fetch back his brothers and sisters to live together. To his disappointment, everyone sees him as selfish and refuses to recognise him

http://www.icepoint.com/jdrama/hitotsu_yane_no_shita.htm
"This is a story of the brothers with no parent. The eldest Tatsuya is
25 and the youngest is 15. Koyuki the eldest sister takes care of everyone.
Tatsuya has an ideal of a family but he seems selfish to everyone
and seems to give troubles. But finally Tatsuya's love and effort make their
relationship better."

if you love...

2006-02-05T21:18:00.000+08:00

"if you do not know what he/she need, how he/she needs it, what they really want & don't want. If you cannot ensure this promise be fulfilled, trust not be broken. If you cannot ensure you can help the person bring out his/her best, they way they want to do it, how can you say you love him/her?

It takes a lot of strength & courage to genuinely say out the word "I love you", the more you sincerely care about this person, to not want to hurt this person, you will not be able to say out this three letter word, for you know this three letter word carries lots of responsibility & conditions. You have to fulfil this promise & ensure the promise not be broken, for you will end up getting the person you love, hurt. If you love the person you will not want to hurt him/her." - wing_bliss

www.mettahut.net

2006-01-18T08:51:00.000+08:00

It has been quite some time since I last update the site. I believe everyone in their daily experiences, can gain lots of insights & realisations if they are mindful & observant enough. These little realisations, insights & experiences can be of beneficial use in helping them cope with the various problems they could face again in their daily life. From dealing with people to handling inter-personal relationships. If you are interested in sharing yours, do visit us at http://www.mettahut.net

The folks @ Mettahut love to hear from you.

It is always good to question onself & to self reflect on one's daily experiences. Sometimes we just react a certain way due to "habits". We get angry, upset or disturbed when we see or hear something without understanding why.

20/01/2006
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Watched a Japanese Drama yesterday. One of the girl in the show felt peer-pressured in not being able to live up to the standards set by another female collegue. Fellow workers are always singing praises for her collegue & told her to learn more from her collegue. She felt stressed & tried to mimick & imitate her collegue, but that lack to much embarassement for herself & the person she is imitating.

It is not uncommon, that once in a while we look up to someone or want to be like someone if they are more successful than us. It is okay to learn others good virtues & good habits but not to imitate or mimick others. This can cause distress & embarrasement for both others & oneself. We CAN NEVER be others & it makes no meaning for us to be like them, it benefits NO ONE in the end. Life can be very difficult for no two person are alike. To be someone else or to be what one is not can be a very tiring & distressful thing. You could disturb the person you are mimicking too.

A lot of us treasure individuality. We like to be better, to be as good but never to be the SAME as others.

A duck can never be a swan & it DOESN't mean a duck need to be a swan to be a succesful, happy & well-lived being. Just be what you are, at your very best. You will feel less stressful in life. It doesn't really matter what others says when they make meaningless comparision about you & your peer. Some people just like to criticise. Understand that each of us are unique in own own ways, we are similar & should learn similar good virtues from each other but we can never become EACH OTHER.

Where there is patient & understanding, there no longer will be anymore strength or weakness to talk about. Everyone can learn from each other, contribute & work with each other in each own style for the better of everyone involved.

May you enjoy health, bliss & happiness
Amitabha

Beliefs Tolerance

2005-12-11T07:24:00.000+08:00

Tolerance: "understanding other beliefs by how they advise their adherents to act rather than by what they tell them to believe."

"It is not WHAT you believe but HOW you believe & ACT your beliefs to bring more bliss & less pain to both oneself & others. - Wing_Bliss

"As most higher religions promote values like honesty, kindness, generosity, courage and integrity, Buddhism sees them not as dangerous competitors but as allies in man's quest for liberation." - http://www.buddhanet.net/e-learning/dharmadata/fdd50.htm

http://www.faithnet.org.uk/KS4/Social%20Harmony/buddhismreligions.htm
"Pluralism is the belief that although religions DO NOT teach the same things they DO seek to develop the same attitudes in their followers. This means that the truth of a religion is not found in its beliefs but in its effects it has in a person's life."

"Using a medical analogy the Dalai Lama believes a medicine is not judged good because of its ingredients but because of the ability it has to cure. Likewise, religions are not to be judged according to their individual teachings but on the effects they have in people's lives. Furthermore, just as there is not one type of medicine so there cannot be one religion for all people. The Dalai Lama believes that just as people need different medicines to cure them so they also need different religions to 'spiritually cure them' as well.

Summary: The Dalai Lama believes that by focusing on the similarities between religions, and their usefulness to promote the same attitudes in people, conflicts can be overcome. The reason why there are many religions is that people are different and so need different ways to achieve the same attitudes of compassion, love etc."

http://www.buddhanet.net/e-learning/buddhism/lifebuddha/2_21lbud.htm
""Upali, you are a famous person. Be sure that you are not changing your religion just because you are pleased with me or that you are under the influence of your emotions. Thoroughly investigate my teaching with an open mind before you decide to become my follower."

Hearing the Buddha's spirit of free inquiry, Upali was even more pleased and said, "Lord, it is wonderful that you have asked me to think this over carefully. Other teachers would have accepted me without hesitation, taken me through the streets in a procession and proclaimed that the millionaire had renounced his former religion and embraced theirs. Yes, indeed, I am sure now, Lord please accept me as your follower.""

http://www.buddhistinformation.com/buddhist_attitude_to_god.htm

Freedom

2005-10-04T20:11:00.000+08:00

"I know not what love is nor in any position to, but I can be certain, love is not possesion. Love is freedom, Love is respecting life. Respecting & loving someone the way one is. Never to make one do anything against one's will, nor to do anything that could make one unhappy. Love is freedom. Freeing someone from pain, harm, sorrow, embarrasement, distress & anger, whenever we are together" - Wing_Bliss

2nd of October, 2005

2005-10-02T23:00:00.000+08:00

Today has indeed been a day of insights. It is kind of hard to pen everything down but I fear that I may forget, thus this blog. "If it can be described, it probably isn't it." Indeed it would not be easy to practise what I have learnt, but I hope I can still learn something which may be beneficial to both myself & others.

I started out sunday as usual, went to KMS with a close friend. We talked about many things. I guess part of life, is about really learning more about oneself. My boss once reminded me, when one finger is pointing at others, fours fingers are pointing oneself. Others are like mirrors, for us to learn from, not just to criticise or to idolise.

Stereotyping
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I have to admit, I still stereotype, label and discriminate people, even though I used to share with people that a lot of us are doing it. I must learn to understand that everything in life are like vehicles. It doesn't always mean MY methods, MY ways, MY beliefs and perspectives are better. It doesn't matter how someone study, so long as one understand & gets good results. It doesn't matter how someone does the job so long as the job gets done and the problems get solved(hopefully without any adverse ill effects). Do not look down on anyone not even a kid playing with a toy, for that kid, playing with the toy may gain more insights & experiences than me or anyone who may have travelled around the world.

A person should learn to be versatile & fluid like. A lot of us including myself makes this mistakes of thinking "If it is not this, it should be that." Living is never that straight forward or clear cut.

Faith
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If I do not believe it or have faith & confidence in what I am doing, how can i expect others do so or have faith & confidence in it?

Nevertheless, faith is not about blind faith nor attachment. A person with faith neither IMPOSE ideas/belief on people nor cling on to his/her beliefs so STRONGLY that the person cannot rationalise or accept any CRITICISM

Then again, without faith, nothing gets done. When one first learn to swim, ride a bicycle, drive a car or cook a dish, is it not faith that push one to do it. Doing something one neither has never done before nor know the outcome. Without faith, a person can never ride a bicycle, drive a car or do anything, because one will not have the courage or believe one can do it.

We fear changes & new ideas, but, ironically, a lot of things in life are very unpredictable and new to us. Everyday is a new day. Every second is a new second. Living is never that straighforward nor clear cut. Honestly to oneself, there is bound to be situations, where one can no longer tell the difference between right or wrong, useful, beneficial, harmful or useless. Until we have experiences(done) it ourself, can we decide if it is useful or beneficial. Then again, one experience is not conclusive, for everything is conditional, just because it doesn't work for me, doesn't mean it is not going to work for others.

Faith should be use to support oneself through tough time, not as a tool or vehicle to hurt others or cause others distress. It is a TWO way thing, give & take. A sick or terminally ill person has at least two choices, die slowly or take medicine & (MAY) recover. The patient MUST HAVE FAITH in the doctor, if she/he do not believe in the doctor, follow the doctors precription, feel the doctor may do more HARM than good, she/he got to realise that she/he WILL STILL DIE.

A lot of us including myself may be SKEPTICAL of others good wills & kindness failing to realise, we ARE ALREADY IN TROUBLE, that is why others want to help us.

Attitude & Intentions
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"We judge ourselves by our intention, we judge others by their behaviour"
or should it be better said this way.
"Others judge me by my behaviour, I should appreciate others effort & understand their intentions."

Beliefs, Attitude, Perspectives, Intentions, Behaviour

Without either, the outcome is bound to be less than expected.

Its kind of interesting to observe that some people, not being affected by vulgarities or sexual explicit contents on t-shirts can get affected when they see words like "Liberation, kindness, etc."

I used to feel uncomfortable too when I see someone wearing a huge cross on the neck. Nevertheless, today do I understand that I should see the intentions behind.

Wearing cross, pictures of your teachers, or whatever kind words you used is an act of "MINDFULNESS" of ones teachers virtues & teachings. It is an act of "GRATITUDE". To constantly remind oneself & not to deny at the same time, just like a beautiful flower or a yound lady/man applying make up perfume, emitting nice smell. As for whether others wants to take it negatively, that's is beyond one's control. The person who says someone is negative is negative for he/she PERCEIVES something as negative.

Balance
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ASCETISM is definitely not recommended. There must be a balance in life. Not to be too rigid. Many people fear certain "TEACHINGS/EDUCATION/RELIGIONS" & label it as religions(something I cannot apply in life).

Religions should not be used as a vehicle or tool to divide this world. It should be used to CHANGE ONESELF(NOT others) to help & assist others. It should be an education which conventional truth of science do not contradict yet go beyond conventional truth of science can explain. BTW, can anyone SEE magnetism or energy?

Many people see students of "EDUCATIONS(Religions)" as ascetics. Take vegetarian for example. They are not CHOOSY people, but people who eats NATURUAL, eating at NO COST TO OTHERS. I myself, for example, can hop into even Mcdonalds & still practice a vegetarian diet. We pick up vegtarian as many westerners now do, for health, economics & worldly issues reasons. Of course undeniable, on my part, to MINIMISE damages cause to the environment & less suffering to others. FAMINE occurs because we EAT TOO MUCH WRONG THING. The animals we eat, EAT MORE than we humans. That is another topic for another day.

LOVE
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If living as a sentient being is not about ascetism, staying alone in the mountain, than the true meaning of life should cover the aspects of human social interation, to learn to love & to love unconditionally.

This should be a very intersting topic which I will look in depth in the next topic. To learn more about myself, is to learn why I need to love, what I love & how I should love.

May you enjoy health, bliss & happiness
Wing_Bliss

My 2 cents on love

2005-10-02T22:02:00.000+08:00

At a glance...
I guess life is a learning experience... Loving geniunely is never a one day thing, trust has to be earn & built upon over time... Sadly, as one ages, the energy & vigor may no longer be there, but love is not about SENSATIONAL fulfilment, it includes EMOTIONAL & SURVIVAL(wellness) aspects as well...

Today has indeed been a day of insights. Gratitude to my friends, they taught me many things. We were chatting when a friend, just out of the blue raise something intersting about female at age 20s-30s would probably think different from a female age 40s-50s. "Those at 20s-30s EXPECTS... but when they reach 40s/50s, they may just want someone to cover the blankets for them." Whether it is true or not it doesn't matter. No ten fingers are alike, I understand this. The problem lies with me, NOT others. I had a sudden shock after hearing what was mentioned. Again, the fault is with me.

Not that I don't know people do change as they ages, but what shock me is that I realised two question should be asked should one get into a relationship or want to learn to love. Life is about learning more about oneself, before we can learn to understand others. Life is about learning to love UNCONDITIONALLY. Love is SHARING lives. To GIVE/Support when NEEDED. TWO ways traffic. To change not others to one selfish needs but to share & change FOR the better of both lives. That itself is NOT easy. (to the questions first)

The questions are meant to question one genuine intention of likeing/loving someone, not for just some selfish purposes.

QNS 1: If A person whom you like, after WASTING his/her precious youth chasing after the PERFECT GIRL/GUY finds out that she/he just has to expect less, comes back looking for "YOU"(still single by then). Would you still accept him/her?

Ans: (before thinking): Honestly at first,I was very sad(really sad) & disappointed. I feel it is kind of WASTEFUL/UNFAIR that when one being young & youthful, do not treasure those around, but spend those precious years away looking for the PERFECT partner, now that one have wasted your youth, can't find the PERFECT one, come looking back for the poor person have been waiting for years for the person or may have even given up. LOVE IS ABOUT GIVING NOT JUST TAKING. IT is a TWO WAY TRAFFIC. Don't ask what others can do(offer) for me... I understand some people may see love differently, where love is about being able to relate to, click together or live together, but don't forget the poor girl or guy, who have been doing what she/he can do, but just COULD NOT SATISFY, (((MY)) ego/perspective/subjective driven needs. Why can't we just see/appreciate others effort? Love is not about choosing an object of material benefits, as a friend shared.

(Thinking through)

Ironically, I realised that a lot of us including myself tend to help/like people who don't need us to help/like them. Take for example, it is easy to LIKE(not love) a person who is young, healthy, sucessful, kind, understanding, rich, secure, with whatever conventionally agreed good qualities.

A person endowed with all this good qualities should be well-loved & popular. Actually a person who is unkind, is a very lonely person. This type of people should be LOVED EQUALLY as MUCH as well.

I can't be sure as people do change. 20 years down the road I may act otherwise(I may not even live that long). I feel that should the girl I like, one day (20 yrs later, come back looking for me & needing someone(me) to care for her, to BE with her (MUTUAL support & assistance), I would. I felt that a person at her/his lowest should be when we should come in to support, not those at their peak. These people NEEDED us most. Even though whatever they may have done wrong, that's all in the past, nobody wants to hurt us if they are in their right mindframe. If they are not, why should I be so unforgiving & "revengeful" (you didn't want me, why should I now want you?)

QNS 2:
What is the difference between marrying at the age of 20/30 & marring at the age of 40/50/60. Say both only know each other for SAME amount of years.

Ans: (before thinking): Honestly, I realised that I am as many others, a "jerk". Two sides to this question. Of course if a lady, after all her years has been "kind"/less expecting but due to "shyness"/got cheated or whatever good reasons can't get married then thats not her fault. 2nd scenerio, If she has been too choosy, back to first question. Nevertheless, why get married then? Already one foot in.(kidding).

(Thinking through)

A friend mentioned to me that love is not like choosing an object of use. Actually she is VERY right. It is about being able to live with, "click", connect & relate to... (highly PERSPECTIVE/SUBJECTIVE). Pardon me for being slow. This part I may have to think it more in detail. Sadly a lot of us guys, do not really know or understand what girls really want, I guess there are misunderstanding on both sides.

I always thought that I can learn to love SIMPLE, "desire" a partner, who can support me, whom I can learn to support, go KMS meditate together, just having simple, being together, watch sunset, enjoy the seabreeze togther etc.

I am VERY wrong. As many people I still have deluded false views & selfish desires.

Aside from nice feelings of being together, we expect MORE. Do not kid oneself(myself). I expect more than just watching sunset/meditate together. Comeone, can still do this at 50s/60s. Catch a plane to Venice, have a nice good tea chat. A good lover is a good friend. (yah, right, as if I am really that innocent).

The thought of being together ONLY at 50s/60s means no more Roller Coaster high, no more HIGH CRAZY younsters fun....say ICE skating, roller blading, running along the beach.... intimate sessions....(can't deny)....Sadly, as one ages, the energy & vigor are no longer there for us to enjoy the many things we can do when we are younger...

(thinking on)

I guess life is a learning experience... Loving geniunely is never a one day thing, trust has to be earn & built upon over time... Sadly, as one ages, the energy & vigor may no longer be there, but love is not about SENSATIONAL fulfilment, it includes EMOTIONAL & SURVIVAL(wellness) aspects as well. Guess as one ages, the sensational aspects may no long be there, but I still believe that emotional & survival aspects could make up for things. That is, IF I TRULY LOVE UNCONDITONALLY.

(Vision)

Altough face worn by ages, eyes loosing the brigtness she once had, if she, the one woman I truly love, can be happy staring at the wide ocean, hearing the sounds of the sea gulls, I am very happy.

Fortunate is one, to die before the person one love. I would be at her death bed...

(yah right, dream on)

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(reality)

I envision that it probably would not be that easy in real life. If I cannot assure the woman I like & who likes me, not drop a single drop of tears(because of me), I WILL NOT LET anyone likes(love) me.

Honestly, I really belive in UNCONDITIONAL LOVE for all beings. LOVE someone FREE someone. If the person I like is happy with another guy, I should be happy for her & not to cling on to her. Honestly, felt I should use my life, helping those people of 3rd world countries. If I do not get married by 39, I probably would go back packing doing community service...living a simple carefree life... not that bad either.... kidding... as if I can LET go that easily.

Namo Amitabha
May all sentient being be free from sickness, enmity & danger
May they all be well, blissful & happy.
Best regards
Wing_Bliss

Blissful today, where tomorrows dreams become yesterday sweet memories.

2005-09-30T15:10:00.000+08:00

Yesterday were memories
Tomorrow is dream,

Live now, not in the shadow of yesterday’s memories, live today, not in the illusion of tomorrow’s dream. Let not today becomes tomorrow’s nightmare, nor does let today, become yesterday’s regret.

Brittle one’s life is, like bubbles on water, just as one understands that everything conditional is like reflections on water.

Bliss follows one who lives with gratitude & contentment, joy follows one who lives with more kindness & patience. Awareness of the moment, a present today given for anyone aware enough to open, let today be where one weave dreams into sweet memories. Blissful today, tomorrow soon becomes yesterday.

Blissful today, where tomorrows dreams soon become yesterday sweet memories.
- WingBliss

A letter to a friend...

2005-09-12T12:34:00.000+08:00

"The past are memories, the future a dream. Don't make the moment an illusion." - wingbliss

What use is there complaining & criticising, when one cannot help others make the change for everyone's elses benefits?

It is always easier to suggest than to help or implement. Negative views blinds a person to others strength & effort, leading to aversion and PAIN for everyone else including oneself.

On the other hand, if one fails to see things, the way they really are, ignorant of the object's shortcomings, one will cling on to the false views one has of the object or subject. Clinging on too strongly to one's own view leads to delusion & attachment, as a result leading to sorrow & disappointment.

Be contented, have gratitude & appreciation for others hard work & effort, at the same time have patience of their shortcomings. Appreciating yet be fully aware of the object's shortcoming so as to not to get attached to it, being blinded by it or be too protective of it.

All conditional are impermanent
All conditional are non self...

A letter of reply: My humble view on love

2005-09-09T22:56:00.000+08:00

"hurt not others in ways u find hurtful"

http://everymoment.has.it
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chronoscape.net Article

Do Singaporean Guys really want a "Yes master, whatever you say master" kind of gal to feel manly? A cook, clean and look pretty child-bearer as your life partner? If that is the case, it will very sad. How shallow can our men be?
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Dear Re-Minisce,

Pardon me, I found one of your reply interesting, thus this email. Understand it was already a very old topic, kindly forgive me if in anyway, this mail causes you any discomfort due to my lack of sensitivity or ignorance.

I won't dare say anything about others, for no person I know, has two fingers that look alike. Moreover people can change. Everything conditional is impermanent.

I guess a lot of us, especially myself, tend to look @ things from very extreme points of views. "If it is not this, it is probabaly that". Yet life is not meant to be that straight forward, either this or that. Understand it certainly is not easy to be able to seek a balance in both perspectives & life.

In my humble opinion, both woman or man, no matter how sucessful we are, are still similar sentient being who are dependent on everyone else for every aspects in life. No being can exist alone, for everything we have, came from others gratitude. We are actually no different in the sense that we too, need everyone else, we both have moments of fear, sadness, sickness, despair & pain. We both want support during tough time & we need people around to help us when we need them. We too, wants to be affirm of our existance, to make the best out of life. To learn to give & take. to love & support. No denial, we both can't bring our physical body along when that very day come, death. Empty we came, empty we go. What difference are we?

I myself, for sure do not believe in surpressing or belitting others to make myself look good. Hurt not others in ways we find hurtful.

I guess there are a lot of misunderstanding between Singaporean guys & females. Actually we have a lot in common rather than difference. Both of us fear to be hurt, that is why we no longer give or love as much. I myself, firmly believes, if I can't do something, why do I expect others to do so, even if I can, it would still be unfair too, to expect of others.

My boss shared with me something, which I find it very interesting. Whenever we point one fingers out, four fingers are pointing inward. We guys make the same mistakes as well.

In the midst of being driven by the fast-paced life and people work hard to get what they want, fail to slow down to ask if what they wanted, really are what they should want, in life. We failed to realise that life is more than just about making ourselves happy(at the cost of others), more than just SURVIVAL. Failing to realise that there is more to life than just about "MYSELF". The reason to exist is to learn to make the best use of existance. To learn to LIVE.

It is about being able to LEARN TOGETHER WITH EACH other to learn to LOVE, to SHARE, to SUPPORT, in both time of happiness & sadness, thick & thin. To ASSIST each other to live better life. Not just to be hindered nor to hinder each other progress, both emotionally & spiritually.

Live is MORE THAN just survival. If life is about survival, actually, we already HAVE enough food around. As long as the world don't go to war, the new world would have no worry about food, yet we seem not to have enough, because of our higher expectations & endless bottomless pit desire. A human being expects more than survival, we both have dreams that we would like to fufill, but we need to weight the pros & cons, for everything in life, conditional has prices to pay, question is how much & where do we draw the line between giving & taking.

Just to share my humble views. There is more to life, which I myself is on a path to seek the truth(S). I believe in MUTUAL SUPPORT and UNDERSTANDING. An education of EQUANIMITY, COMPASSION & Wisdom.

We both need each other, EVERYONE, from the sewage cleaners to the woman who have supported me for years, my mother, to the man who have work hard to provide the family needs, my father, everyone.

May you enjoy health, bliss & happiness
Namo Amitabha
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Wing_Bliss
"Yesterday are memories, the future a dream, let not today be an illusion."

2005-09-07T14:05:00.000+08:00

"Be the change you want to see in the world"
"Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever."
"Earth provides enough to satisfy every man's need, but not every man's greed"
- Mathama Ghandi

Everyone can see everyone's elses problems, but only I myself can change myself.
What use is there to complain or criticise if I can't do anything to help to improve?
Nevertheless, to fool or delude myself. Living numb in fake positiveness or to deny as if nothing happen doesn't mean I can run away from inherent underlying problems. Problems which do not just affect myself but those people around me, whom I care for & whom I am indebted to for their kindness.

... more

Listening

2005-08-25T21:04:00.000+08:00

At a glance:

"Conversation is about LISTENING & to answer what is being asked, not to just tell others what we want them to hear..."

"To learn to LISTEN to what others are trying to tell us, to be there than to help others solve their problems. To LISTEN first, only when REQUESTED, to give advices or make comments LATER. To be fully APPRECIATIVE of what others are trying to tell us, to not DOUBT even if what one hears may sounds untrue. To listen & still be APPRECIATIVE even if this is the 9999 times I have heard it."

This blog is set as a reminder for myself to learn not to disturb or hurt others in the same way I find disturbed or hurtful. At the same time, I understand, the discomfort caused may be unintentional as it could be my lack of tactfulness & cause of ego that in the process I too could have cause others hurt as well, thus they react that way.

No being can exist alone, it is the lack of understanding & skills in communications that leads to many unhappiness & problems. Rather than running away & to live unhappily each day everytime we face simliar problems, the easier way out is to learn & within one means change oneself so as not to hurt others unintentionally as well as to learn to understand others when felt hurt by others. Running away will not solve problems, it only escalates problem & no one else but oneself will suffer more down the road. Learning will bring less stress to everyone else especially oneself. Indeed it is not easy, but worth making the effort.

It was not the first time, but only today I begin to look at it seriously. What has past has past thus there's no point clinging on to what happened weeks ago. A good friend of mine was sharing with me about an certain exclusive items which happened to be black in colour. I asked him if he has seen the black as I did not see it before. I told him there were also exclusive of similar item in silver colour which looks appealing to me. He mentioned there was a clear one too.

It sounds a pretty decent conversation but there was a certain tension. I guess it could be caused by intonation & wrong use of words.
Courtesy: http://grove.ufl.edu/~klilj/pron/int/
"...In English, we use tone to signal emotion, questioning, and parts of the sentence among many other things. It's important to recognize the meaning behind the tones used in everyday speech, and to be able to use them so that there are no misunderstandings between the speaker and the listener. It is generally true that mistakes in pronunciation of sounds can be overlooked, but mistakes in intonation make a lasting impression."

In previous post (see also: The Phone Call), I have learnt that when someone is sharing with us his/her worries, never give advices or say things like , "it is okay", "don't worry", "I experiences it before", "(so & so) has it before..." or "everyone's else has it..."

Improper intonation & wrong use of words even with the best of intention may make one person sounds unappreciative towards what others are trying to say. Our well intention words or advice may thus sounds like they are 1) belitting others / putting others down. 2)Cutting others off 3) Harmless sharing thus becomes argument or signs of boasting what we know.

Simple words like "don't worry" may sounds like : "come on, what's the BIG DEAL?" "i can understand... I experiences that too" may sounds like, "come on, everyone has it, no BIG DEAL."

A lot of us do not realise that (IT IS A BIG DEAL) to the one who is suffering & worrying from the problem. Emphasis should be on the person & FULL ATTENTION should be given on him/her. Let him/her know, "yes" indeed "IT IS A (big)PROBLEM", but don't worry, I will try to "LISTEN" to you. "Someone is here to LISTEN, you are not alone to share this EXCLUSIVE problem..."

Actually, a lot of us ALREADY have the answers to the problems, just that we want someone else to "affirm" our judgement & to listen to our "Exclusive" worries. To give us "ATTENTION". The last thing we expect is a wet blanket at us, unncessary advices telling us what we should or should not do or what we should not have done.

The same would apply to the sharing of joys. Conversation is about LISTENING & to answer what is being asked, not to just tell others what we want them to hear. Again, improper intonation & wrong use of words even with the best of intention may make one person sounds unappreciative of what others are trying to share with us. Our well intention words or advice may thus sounds like they are 1)belitting others / putting others down. 2)Cutting others off 3) Harmless sharing thus becomes argument or signs of boasting what we know.

"you said that before...", "I have heard/seen before too..." "I also know..." "aiyoh, there are also..." may sounds like "I ALSO KNOW, I know MORE than you, what you KNOW IS what EVERYONE also KNOW...."

This blog is not meant as a criticism of anyone but to learn to use the right intonation, right words & to be sensitive of others feeling. To learn to LISTEN to what others are trying to tell us, to be there than to help others solve their problems. To LISTEN first, only when REQUESTED, to give advices or make comments LATER. To be fully APPRECIATIVE of what others are trying to tell us, to not DOUBT even if what one hears may sounds untrue. To listen & still be APPRECIATIVE even if this is the 9999 times I have heard it.

May you enjoy health, bliss & happiness
Amitabha

Understanding Part 2

2005-08-13T19:40:00.000+08:00

... disturbed, I called a friend, who told me that he encountered the same issue too in other shops & stalls, even non food related. As we talked, he mentioned something about certain buyers not wanting to buy an item if that are incomplete, even at a MUCH lower prices. Stuffs like toys that are without instruction manuals, which you can easily download from the internet or even toys that have no original scotchtapes(must be factory mint).

It makes me wonder, are we buying something because we like it, need it or are we buying because we want to sell it (at a higher price in future), or because it is covetous & it makes us feel "proud" & good to own a covetous item... Are we buying because we like it or because others like it??? or because of whatever other reasons beside using the acutal product itself =)

I send the good friend of mine the above thoughts in sms, ideas which he too had mentioned to me before, whom we both always ask ourselves.

He sent me the following message:
"I sell becos I got extra."

I got a feeling that he might have take it from the viewpoint of a seller (himself). He might have taken the statement as an "accusation" or as a harsh statement against selling:
"are we buying because we like it, or are we buying because we want to sell it( in future)."

The original intention is to address the buyer who would buy HIS stuff COMPLETE & made things difficult for him when the original scotchtape is not there, not him.

It strikes me that communication & understanding of how people receive our words are of MAJOR importance, that the SAME statement can be taken & perceive differently. Thus arrises conflicts & problems we see in the world today. Couples can divorce, conflict can arrises bectween co-workers, superiors or subordinates, friends can turn into enemies, countries can go into war.

The need to communicate to be understood not just to speak up & hope others can understand what we mean.

May you enjoy health, bliss & happiness
Amitabha

Thoughts of the day.

2005-08-13T18:52:00.000+08:00

... as I was eating an ice cream, the following thoughts arrises...

"Its not because it is "good/negative" that I want it, but because I want it & I liked it, I LABEL it as "good".... because it is "good", thus I want it & like it....

"Affirming it is good/positive(to me), I want it & I like it. I want/like it because everytime I CRAVE for it & CAN get it, it gives me the same sensation that can satisfy my DESIRE, thus because it can SATISFY the DESIRE, I want it MORE & I like it & thus i label it good...." the cycles continues ....

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"Its not because it is "bad/negative" that I resent it, but because I resent it & I disliked it, I LABEL it as "bad".... because it is "bad", thus I resent it & dislike it....

"Affirming it is bad(to me), I resent it & I dislike it. I resent/dislike it because everytime I RESENT & hope to advert it, I CANT be free from it, it gives me the same sensation that can cause me AVERSION, thus because it can DISTURB, I resent it MORE & I dislike it & thus i label it bad/negative...." the cycles continues ....

communicating as I understand, UNDERSTANDING as I communicate...
learning as I live, LIVING as I learn...

Understanding Part 1

2005-08-13T17:43:00.000+08:00

Many things happened again recently... (as usual)
Coming to think of it, whose life as a lay person, as a commoner, is free from problems? At least hope that we can learn from them...

I was buying food for the family. Mum cooked but she mentioned there wasn't enough, so I voluneteered to buy extra dishes for the family. I visited a local stall. Three vegetables & a packet of rice would cost $1.80. As I did not want to WASTE the rice, I told the hawker to leave the rice out, I would PAY IN FULL. The hawker insisted that each vegetable without rice would cost $1.50, thus 3 would be $4.50. They cannot sell vegetables alone & must go with rice, with rice, it would be $1.80. I told them that I would buy $1.80(full amount) they can keep the rice, donate or even sell it, but they insisted that they cannot sell $1.80 without the rice, must with rice. Baffled & disturbed, I walked away.

Many fruits drink stall(tons of them) have the same business mindset. I usually drink fruit juice without ice as cold drinks can cause problems to my lungs & health. For the drink stalls here, with ice is usually $2, without ice add 50 cents, some even a dollar. I can understand the rational & problems faced by the stall owners that it would be unfair to them as certain unreasonable customers may want them to squeeze in more juice, thus more cost, less profit or even loss, by why can't they also see it from another view point that they could have pass me the $2 drink with the SAME amount of juice thereby, saving them the ice. What difference would that make? They gain but do not make any loss. Were they thinking that I do not want ice because I am a stingy calculative, cheapskate person who wants more juice thereby wanting less ice?

I felt kind of disturbed, understanding moments later, that I cannot change or expect others to live the way I live. Should there be even the least expectations on my part, causing any discomfort to myself, that becomes my problem. It is my responsibility to control & pacify my own emotions & my mind, not others to do what I feel they should do...

I often shared with a friend, should I felt disturbed or even be angered by the sight of someone hurting someone or killing someone, or doing something which I label as "wrong/unwholesome", it is not that someone's "fault", it is mine, & its my full responsibility to pacify & control my emotions, not to expect others not to hurt others, to live by certain "social rules, guidelines or international/universal laws..." Of course, everything we do has prices to pay. There are after effects.

Nevertheless, thus one can now understand why in many society which we live, when people hit you & if you hit back, BOTH parties are assumed in the wrong, not just the one who started it.

I guess the anger arises because:
- I want/expect them to be more "flexible"
- I want/expect them to give me a "good" reason or a reason I can accept.

I guess it can be really "disturbing" when people do something that can cause others discomfort & even more disturbing even they do not give a good valid reason for it.

Coming to think of it, what's wrong with more rice or adding more ice? I could have just taken them out. Aren't I the one who expects others to be more "flexible" yet being inflexible myself. Reason being so, I do not want to waste food & I do not want to flood the table, but for them?

...If not TODAY, how can I tomorrow?... if not NOW, when?

2005-08-05T21:43:00.000+08:00

"If I don't treasure today, how can I treasure tomorrow? If I do not have gratitude today or am contented with what I have today, how can I do so tomorrow? TOMORROW is dream, YESTERDAY is memory, time is but a MEASUREMENT, a gauge of how long one has lived & can live, it describes life, but it is not life."

The same road can never be walk twice & the view from the same window can never be the same just as never in the same moment can the water in the river flow in the same manner. When one is ready to learn, he/she can learn any moment, can have little realizations anytime, any place regardless of how far, how much & how long he/she has traveled or how long he/she has lived. Living with more awareness. Living IN the moment, not living FOR the moment.

When my mum passed to me a plate of fruits which she usually does after dinner, I realized suddenly that this wonderful moment could be lost any time. A simple act of kindness that I have always taken for granted. I have forgotten, drown in the daily midst of work, peace & bliss. Unconsciously believing that it can still be like this tomorrow, the next week, the next month, the next year, for as long as I want it to be. I knew very well that one of these days, both my parents would no longer be around, I have forgotten that I could loose them ANY moment, it could be any time, next week, tomorrow, an hour later, a minute later, a second later, even NOW. I would definitely miss them. The little moments I had shared with them, the nagging & the little squabbles they always had. The place would be so quiet and empty by then. Billions of billions of dollar could never bring them back to life or bring back the smile they carried, their care, patience, kindness love & concern, they have given & showered on me all these years since the first day. Things like this are not replaceable even by the greatest riches, fame & power.

A lot of us may have been very foolish, to have neglected or have hurt our loved ones especially our parents whom we are greatly indebted to without any sense of remorse. We may have hurt or neglected them unintentionally in our daily senseless chase for other mundane material aspects of life. As we cannot please everyone in this world, we may have also hurt our parents or neglected them when we spend too much time with our work, friends, our partners, children or other senseless conditional impermanent material chase. They may not blame us, but regrets will one day be what is left if one do not do something about it today. If not now, when?

"If you are not happy with what you have today, you probably won't tomorrow." If you need something to be at bliss, at ease, at peace, trust me, you probably won't find it. Until you do not want to find it, you might get it."

May you enjoy health, bliss & happiness.
My All Sentient Beings not be separated from sorrow less bliss, free from sorrow of unfulfilled craving, aversion & attachment.

Gratitude to the teacher(S) of kindness, equanimity, wisdom & compassion, which mountains of GEMS I could forgo. Teachings of truths has no LABELS, we do, Love has no discrimination & is unconditional, we may have.

Gratitude to ALL sentient beings EQUAL, parents of all. Gratitude to the teachers of impermanence, non-self, dependent orignination & nirvana

"Health is the highest gain.
Contentment is the greatest wealth.
Trustworthy ones are the best relatives.
Nirvana is the highest bliss.-The Buddha (Dhammapada)

"Hatred never ceases by hatred; by love alone is it healed.The is the ancient and eternal law." - Dhammapada

"Subhuti, do not say the Tathagata has the thought, 'I have spoken dharma.' Do not think that way. And why? If someone says the Tathagata has spoken dharma he slanders the Buddha due to his inability to understand what I say. Subhuti, in the dharma spoken there is no dharma which can be spoken, therefore it is called the dharma spoken." - Diamond sutra

Links:
http://www.thedailyenlightenment.com

珍惜、知足、感恩 (Treasure, Contentment, Gratitude)

2005-07-17T21:11:00.000+08:00

(Translation is progress)

Courtesy:
http://www.hkytsa.org/web/local/a21.shtml

珍惜、知足、感恩

有一個人去應徵工作，隨手將走廊上的紙屑撿起來，放進了垃圾桶，被路過的口試官看到了，因此他得到了這份工作。

原來獲得賞識很簡單，養成好習慣就可以了。

有個小弟在腳踏車店當學徒，有人送來一部故障的腳踏車，小弟除了將車修好，還把車子整理的漂亮如新，其他學徒笑他多此一舉，後來雇主將腳踏車領回去的第二天，小弟被挖角到那位雇主的公司上班。

原來出人頭地很簡單，吃點虧就可以了。

有個小孩對母親說：「媽媽你今天好漂亮。」母親回答：「為什麼。」小孩說：「因為媽媽今天都沒有生氣。」

原來要擁有漂亮很簡單，只要不生氣就可以了。

住在田邊的青蛙對住在路邊的青蛙說：「你這裡太危險，搬到田來會安全些呢！」路邊的青蛙說：「我已經習慣了，懶得搬了。」
幾天後，田邊的青蛙去探望路邊的青蛙，卻發現他已被車子壓死，暴屍在馬路上。

原來掌握命運的方法很簡單，遠離懶惰就可以了。

有一隻小雞破殼而出的時候，剛好有隻烏龜經過，從此以後小雞就背著蛋殼過一生。

原來脫離沉重的負荷很簡單，放棄固執成見就可以了。

有一支掏金隊伍在沙漠中行走，大家都步伐沉重，痛苦不堪，只有一人快樂的走著，別人問：「你為何如此愜意？」他笑著：「因為我帶的東西最少。」

原來快樂很簡單，擁有少一點就可以了。

人生的光彩在哪裡？
早上醒來，光彩在臉上，充滿笑容的迎接未來。
到了中午，光彩在腰上，挺直腰桿的活在當下。
到了晚上，光彩在腳上，腳踏實地的做好自己。

原來人生也很簡單，只要能懂得「珍惜、知足、感恩」，你就擁有了生命的光彩。

TALK, don't give wrong signal Part 2

2005-07-13T22:16:00.000+08:00

"I realised that in life, you need to insist & to be firm so as not to give others the wrong signal that we are "condoning" their wrong actions. It is okay to be kinder to people who are kind to us & to be forgiving to people who are unkind. Nevertheless forgiving doesn't mean one still smile when one is unhappy or to give others the wrong signal that I condone that deed or that I can "accept" that unkind behaviour. Wrong signal of "It is all right to step & run over me/them/others"

Be geniune & true to ourselves, it is OKAY to be unhappy, to be "weak" just don't be false or pretentious. No one benefits. IF unhappy, say, of course, say nicely."

We have many customer who are always very rude, "ganster like" & unkind in my humble opinion. i was always patient with them because i do not want to offend them. In the past, i could not understand why my collegues would at time be "unusually" firm & "unforgiving" towards certain unreasonable customers, at least now i have a little understanding. There is a thin line between kind & advocating/condoning ill will. I now understand why at times, some parents have to be firm with their kids. It is about giving the right signal that "YOU CAN'T"

I delievered some goods to one of such customer this afternoon. While waiting for his payments for the goods, I looked around & found out that they have nice company T-Shirts. Our company wanted to print T-Shirts, and having seen that they have company T-shirts which look nice, I ask him where he printed his shirts. He replied "your place". I laughed & ask again, he replied very impatiently with something like "Can't you see I am serving customer "? I felt embarrased but I still appologised.

As I was waiting for the cheque, in payment of the goods, his staff asked me whether they should be paying for the previous payment or for today's. I found out that he had not yet opened the cheque for the previous payment so I request that they may combine it with today for their convenience of not needing to open two cheques. He replied arrogantly that he need to only pay for the previous one. I explained that we gave him the flexibility because he wasn't around to sign the cheque so he could pay the next time. At that point I was really unhappy with his attitude. He seems to take things for granted. Maybe I have not been sleeping well for the past few nights. I told him that other shops gave us C.O.D as well, even cash. I told him that we give him good C.O.D pricing & his terms of payment is C.O.D. He say "XXX is XXX, other shop is other shop." He even "threaten" me asking me if dare to ask him to open the cheque. I insisted. (I am seldom like this "brave")

I realised that in life, you need to insist & to be firm so as not to give others the wrong signal that we are "condoning" their wrong actions. It is okay to be kinder to people who are kind to us & to be forgiving to people who are unkind. Nevertheless forgiving doesn't mean one still smile when one is unhappy or to give others the wrong signal that I condone that deed or that I can "accept" that unkind behaviour. Wrong signal of "It is all right to step & run over me/them/others"

Be geniune & true to ourselves, it is OKAY to be unhappy, to be "weak" just don't be false or pretentious. No one benefits. IF unhappy, say, of course, say nicely.

May you enjoy health, bliss & happiness.
Amitabha.

TALK, don't give wrong signal Part 1

2005-07-13T21:08:00.000+08:00

"I later realised that hurting back only bring more sorrow. No matter how much others have made us felt uncomfortable, we should try not to make others feel uncomfortable in return. Nobody benefits. Nevertheless, we should also be firm & not give the wrong signal that "you can run over me"... this, a lesson I learn today."

Many incidents happened recently but I would not be able to pen everything down. They are very similar in certain ways, so I would just sum everything up. Really learn a lot. Indeed difficulites are the best time for one to learn something... that is if one can make use of the opportunity to... & that is the most valuable REAL LIFE experiences not some empty theories which one cannot relate to.

My father's "distant" relative from Indonesia came to stay with us last friday. It was sudden. Both my mum & I were not even aware & prepared for their arrival until they came late at night. We thought it is going to be only a day or two. They were here with their son(grandson) who will be here to take his entrance exam. A grandmother, a mother, a 15 year old boy & a 7 year old girl.

My father has to literally sleep on the floor or the sofa in the living room & their family of four have to sleep on my father's bed, sometime shift to the living room as well. We thought it's only going to be a day as they came at night. Nevertheless they stay for almost a week & problems begin to arrise.

My father literally pay for everything, from food to transport & even have to drive them around in his taxi. They will not switch off the lights when sleeping & will use the phone charger litterally every few hours. They will even use the water tub we use to wash our face to soak their underwear, without asking us.

Honestly, I wasn't really bother by all these until my mum kept complainging to me & the "quarrel" between my parents almost put them on the front page of tomorrow's newspaper. My father never even inform us that he will be going to Malacca WHEN his relative is STILL here.

I felt angry with my father, for not being honest enough or brave enough to talk about his problems, worries & concern. He should have ASKED & explained everything on the day of their arrival.

I remember whenever i go for any retreat or classes, the organiser will always inform us the houserules & the guideliness that we should follow before we start anything.

I am also not happy that we should also be aware of our own limitations. It is okay to be kind but know our own limitations & abilities.

I got really angry the third evening when my parents quarrelled & almost got into the front page of the newspaper had I not interrrputed. I blast the speakers away hoping to let the "uninvited guest" understand that everyone is really staying very uncomfortably so what can't they stay in a boarding house to settle their own private matters?

The next day, a couple of "customer's customers" came to have their "faulty" products replaced. They were not very courteous. Irritated, I tried "embarrasing" them by showing them their product wasn't really faulty.

I later realised that hurting back only bring more sorrow. No matter how much others have made us felt uncomfortable, we should try not to make others feel uncomfortable in return. Nobody benefits. Nevertheless, we should also be firm & not give the wrong signal that "you can run over me"... this, a lesson I learn today.

to be continued in part two.

Be the change I want to see - Part 2

2005-07-08T22:02:00.000+08:00

My boss was furious with a supplier for not being honest or open enough this afternoon. They did not deliver out the goods, but kept quiet & only told us what happened, when my boss called up Taiwan. It was about promise, as my boss had promised our customers as well.

I learnt that should I make any mistakes, it is better that I should be honest enough to own up before others find out, by then it would be too late or that it would be more serious.

I also learnt something useful. My boss was rather agitated & made remarks which in my opinion were "harsh".

I realised that when I make mistakes during work, my actions will have reflection on the company & my superior. When I make mistakes outside, people would relate my actions to my parents & teachers & form certain impressions on them. My actions will reflect back on our superior, teachers, parents & beliefs. Thus, there is a need to watch my actions, speech & behaviour to protect the interest of my loved ones.

Especially, the higher position I am, the more impact I would make in my speech & actions.

"Leader in action, not in position."

May u enjoy health, bliss & happiness
Amitabha

Pauses & Punctuations

2005-07-08T21:04:00.000+08:00

"Adding a little bit of sugar will make it better." "加少点糖会更好"
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I was having my lunch as usual at a vegetarian food stall, which I frequent every day. The food there are pretty sweet to me. Out of goodwill, I told the staff that adding a little bit of sugar will make it better. She did not understand me. She literally thought that she should add a little bit(more) sugar. What I meant is they should add LESS sugar WHEN cooking.

My taiwanese boss recommended that I should use: 少加点糖会更好
I came to realised that I could also have changed my phrase to:
少 (放) 点糖会更好.

The thing about communication is that I should communicate to be understood. What is the point of communicating if I should mislead others or say things that confuse others? Instead of getting my points across, I made others more confused.

Its okay to make mistakes, at least I learn something. Having the punctuations & pauses at the right time is very important to ensure what we said could be understood.

Another example:
Heal the world, religions for better peace. Heal the world religions, for better peace.

A close nice friend of mine, whose blog you can check out at http://compassionhasit.blogspot.com
recently make the following statement:

He is a nice guy & through him I learn a lot of things. Something for our benefits.

He wrote:

"To me they were kind and understanding. However, when another friend of mind
recieved an error PM, he was shocked when he read the contents. The mods of that
forum are actually rallying the members around to kick the both of us out."

I was shocked when I read this. Now I understand why the forum admin was so worked up.

1. I was shocked to read the contents of that private message BUT the contents is not about moderators of a forum rallying the members around to kick the both of "us" out.

2. It gives others the impression that I am telling lie or make inference that there is such a problem.

He mentioned that he was tired that night when he wrote that blog. I suggest that he could have written it this way.

"To me they were kind and understanding. However add:(I no longer feel that way). when another friend of mine
recieved an error PM. He was shocked when he read the contents. The message give "me" the impression that the mods of that
forum are actually rallying the members around to kick the both of us out."

Communication is indeed an important skill. Wrong communication can really cause conflicts, misunderstandings & problems. Good communications can forge better relationships & understanding.

May you enjoy health, bliss & happiness
Amitabha

What is the point of complaining & criticising if I can't help or do anything.

2005-07-03T21:51:00.000+08:00

I recently realised that I should complain & criticise less, but think of methods & means to help, if I really care, afterall complaining & criticising doesn't help change much but only cause more irritations to others.

"Be the change I would like to see in the world."

"Others mistakes/weakness can make me unhappy but I can learn not to make others unhappy & not to expect but to accept the way they are.

Others strength/kindness can make me happy & I can learn to make others happy but not to expect & not to be attached."

"If what i do doesn't harm others in anyway, or what others do doesn't harm me in anyway, then why cling on to what others should do what I think they should do? Why cling on to what others want me to do what they think what I should to do?"

"If I myself don't believe in what I do is "right" & wholesome (after much observation & analysis & experience), who would believe me?"

May u enjoy health bliss & happiness
Amitabha

The Phone Call - Part 3

2005-06-23T12:01:00.000+08:00

"Nothing else should deserve my attention more than the attention that I should give to my loved ones. I can BRING NOTHING with me when I leave, but I can choose to either leave happily with sweet memories of a life well lived with those I care & who cares for me or to choose to live a life than may end up feeling empty, unhappy & unfulfiled. A life about to be lost, with lots of enemies & materials left behind from my endless empty chase & pursuit, which may bring comfort to others bodies but never to their ever empty heart & uneasy mind."

I made a phone call to a friend concerning a project during the lunch break. He is having his holiday & is resting at home. Just as the previous conversations we had on phone, he will at times be eager to put his message across & cut off the conversation. I had told him about this issue & I am not going to do it again in case he gets irritated by it. He is a nice guy, maybe he is thinking I may not be free too & do not want to take up my working time. Whatever the reasons, the issue itself is no longer important, what caught my attention is my next thought. I made a phone call to my mother immediately after he cut off the line... to ask if she has taken her lunch... an action which I probably only did twice in my life. My mother was surprised & little bit stunned. She asked if I am feeling okay.

For many years, I have always been too eager to cut off my mother's phone call. Our conversation don't always last for more than a minute. My mother cares for me a lot & used to called me rather often on the phone to ask for my location should I come home after 7:30pm. I stay with my parents. I will always reach home before 8pm for dinner & on certain days not more than 10pm should I attend any courses or seminars. I knocked off from work at around 7pm. A little over attached, over protective & paranoid I would say for her. I understand she cares for me a lot, but I understood the danger of becoming to attached to a person. I have told her to live for herself & that her life should be based on things more worthwhile, say doing community services or other things that can benefit herself & others. Honestly, I cannot imagine how she would react should I leave this world before her (you never know when you will go). I want her to live for herself.

The conversation with my friend has made me realised, regardless of the intention, the act of cutting others conversation or rushing others through the conversation can cause others to feel hurt or be irritated. "hurt not others in ways u find hurtful." Are we really that busy, that we can spend an hour at the cinema with our friends or an hour at the lunch with our clients, that we cannot spend just a few minutes to talk to our loved ones & ask how are they? Do we really took our loved ones for granted, that they will always be there?

I will try from now, to always be patient to listen to others, especially those who care for me & who I cared for. I will try to put what I am doing aside & to be attentive unless I am really so busy that I need to handle the other matter immediately.

May u enjoy health, bliss & happiness
Amitabha

The Phone Call - Part 2

2005-06-22T19:29:00.000+08:00

[Hightlights]

"Conflicts arrises, because people fail to COMMUNICATE. One party fail to give the other party a chance to talk about his/her concern, the other party fail to communicate properly for the other party to understand his/her concern, adddress any misconceptions, misunderstanding or false view both party have of each other. "

I made a phone call to a good friend concerning a project yesterday afternoon. He seemed to me eager to put his message across & cut off the conversation before I could even finish my message. Out of concern, I asked if he was busy or have anything that is troubling him, but he replied that he hasn't any. It was not the first time he spoke before some of our other friends could finish. With goodwill, I explained that it would be courteous that he learn to listen to others & give them the chance to finish their messages before he speaks. Listening attentatively & understanding what others need would make a person more successful in life. If you don't listen to others, chances others would not listen to you too. I made this mistake & of course am still making it, but at least I saw the benefits & am learning to improve. To me, at least according to what I heard from him, he had been going through a lot of tough times. He is a very nice guy, but few people misunderstood him. The many unhappiness made him very stressed up & caused him to have a low self esteem in my humble opinion. I care a lot for him & I attributed the lack of listening & understanding to be one of the factors, so I would like him to benefit from the "secret of sucess"- listen.

I realised later, that his phone battery was weak & that he would like to be in front of the computer before he spoke to me. The misunderstanding could have been avoided had he told me earlier, not until I ask him why he did not let me finish. This means, I could loose an opportunity to learn an important lesson as well. I should thank him for that. He help me realised an important word - COMMUNICATION.

Conflicts arrises, because people fail to COMMUNICATE. One party fail to give the other party a chance to talk about his/her concern, the other party fail to communicate properly for the other party to understand his/her concern, adddress any misconceptions, misunderstanding or false view both party have of each other. Some people would rather keep the problems to themselves. This affects their life & may cause others to misunderstand. As what John Grey, author of "Man are from Mars, Women are from Venus", mentioned, men do not want to talk about their problems, but women does. Women may get confused why her partner neglected her & refused to share his burden. Women on the other hand may get irritated when her partner refused to listen to her problems but give unneccessary advices. Women often have an answer but wanted someone to accertain it. This confused men thinking they cannot help. Men wants to solve problems, women wants to talk about problems.

Communication is a skill. Effective communication makes a lot of difference. Sometimes, our seemingly kind intention or kind behaviour may be seemed to others as unkind due to our lack of communication and understanding. Communicate to understand & communicate to be understood if you want to be succesful in life.

"There is no "right" or "kind" act, only act "rightly" or "kindly"."

Meaning:
"There is no action or intention, clearly labeled or universally accepted as "kind" or "unkind", "right" or "wrong". It is only when both the intention of benefitting the well being of the other party, without any selfish thoughts, personal benefits or gain and the action(behaviour) of benefit the other party at the right moment, that that the intention and actions may only be deemed kind or "right". Wholesome would be a better word to use.

May you enjoy health, bliss & happiness.

Conflict

2005-06-18T21:45:00.000+08:00

Highlights:

"Others strength are for me to learn, to find out & to remember.
Their flaws are for me to learn, to keep quiet & to remind myself."

Someone once shared ith me, regardless of business, relationship or what we are doing, "the moment "i" think "i" am beginning to do well, the moment I am beginning not to do well". Everything can change. If we want to have a nice plant who can bear nice fruits for us tomorrow, we need to continue watering it every day with care & concern, even after it has bore fruits for us.

"不在乎天长地久、知足、珍惜、感恩有"

Two groups of friends quarreled with each other recently. Girl vs Girl, Guy vs Guy. It is tough... Even close friends from the same sex can have conflict...
(if you want to know what happen, can read on below)

As I was busy reflecting, trying to learn from their experiences, I end up having conflict with another close friend. The only thing certain is uncertainty. I may know tons of theory, but a single spark of ego, pride, embarrasement, deluded view of wanting to help & not being appreciated, can puncture everything I have learnt or built up. I always believe in not showing or losing my temper in front of others, but it certainly is no easy task. Difficult to practise. That is why, I am learning & cultivating. It is only when one realised that one is not doing well enough & can improve, will one starts improving.

LOTs of stuffs for me to learn from, may this blog be useful to you & me in our journey. "No being is an island."

The half empty glass need not always be negative & half full glass, positive. Negative means EXPECT the worse to come, positive means EXPECT the best to come. One may end up in disappointment, the other already disappointed.

Someone once shared ith me, regardless of business, relationship or what we are doing, "the moment "i" think "i" am beginning to do well, the moment I am beginning not to do well". Everything can change. If we want to have a nice plant who can bear nice fruits for us tomorrow, we need to continuously water it every day with care & concern, even after it has bore fruits for us.

A relationship should it be fruitful & patience, forgiving & tolerant. Who has not made mistakes or hurt anyone accidentally. Thus it is natural to be hurt/felt hurt or to have conflicts due to each having its own belief & perception.

Pride & ego are weeds, that will suck the relationship dry. If both parties are hot headed & not willing to compromise, it can be difficult...

"Others strength are for me to learn, find out & to remember
their flaws, for me to learn, keep quiet & to remind myself."

So what really happened? Read on if you are interested.
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(Girl VS Girl)
Girl A: Girl B flared up with boyfriend. Girl A out of goodwill, try to point out Girl B's fault, end up getting scolded by Girl B.

Girl B: Girl A is insensitive, speaks her mind & doesn't cares about others feelings.

"Innocent" until proven "guilty". "Guilty until proven innocent" is never my cup of tea. People always tell me to listen to both side of the story, I beg to differ, trust me, nothing is more confusing than that. Where possible, try to listen to third parties, as they can give less bias comments. Never BELIEVE any harsh remarks, no matter how true they seems. It is natural in any conflict, especially amongs friends, people just want to shoot each other down, gain "your" support & they will DO anything to make "you" believe them even pulling "you" into it. *shudder*

Who has not made mistakes in life, hurt anyone or embarrased anyone due to our inexperience & ignorance, I should learn to be more forgiving & patience, I can't expect others to be perfect to be saint or buddhisattvas.

We need to learn to be more tatical & senstive. No one likes to be embarrased especially in front of their loved ones. Do not embarrase the person by saying his/her flaws if front of others especially his/her love ones. If needed talk it quiety with her politely, but say it from the view point of asking for suggestions, like: "just curious, pardon me... don't you feel you might be a little bit harsh...?" (Anyway, if it is between other people especially boyfriends, better just learn & "shut up", UNLESS we have been asked...sincerely... trust me, you don't want to be messed up in relationship conflicts)

"Others strength are for me to learn, to find out & to remember. Their flaws are for me to learn, to keep quiet & to remind myself."

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(Guy VS Guy)
(suddenly realised too many to list... that i lost track too *appologise* =)

Friends complaint: Guy B knows his faults, always appologise after making the SAME mistakes of hurting his friends, but what is the point of repeating it so often.

I conflict with the same friend this afternoon, surprisingly the one who complained to me & ironically the one whom I always reflect life with.

The only thing certain is uncertainty.

He said something that embarrased me which shake my ego & pride. Maybe he wasn't wrong to say that, but the ways he said it made me feel cheap & that nobody wants my stuffs & that only through him can I sell the thing to... anyway, that is not important, what is important is that I realised, I have LOTs of EGO & Pride, can be embarrased, & be deluede by falseview of wanting to help with expectations of returns.

"When there is expectations, there is disappointment."

May you enjoy health, bliss & happiness
Amitabha

The Phone Call - Part 1

2005-06-10T13:39:00.000+08:00

[Highlights]

"... many of us want to be understood, but we fail to understand others or communicate well to be understood. For we do not want to understand others, fail to understand others & fail to communicate well to let others understand us, others do not want to understand us. For we feel others do not want to understand us, fail to understand us & fail to communicate well for us to understand them, we do not want to understand others. Thus others do not understand us, we do not understand others. The vicious cycle continues."

Learn to communicate, communicate to understand.

"... many of us want to be listened, but we fail to listen to others or communicate well to be listened. For we do not want to listen to others, fail to listen to others & fail to communicate well to let others listen to us, others do not want to listen us. For we feel others do not want to listen to us, fail to listen to us & fail to communicate well for us to listen to them, we do not want to listen to others. Thus others do not listen to us, we do not listen to others. The vicious cycle continues."

Learn to listen, listen to learn.

"Learn to listen, listen to communicate, communicate
to understand, understand to support...
Support to understand, understand
to communicate, communicate to listen, listen to
learn."

Listen, Communicate, Understand & Support.

[The Phone Call - Part 1]

I have not been feeling well the past few days, with problems of my own, both health & emotional aspects. Have been sleeping late, & doing "stupid" things thus health been bad. A friend called to ask how am i feeling, but fail to listen, instead start giving advice, said his problems & how he too had similiar problems, i became annoyed. It was not the first time. Happend many times. Years ago, I cannot understand why some people especially the ladies, according to John Grey(Men are from mars, women are from venus), over react to certain things. For the guys, when we have problems, we refuse to talk & just want to "solve". For the ladies, we they have problems, they want to talk & don't want it to be "solved", they want to be HEARD. In the past, I cannot understand why people can stir up a storm in a little tea cup. I know that should conflict arrises, I should think of the best way to "solve" it & since I cannot change others, I should change(do the necessary adjustment) myself. Nevertheless, I should understand that EVEN IF i can do the necessary change & adjustment, think positive, tolerate whatsoever i cannot EXPECT others to do it... listen not advice.

I made the mistakes, hurt others, now i taste my own "medicine". Nevertheless, a good & valuable lesson learn. Learn through mistakes & through problems(other's mistakes).

[Lesson No. 1]

His/her problems may seem light to "me" or from a 3rd party point of view. True, some of us, may see things from a distorted point of view, exaggerate a little, or trying to "stir up a little storm in a little teacup. Yet, I NEED to understand that "he/she", being in that position as the actual party involved may be suffering emotionally. Suffering which we being an outsider cannot fully understand. We need to ACKNOWLEDGE & RESPECT that. We may not feel that way, doesn't mean they won't. If you really care, RESPECT his/her problem is VERY SERIOUS & deserves all attention. Do not expect others to be able to handle problem well like "you/me" or to be able to let go easily like "you/me".

[Lesson No. 2]

Do not say "my" problem is equally worse or I had a worser problem. Doing so, I am cutting off the convseration, without listening or giving the other party a chance to speak up more about his/her worries, problems & concern. I am indirectly implying & "insulting" him/her. Giving him/her the idea that his/her problem does not deserve the highest attention, that there are equal or worser problems. Many of us may make this mistake, our intention is kind that we want to make the other person felt better by explaining that actually it is not serious. Maybe it really wasn't that serious, but remember, many of us want to be treated serious, but many of us fail to treat others serious, because we feel it is not serious. If you really care, RESPECT his/her problem is VERY SERIOUS & deserves all attention. Do not expect others to be able to handle problem well like "you/me" or to be able to let go easily like "you/me".

[Lesson No. 3]

People share with me their problems because they want to be heard, else they would be keeping quiet. More than often people may already have answers. They just want support, to be accertain their choice is right. No matter what, they do not want to "waste" their "already fatigue & confused mind" to listen to my problems. I should not add to their problems with my problems.

[Lesson No. 4]

More than often people may already have answers. They just want to be accertain their choice is right. Do not give unneccessary advice even if they ask you. Do not make their feel worse, by scolding them why they should not do this, or why they were not right, reminding them, they are "wrong". Leave that for another day, until they have calm down & are ready to learn from their mistakes.

End of the day

Listen, Communicate, Understand & Support.

Do the right things right. The wings of a bird

2005-05-29T22:14:00.000+08:00

Many things happened these few years. At least I get to learn many things during these tough period, rather than being unaware, insensitive or numb. The experiences are beyond what I can describe or write in this blog.

"The road to hell are paved with good intentions." - What is good?
"No one cares how much you know, until they know you care." - until they know...
""right"" behaviours & actions are like raft, to be abandoned when you have crossed the river, no point clinging on.

- all behaviours & actions have positive & negative effects & results - so might as well see & emphasize on WHAT caused the good points & LESSEN the negative. Critics allow me the chance to learn, but I should learn not to criticise. I should learn to respect & appreciate others, but never to expect to be respected or to be appreciated.

- Right(Kind) Intention is important so is Right behaviour. Right intention is the start to right behaviour & wisdom is what makes the behaviour right. Like the wings of a bird, can't do without either.

- It is not much the behaviour, but the intention & wisdom behind it, without either, the behaviour & action becomes clumsy & may caused problems. No point clinging on to the ""right"" behaviour, as it too is not absolute & may lead to problem. Like a raft, to be abandoned, when you have crossed the river.

May u enjoy health & happiness

to be changed & edited.

2005-05-26T22:11:00.000+08:00

to be updated...

My thoughts:
"损人不利已 why do something that doesn't benefit myself yet at the same time cause hurt to others?"

"If you love someone would you hurt someone? If I "love" you & cause you to be hurt, more than likely, you would rather I not "love" you."

"we have choices, it is not that we have no choice that we must eat it, if not we cannot survive."

"as a human being, I can make the choice."

"if it is meant to be eaten, why is it struggling on the hot plate, it wasn't struggling, when in the cup, it wasn't struggling when I put them back into the pond..."

"at least cook it when it is dead, not when it is alive & struggling." how would you feel if i cook your family member?

"if it is used to save life or for medical purposes, i really have no choice, problem it isn't.

"try eating it raw with no garnishing or try boiling it, do you feel anything.?
"is that not a life? struggling to survive?"
"does it mean my life as a human is more important, i deserve to fight for survival, it doesn't?
"does it mean i can feel pain, it doesn't
"i cannot control others from hurting, but I can control myself from hurting.
"vegetarian doesn't makes me a better person, it is the least i can do to lessen the damages & negative impacts i have on the environment. An environment i depend on my survival. An environment that has nourish me & given me life. It is the least I can do to pay back my gratitude and indebt.

"how can i live with someone who can't treasure life?

http://www.blogcn.com/user28/foxfish/index.html

1. I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you. 我爱你不是因为你是谁，而是我在你面前可以是谁。 2. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry. 没有男人或女人是值得你为他流眼泪，值得的那一位，不会要你哭。 3. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. 那人不是你所想般爱你，但不代表那人不是全心全意地爱你。 4. A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart. 一个真正的朋友是向着你伸手，触动你心灵的人。 5. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them. 挂念一个人最差的方式，就是你坐在他身旁，而知道你不能拥有他。 6. Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile. 就算你不快乐也不要皱眉，因为你永不知道谁会爱上你的笑容。 7. To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world. 在世界里你可能只是某人，但对某人你可能是全世界。 8. Don't waste your time on a man/woman, who isn't willing to waste their time on you. 不要花时间在一个不会花时间在你身上的人。 9. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful. 可能神要我们在遇到那位对的人之前先遇上一些错的人，让我们遇到那位对先生/对小姐时懂得珍惜。 10. Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened. 不要因为完结而哭，要为曾经发生而微笑。 11. There's always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful about who you trust next time around. 这个世界永远也会有一些伤害你的人，你要做的就是继续去信人和小心你下次信的人。 12. Make yourself a better person and know who you are before you try and know someone else and expect them to know you. 在你尝试了解其他人和盼望其他人明白你之前，先把你自己变成一个更好的人和了解你自己。 13. Don't try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to. 不要太努力去找，最好的东西是在你最预计不到的时候出现。 REMEMBER: WHATEVER HAPPENS, HAPPENS FOR A REASON. 紧记: 所有事也是因果循环的。

2005-05-09T08:25:00.000+08:00

Courtesy to Hans:

"Alike a wandering explorer chancing upon a treasure lain kingdom,
A huge library with paths leading to boundless knowledge & wisdom,
Who encourages others to step forth & benefit,
Yet himself fails to use, understand, inherit or benefit.

How the heart of others I may touch, if yet have I touched the heart of my own?
How may others I liberate, if I have yet myself been liberated?
How may others I help, if I can nay help me?"

"I told her for the first time, she doesn't understand, I told him for the second time, he doesn't understand, I told them for the third time... I understand..."

2005-05-08T23:04:00.000+08:00

"Life is like a book. Each day is a new page. May your book be a bestseller with adventures to tell, lessons to learn and tales of good deeds to remember."

http://www.bcgsearch.com/crc/credibility.html
http://www.healthcare-informatics.com/issues/2005/02_05/glaser.htm
"Having integrity means you are true to your values and beliefs--that they are reflected in your actions and words."

"Authority: To be credible, you have to "know your stuff." Your recommendations have to be thoughtful and well reasoned....A person with authority delivers information and observations in terms that listeners comprehend and that reflect their culture, challenges and vocabulary. If people do not understand you or believe that your "facts" do not mesh with their world, they tune you out and you have lost your authority."

"Good relationships require working hard to define solutions that address the goals of others as well as your own. Discussions lead to effective outcomes, not winners and losers."

http://www.drrobertbrooks.com/writings/articles/9909.html

教导而不阻扰 Educate not Excoriate

2005-05-02T23:17:00.000+08:00

教导而不阻扰 Educate not Excoriate

"Every 3 seconds a child dies of starvation somewhere in the world."

According to statistics, Singaporeans consume more than 130,000 tones of fishes a year. Numbers for other animals that are being consumed are equally high and rising steadily.

Besides being consumed for food, animals are also being used for other consumer products. These products include leather, fur, oil, soap, cosmetics products, in laboratory experiments and many other commercial products. Animals are sentient beings with feelings like you and me. They experience pain, joy, fear and have the will to live. They do not want to be separated from their love ones or be held captive. Billions of sentient beings captured for consumptions are doom to die. They loose freedom, undergo tremendous amount of pain, trauma and suffering. In many instances, they even have to suffer from a slow and painful death.

Unless a person is a vegan today or at the least a vegetarian, more than likely he or she may have indirectly attributed to the deaths of millions of sentient beings each year. Even then, it does not mean being a vegan or a vegetarian does not cause any harm, just that it helps brings the harm caused down to the bare minimum. Not forgetting, as long as we use papers, we have indirectly caused trees to be chopped, animals loosing their home and lives, indirectly causing global warming and other problems. Our daily activities are already causing far too much damages to the environment. The damages caused by unskillful liberation are almost insignificant. Abandonment of pets or animals meant to be kept or sold as pets should never be considered as an act of liberation. It is thus incorrect or bias to say, animals are caught for liberation or that liberation cause death or damages to the environment. The consumer market is already far too huge. Fish farms owners can easily sell the fish to restuarants, stalls and supermarkets. Neither is liberation about personal gain or benefits, if it is, it is not liberation. Due to lack of understanding, people criticize liberation without really knowing what it is.

Medicines cause problems if used with little knowledge or under improper conditions. Recommending the use of contraceptives or aids prevention does not mean we are advocating casual sex. Road accidents are currently the ninth leading cause of death globally. Dr. Adnan Hyder once said, by 2020, road accidents will be the third leading cause of death, behind heart disease and deaths linked to mental illness. We cannot stop usage instead we educate the right way of doing it. We cannot stop people from wasting earth resources, but we can choose to recycle or educate. Even if we stop the use of contraceptives today, that is if we think it indirectly advocates casual sex, people will still have casual sex and there will be more problems. Even if today, no one liberate, millions of sentient beings worldwide will still be consumed daily. In fact, if no one does anything to improve but only criticize those who are trying to improve the situation, it can only get worse. It is the minority, who try to free pets or exotic animals meant to be kept as pets, thinking it is liberation. These people have kind intentions, so do those who criticize liberation, but they both need education. Liberation should be done for animals whose lives are in possible danger.

Never easy to expect a change in others unless they want to, or at least not overnight, those who understood the amount of trauma, pain, torment and suffering these sentient beings go through, will at their own expenses, free them from more suffering, hopefully before they get slaughtered. In the process, they learn or even help educate others to treasure and respect the lives of others.

Skillful liberation is in itself an education. Taking a life is easy, saving a life requires greater amount of knowledge and work to be effective. Rarely would someone turn vegan or be a vegetarian overnight. Skillful Liberation is saving lives with right knowledge and requires a certain amount of wisdom. Skillful liberation does help to give a lot of animals a second chance to live. It teaches and advocates kindness and compassion, to respect and treasures the lives of every sentient being, including the lives of our own. Through liberation, we can learn, practice and develop more compassion and wisdom. When there is wisdom, compassion and equanimity, one will choose to be a vegan or be a vegetarian. People who have gone for liberation or have taken the effort to liberate for the sake of the animals and not for their own selfish benefits will more than likely turn vegan or at least be a vegetarian. “Educate to liberate and liberate to educate”.

Being vegan or being vegetarian is more than just about being healthy. It concerns a larger picture pertaining to world issues. It affects every one of us, you and me. We never have enough resources or may have heard complaint of inflation and rise in prices of basic necessities, because unknowingly we have wasted a lot of resources. At certain point in time, certainly, anyone may have heard of others complaining about working harder and harder, paying more and more. World hunger and many other world and environmental problems are closely linked to meat production.

Meat production is grossly wasteful of our Earth's limited resources and what we get out of it is a multitude of health problems. It is impossible to list everything here.

According to sources,
"Osteoporosis due to calcium loss from bones is mainly due to the sulphur content in meat and casein protein in milk that cause calcium to be lost in the urine - the countries with the highest meat and dairy consumption are those with the highest levels of brittle bones. 50% of people do not have the enzyme to digest milk properly and milk allergy is related to asthma and eczema. Meat eaters have double the rate of Alzheimer’s disease as Vegans and Vegetarians.

Every 3 seconds a child dies of starvation somewhere in the world. Every year, 30,000,000 people die of starvation. If all Americans became vegetarian, it would free enough grain to feed 600,000,000 people (the population of India). Foods are not fed to humans but to livestock.

It takes 16lbs of high protein Soy to produce 1 lb of beef. 20 vegetarians can live off the land required by one meat eater. Due to overgrazing 850,000,000 people live on land threatened by desertification and over 230,000,000 already live on land so severely uncertified that they are unable to sustain their existence and face imminent starvation.

25 gallons of water to produce 1lb of wheat and 2500 gallons to produce 1lb of meat. The water used to produce 10 lbs of steak is equivalent to the average consumption of water for an entire household for an entire year. Not forgetting, gallons of waters are used to wash away blood and wastes.

The 1,300,000,000 cattle in the world emit 60,000,000 tons of methane per year (methane is a greenhouse gas and leads to global warming)."

These are but just some of the problems. There are too much more to mention. As we are all inter-dependent, these problems affect you and me and the future of our loved ones.

If we can learn to share Earth's limited resources with one another, world hunger and many other world and environmental problems will be significantly reduced. There seem never enough, because we wasted a lot and are never contented. Only by respecting and caring for the lives of others, can we enjoy bliss, peace and strength to live well. Despite being more advance in technology, we have more problems, because people fail to understand each other. Instead of helping others to improve, they criticize and put down others immediately.

Just as recycling is to wastage, so is liberation to animal consumption. Use skillful liberation as an education. It’s potential and benefits if used right like medicine, is beyond imaginations. "Educate to liberate, liberate to educate."

More sources:
http://www.flex.com/~jai/articles/101.html
http://www.vegetarian-society.org
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教导而不阻扰

据统计，新加坡平均每年消耗超过130，000吨鱼，约每天356，000公斤。其他动物数据也相当高，不断上升。因此“为放生而捉”，这样的批评是不成立的。改变他人不是件容易的事，也很难在一夜间，希望全部的人吃素。了解被捕捉的生命，所承受的痛苦，有心人士，自掏腰包，在他们被屠杀前，放了他们。在过程中学会，甚至教育他人珍稀以及尊敬爱护他人的生命。

服药不恰当会出现问题。教人用避孕防护措施，也不等于是提倡他人滥交。交通意外造成的死亡人数是各种意外伤害事故中最多的一种，但我们不阻扰，而教导，给予正确的知识。

放生是种教育，从放生中得到智慧以及培养慈悲。放生是戒除众生的痛苦，是救命，救和你我一样，有情，有泪，会怕，希望快乐，有生命的众生。珍稀生命爱护健康的人自然会吃素。

吃素不但健康，快乐，吃素也保护地球生态，因为肉食而产生的动物饲养业会给地球带来严重的后果：水源的枯竭，粮食的短缺，土地的匮乏，森林的破坏，大气的污染。

据北大素食文化研究会网站原文。

在中美洲和南美洲，每生产一磅牛肉需要破坏掉20平米左右的雨林。此外，每生产一磅牛肉就需要5421加仑的水量，而出产1磅小麦只要需要25加仑水。在1英亩优质土地上，可以生产出40，000磅土豆或10，000磅豆子，但只能生产250磅牛肉。美国几近一半的水量都耗费在种植饲料养牛只和其他的家畜。

若能把饲养动物的所需转而种植为人食用的农作物，则将可更有效地利用地球资源。比如，按照Worldwatch Institute的官方数据，假设美国人的肉食量减少10%，由此省下的土地，水源和能量就足以养活4000万人。

根据WHO提供的数据：目前，全球约有1.7亿遭受营养不良，2000年因缺粮造成的死亡人数达340万。平均每年有300万人饿死。尽管如此，在美国，约80%的谷物被用来作为动物的饲料，中国也有约20%的谷物用做饲料，而全球平均有近四成的谷物被用来作为动物的饲料。

Beatles乐队成员之一Paul McCartney的妻子Linda McCartney在《New Frontier》杂志上发表的文章《The Path of the Vegetarian》中写到： “…根据联合国机构的统计数据，这个星球上每2.3秒就有1个儿童死于饥饿，从你开始到读完这个句子这段时间，死去4个孩子，因为他们没有够吃的东西。

如果还有什么令人信服的素食主义论据的话，这就是了，因为如果我们不在肉类生产上浪费我们的农业资源，这些儿童不会死。

当许多人空腹死去的同时，我们却浪费那么多去得到这么一点儿。我们用16磅谷物喂养家畜生产仅仅1磅牛肉。我们拿美国80%的玉米喂养家畜，而不是人。…”

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Wishing u happiness
Colin Kee
http://everymoment.has.it
"hurt not others in ways u find hurtful"

what do you want?

2005-04-19T14:13:00.000+08:00

"unless u know what they want to know & what they want you to know, people don't care what you know, until they know you care for them as an individual."

Help... yes, I need help...

2005-04-18T21:30:00.000+08:00

"When someone has a why to live for, he can bear almost any how" - Nietzsche

"I know alot, but I understand little."

"communication is about 2 party, what's the point in talking if the other party cannot understand or misinterpreted...?"

"am I really that "not worth loving" sort of person... who dies on the street, people would think I am blocking the road...?

I can easily give advice, yet I can't get myself out of my current frustration, sadness & mental fatigue.... am currently reading these sites... seems to answer a lot of my questions. Hope these helps...

http://www.emotionalhealth.co.uk/depression/basicneeds.htm
http://www.cyberlepsy.com/selfesteem.htm
http://www.region.peel.on.ca/health/commhlth/selfest/process.htm
http://www.viewsunplugged.com/VU/20040617/rajgopalNidamboor_pity.shtml
Think it is time, I drop everything & re learn everthing. I really need to access my strength & weakness. Give me 10 yrs..

My feelings
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Since small, I always felt a need to be useful, to be liked, to exist with a purpose, I wanted to excel, nevertheless, people around doubted my well intention, from that day on, I decided to shut myself out from others, I do not want to hurt others, or to be hurt by others... I am a failure when it comes to understanding others, their seemingly complex, fragile, easily offended mind... No matter how good the intention, the response is negative. No one cares if I exist or not... I too, am ashamed of this thinking.... when you want to help, people think you are trying to gain something... maybe I don't undersand others need for fresh air & space... what some called privacy... or need to feel good... of course, things will be much brighter, if I can give, without expecting anything in return, nevertheless, I can't, I, human, needs attention. Be fair, is not the nice clothes, makeup, a need for positive attention...

http://www.emotionalhealth.co.uk/depression/basicneeds.htm

In my teens(upper secondary sch life)... having came in touch with a few texts from Buddhism, I started to learn to see life from another perspective... to 1st understand my fault & weakness. Why like this... I learn to care for others feeling, in doing so, hurt others less, so that I would not be hurt, to genuinely give & not expect return, to be useful to others, to live a life meaningfully & full. To treasure life & make full good use of it.... I thought I understand, but I didn't...

When I entered Polytechnic, at least things looked slightly better from the start, I joined serveral clubs. Vocal club(singing), community service club, computer club & I make valuable friends, learnt many things, I learnt to be tactful in speech... nevertheless, I got carried away... or maybe what I learnt wasn't thorough enough, understanding not deep enough. I had yet drop the need for attention, to be wanted/needed, to feel useful... nevertheless, lacking in wisdom & clouded by ignorance, I thought "showing off my strength/good points/what I know" can help others or to gain attention from others but in reality, no one seems to care about me, the more I wanted them to.... the more lonely I felt... things became worse, when I try to like a girl, but got "verbally hit" right in the face "brutally". Maybe I don't understand others' need for privacy. All I wanted is to try to know her more... but I never did anything more than to just ask her friend, whom reluctantly never told me, & I never persist... maybe just a birthday gift through postage, & new year greeting cards... nothing more than that, I have a soft skin... nevertheless, her letter in replied, really tear a hole in my eyes & heart. The pain is still there...

http://www.pbsconsulting.com/articles/greatleaderscare.htm

"As the old cliche goes, “No one cares how much you know until they know how much you care.” It would have probably been more accurately stated if we adapted the cliche to read, “No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care about him or her as an individual.”

It is tiring, indeed, when I gave advices, those "goody goody" ones, people will think I am "holier than thou", self righteous... Guess, these people teach me a very important lesson... the need to really understand/care/think/feel/sense/whatever... how the listener would interprete, afterall communication is about 2 party, what's the point in talking if the other party cannot understand or misintepreted or take it negatively...? Guess, 2 shutup, & maybe answer a little when asked for advice, can only present "wholesome" & unwholesome points & let the party choose, never try to advice or judge... will get bite back... people need to roam... they don't want to feel stupid....

Guess good intention is not enough, the need to think how other's would react, but that is very tiring, nevertheless a good skill to pickup to succeed in this world... Comeon, I learnt to care, but i failed & honestly NO ONE care if I exist, & I do care that, "no one care if I exist"...

Maybe I should learn to let go, & let the world turn by itself, go to a good corner & mediate bliss & peace.. actually I don't think that is the right interpretation of the teachings, my fault, but I am beginning to come to a point when I really am to tired to love. What they really want? Am I really that sort of person, who die on the street, no one really care, or deserve any attention...

The girls I liked, the things, they like, I try to get for them, I tried giving, but yet not a single reciprocate... am I really that "not worth loving" sort of person... who dies on the street, people would think I am blocking the road...?

In my daily work, I really felt "under performed", that is I cannot do the things, I would naturally do better, or have the chance to realise my full potential. I can do many things, I am exteremly good in computers, very confident, yet my strength in these areas cannot help me get a job in my area of strength... maybe I am good, others are better....

Yes, I really need help, but i come to a point, that there's no one who can help me or offer me valuable advices... There are some close friends, but I do not want to tell them these, I told some(those I want attention from), waiting for reply, because I don't want them to worry for me... Yes, I want attention, but not negative attentions, or attentions, which makes me look stupid especially from people I care... yes, putting up a strong front.. when I am weak...

Confused huh? let me do some reading up & will see how... thanks goodness, I know(at least a little bit) about Buddhism or else I really would have gone crazy...

hmm a little side note:
"Self-esteem is not based on external success and failures, it is internal. Though appreciated, people with high self-esteem do not require approval, understanding, or positive reinforcement from others."
http://www.cyberlepsy.com/selfesteem.htm
"Self-esteem does not mean feeling superior to others. Those with high self-esteem are not pretentious or arrogant; pretentiousness is a disguise for deficiency.
Self-esteem is not the same as pride. High self-esteem says, “I am worthy of life.” Pride says, “I have” or “I am.”"

Wishing u happiness

Just for one meal.

2005-04-12T21:12:00.000+08:00

The following is what I post in reply to a forum talk on vegetarian & the cruelty to animals... Someone replied saying these animals are meant to be eaten & consumed.

"Hurt not others in ways u find hurtful"

No beings including myself wants to be in pain. Loosing our love ones. Imagine the many who die just to satisfy the taste bud, satisfy one's palate.
I am a vegeatrian since 2001, but I can EAT from any stores even macdonald & still be a vegetarian in practise. I choose to do so.

Being a vegetarian is not inconvenient to others & myself. It is being about NOT NEEDING TO. There are TOO many food & fruits around. I have never done any good thing in my life, hurting others including myself, in many ways. the least I can do is to minimise other beings pain, who too, wants to live, who felt pain & distress.

Being vegetarian, not will just bring health & more happiness, it also involves environmental issues, like land, weather, etc. Poor countries sold their food to richer countries, not to feed human, but animals meant for consumption. Animals in captive consume a lot more.

No beings like you & me, want to be kept in one place for the whole life & later to be slaughtered a death which is not quick, but slow & painful.

If by simply, being selfish & ignorant, to claim, that they are meant to exist for our consumption, try letting yourself & your love ones get eaten up by Anaconda & crocodiles. Remember no beings has the right to inflict pain on another & every being has the right to be happy at no cost of others.

There are too many nice fruits & food around. Its whether you want to or not.

Wishing u happiness

fools

2005-04-12T20:32:00.000+08:00

Several cases happened around recently, but I lack the "wisdom" & knowledge to understand. Till then.

One thing I can be certain, others are like mirror with reflection of myself. if I see others as fool, actually I am the fool.

"Blinded are the ones who don't appreciate others love & kindness, even blinded are the ones who blindly chased after this people"

The caterpillar, the snail & the deers

2005-04-12T19:02:00.000+08:00

As i was on my way to work after a long MC, from bronchitis infection, I saw a wasp flying past, carrying a caterpillar. I know the wasp is going to lay eggs inside the caterpilla & its larvae will eat the caterpilla from inside out, killing the caterpillar slowly & painfully. Anyone can understand how it would have felt like to be the caterpillar, but for sure, a hundred times more painful. Almost everyone has felt pain before, mentally & phsyically. You named it, pain, humiliation, frustration, etc... For sure, pain.

http://www.pbs.org/wnet/nature/alienempire/battlezone.html
"Imagine being eaten alive, from inside out! That is what happens to any caterpillar unlucky enough to become the nest for an egg laid by a caterpillar wasp. The wasps lay their egg in or on the caterpillar. The egg then hatches into a larva that consumes its landlord."

We(I) being human, with emotions, feelings & perception, tend to be annoyed, irritated, traumatised easily by the slightest sickness, unhappiness or unfairness that happened to ourselves & our love ones. Have one really stop to think, that there are more beings out there who are suffering in distress & silence a lot more than us(me).

These beings although non human clearly have feelings of pain. They would struggle. They too just like everyone, want to live, to be happy. No beings likes the feelings of their children taken aways from them. I remember a cat seeking for its kitten desperately from floors to floors. No beings like the feelings of being eaten alive, slowly dying & suffering from the pain.

When compared, the past little humiliation or suffering(which I perceived to be) is actually nothing.

Remembered seeing a few snails with almost nothing much left but shells, with a lot of red ants beside them trying to open them up. The remaining poor snails, struggling to protect themselves by hiding in their shell, but how long can they hide?

There was also documentary I once watched, when I was a child, showing a herd of deer & their children, about 30 of them, crossing a river, but only two to three managed to reach the other shore, the rest, being eaten up by crocodiles. The river was a bloody mess.

Many of us are probably too numb to take notice of all these little things that happened around all the time. The unfortunate. Labelling them as "nature" / "natural". We(many of us) indulged & pursued for what we labeled as "important" & take no notice of what seems a "waste of time" real life moments.

Is pursuing fame, money, power that important, that we take no notice of the LIVEs around us. Come on, it's not how much money or fame you have, its the little concern & little help you can give to the people around who sincerely need them. Don't forget, we can BRING nothing with us, but we can choose to leave PEACEFULLY(healthily), CONTENTED, with people around us, not shedding tears but joys & smile, that you have lived your life to the fullest, most meaningful.

"Health's d highest gain
Contentment's d greatest bliss
The trustworthy r d best kinsmen
Nirvana's d greatest bliss"

Wishing u happiness
Amitabha
Faith, Vow, Practise
Amitabha